How do i prove i am being stalked?
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Long story short, i have an unwanted admirer (for the last 5 years) and i can't get rid of him. Whenever he sees me, he starts following me.
I have told him to leave me alone (several times) but he then threatens my mum, my boyfriend and my friends. Thing is, he does it when there's nobody around, he waits until i am alone and then approaches me.
I can't avoid places either because i never know where he's gonna be. The police wont do anything because theres no evidence. I just can't take anymore.
I have told him to leave me alone (several times) but he then threatens my mum, my boyfriend and my friends. Thing is, he does it when there's nobody around, he waits until i am alone and then approaches me.
I can't avoid places either because i never know where he's gonna be. The police wont do anything because theres no evidence. I just can't take anymore.
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On Saturday he told me that if i was nice to him and did what he told me to do and dont talk to anyone else, he would be happy. When i said no he threatened my mum by saying he would 'personally make sure' she stayed out of his way forever.
I am currently having treatment for depression and the stress is making me self harm again. Thanks for reading this.
Just because he has learning difficulties he shouldn't be allowed to get away with this behaviour which is clearly distressing you.
Please see attached link. I feel this may be of help to you:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/insideout/yorkslincs/series7/stalking_advice.shtml
the important thing here is to log everything that happens.
Have you been to the police or are you assuming that they will not do anything. The police have a duty for public protection and if someone is being threatened I am certain they would help you. Especially if you and your familys safety is at risk.
How about if you see him pit your phones voice recorder on? Don't tell him it's on and try not to let him see it (stick it up your sleeve or something) and then you have evidence of him threatening you
Thats all I can think of as well as what's above
http://www.supportline.org.uk/problems/stalking.php
There are various helpline numbers on the above website, give one of them a ring and get some expert advice about how to tackle this.
If you have an evidence log to hand to give to them, it could save valuable time in getting something done.
The thing that worries me is he is psychologically unwell. He talks to invisible people. He thinks a tv show is real, and he's in it. If you get on the same bus as him, you're bff's. He is unstable enough to do something, thats why i'm worried.
The issue about learning difficulties came up recently and that is no excuse. The police should still do something if there is a chance you will be harmed.
The National Stalking Helpline: 0300 636 0300
www.stalkinghelpline.org
Well that all seems a bit worrying really. It's weird how his family don't take anything into account. Have you ever feared he'd physically assualt you as well as your family? Sounds like he needs a psychological evaluation
He doesn't have my number (thankfully) but he keeps asking for it. I just refuse to give it to him.
He has got aggressive with my mum before. He shouted at her for talking to me, and i did think he was going to hit her. He was very angry. He is always hugging me, and touching me, even when i tell him to stop, he wont.
Hugging you and touching you? :eek: That's assault surely? Have you told the cops that he does this? :
Also can't you get your brother to have a word with him?
I am gonna talk to the community officer and victim support tomorrow. Get some advice and find out what i can do to get him to stop.
Thank you again for all your help and advice. I really do appreciate it.
I feel very sorry for you, although the guy may not realise what he is doing that doesn't make it any less of a horrible & frightening experience for you - and regardless of his learning disabilities, you still have the same rights to be protected from unwanted attention. I hope Victim Support / the stalking helpline can provide help - do let us know how you get on.