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Friends who show up unannounced
JDF
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I got a friend that thinks it's perfect acceptable to drop by without asking first .I have told him several times to just call before he comes but he never does,>:(
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They was phones before mobiles , I would never dream of showing up to somebody's without making the arrangements beforehand
We have an open door policy. Don't expect my undivided attention, but drop in whenever.
https://youtu.be/0Swzvm-gXHg
Very true.
Yes I know. But people often just decided to drop in because they were passing. Nowadays they'd probably ring or send a quick text from the car first.
And not everyone had a lineline, that is why there was thousands of phone boxes about in the uk.
I prefer people telling me first then if I do not want to see them I can make up excuses:D
Pretend you're out and don't answer the door.
Open the door naked and tell him it's not a convenient time to call. Or ask him to come in. Whichever you think will be most effective to get rid of him.
Poke him with a broom handle through the letterbox.
Sneak out the back Jack.
So you only want to see your friends when it suits you?
Take up lion taming as a hobby.
When it suits both of them is probably what he means. Calling on someone unexpectedly can often mean disturbing them when they're in the middle of their favourite programme, have just sat down to dinner, are about to have a bath or whatever.
Nowadays, it makes sense to just make a quick call and check it's not an inconvenient time.
Found myself laughing out loud to that. Thanks.
If she drops by, I will be brutally clear that I don't want her coming to my house. Can't stand the woman, and I'm not polite enough to do otherwise
I tried it once, heard a rather loud friend at my door, grabbed my nearby coat and tried the "I'm just off out" asked where I was going and blurted out "into town"...she informed me that she had just missed the bus herself hence her calling into mine and that we could now travel into town together on the next bus. I couldn't get out of it so went into town, scruffier than usual and had to wander round aimlessly for a short while.
I have done that to my mate sometimes saying about to go out he said I'll just sit at yours you get back then>:(And other times he will say I will drive you into town then
For my aforementioned ex-colleague, I have already decided upon 'I'm busy now, and I would not like you to just drop by in future' (said on the doorstop).
Haven't decided how I'd follow up if she asked how she can 'warn' me. I was thinking something along the lines of 'Sorry, but this is my home, and I'd like to keep it separate from work.' (or maybe ('I prefer to keep it private').
I can't go full-honesty ('I don't actually like you and would be quite happy to never see you again') because I'm not that brutal, and she's my boss's mum.
EDIT: On a quick re-read, those excuses make it sound like I'm hiding a body, but that's a chance I'm willing to take!
Why not ask the person to not give out your information and prevent this happening
Sounds like he might need to learn some boundaries! They are always welcome, but I can't imagine a friend asking to sit at my house while I was out