Not saying thankyou for presents sent - particularly children
chitarivera
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Maybe it's old fashioned, but if I receive a gift from someone I say thank you.
And most people now have a mobile phone, so a text only takes seconds to send, unlike in the olden days when a thank you note had to be written and posted.
And you don't even have to do any acting if you didn't actually like the gift received because they can't see your face when you text.
So..........why don't people say thank you any more?
And is it curmudgeonly to be slightly miffed when people [especially kids] don't say thanks?
I don't give prezzies so as to get a prezzie in return. But I do think a thank you is polite, and to not thank is rude.
Do others agree?
[I just wanted to rant, really. Thanks for listening.]
And most people now have a mobile phone, so a text only takes seconds to send, unlike in the olden days when a thank you note had to be written and posted.
And you don't even have to do any acting if you didn't actually like the gift received because they can't see your face when you text.
So..........why don't people say thank you any more?
And is it curmudgeonly to be slightly miffed when people [especially kids] don't say thanks?
I don't give prezzies so as to get a prezzie in return. But I do think a thank you is polite, and to not thank is rude.
Do others agree?
[I just wanted to rant, really. Thanks for listening.]
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I was always brought up to say thank you for Christmas/Birthday gifts. I still write Thank you letters to people, even now
They are pretty good at saying thanks nowdays.
Absolutely! Or they send round a general email to everyone saying 'thank you all for your wonderful gifts' without actually thanking anyone individually.
I have decided that their parents have spoiled them so much that they are ungrateful.
So if they can't be bothered to say thanks, I can't be bothered to spend time choosing, buying, wrapping and sending prezzies.
I'll give to a charity instead.
He has wrote letters from first being able to write his name.
Does that happen though?
If aunty mable in Morecombe sends you £20 or a selection box through the post, surely parents say it is from Aunty mable and not Santa?
It can. Some relatives of mine send me money for my daughter and ask me to buy her a gift. They have no interest in her knowing it is from them as they know she still believes.
Of course I thank them on her behalf.
I know of friends whose families do the same.
A friend of mine admired something I had made and asked me to make her one. There was a lot of work in it so I said I'd think about it. I then realised it was her birthday in a couple of weeks so I set to and made her one as a birthday surprise.
That was nearly 3 months ago and she has never thanked me yet! I think that's really rude after all the effort I put in.
:eek:
Good point
It's just making me even more annoyed with my family though.
But it's making more determined not to buy for them in future.
Glad its not just me who gets annoyed when there are no thank you's.
But I haven't had a present from outside the family in years.
That's different. My gift tags to children who still believe would say 'from Santa.'
The children in my family are all well past that age.
Fortunately the youngest two are just the opposite. Thank us for helping Santa to get presents to them at Christmas and without fail will send us a beautifully penned little notes after Christmas or their respective birthdays.
I often wonder how our two children can be so different with their own. Maybe my son loathed being made to write the notes so much that he refused to make his children do it, but it really is so much easier now isn't it?