How can I do everything like some people?
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Seems the popular and successful blokes (and women) have a large range of things they do - and do well.
Deep sea diving, helping build an orphanage, raising money for charity, weekend horse riding, spending time with friends, play an instrument, good in the kitchen, good hosts, walking the dogs, time to listen AND hold down a good job.
I am working hard at just the job part - and in free time is shopping and a keeping the house clean and what have you. Weekends maybe a family visit for tea.
How do these types sort it all out? I'd love to ride a horse through the surf and seemingly moments later have a huge spread prepared for all the guests that were coming over and then entertain them with witty stories and stylish dancing. Is it possible to do? How do I start? I just don't know.
Deep sea diving, helping build an orphanage, raising money for charity, weekend horse riding, spending time with friends, play an instrument, good in the kitchen, good hosts, walking the dogs, time to listen AND hold down a good job.
I am working hard at just the job part - and in free time is shopping and a keeping the house clean and what have you. Weekends maybe a family visit for tea.
How do these types sort it all out? I'd love to ride a horse through the surf and seemingly moments later have a huge spread prepared for all the guests that were coming over and then entertain them with witty stories and stylish dancing. Is it possible to do? How do I start? I just don't know.
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If it's any consolation, it didn't work out for Anthea Turner.
I think they mean people llike Helen Skelton who can do everything.
Helping build an orphanage - instant Paypal charity payment, takes 2 minutes tops.
Raising money for charity - take something unwanted to the charity shop on the way to...
Weekend horse riding - couple of hours a few weekends a year when the weather is good.
Spending time with friends - take them horseriding.
Play an instrument - unfortunately this you had to learn when you were a child.
Good in the kitchen/good hosts - buy in prepared food and tip into your own pans/make sure there is plenty of booze.
Walking the dogs - do this on the way to the shops.
Time to listen - with your family at the weekends.
Hold down a good job - you seem to have this covered.
Look around at the popular people you know, listen to the successful Mums talking - they are all at it. I hear people talk about taking the children on a pottery class and then in the same day organizing a spread in the evening and still have time to help an ill neighbour and comfort them with grapes and time. I just can't compete.
Cheers for that - you made it sound easy!:) There's hope for me yet then!
You just have to make time and effort for it.
Really not that hard.
He said you have to remember that it's all part of a middle class upbringing. The horse riding, the skiiing lessons, the diving - your parents bring you up to know how to do all these things during school trips and family holidays.
Then you just need enough money to employ cleaners and caterers and jobs a good 'un.
You're talking about accumulated experiences over time.
Also, some people work crazy hours for low wages then have to add in the commute, home life, kids etc, they simply don't have the time. It's normal.
I play the guitar when I have time
I like riding my bike if I have the time
I race my kit car now & again
I read a lot of history books, mainly about wars
I can cook reasonably well
I have telescope because I am interested in astronomy
stick to grafting, watching a bit of telly and going to sleep, that's enough for anyone to be getting on with :cool:
A skiing holiday once or twice a year turns into ' We like to go skiing'.
An hours horse riding lesson on a Saturday morning becomes, 'We enjoy horse riding on a weekend'.
Lots of money to pay a nanny to ferry the kids about to all these various 'mind broadening' activities, or enough money for one parent to stay at home and play the perfect housewife/husband is the only way that all that can be achieved without driving yourself to Prozac.
I know quite a few people who are on this merry-go-round and it doesn't make for a happy contented life, they are stressed to hell and regularly miserable.
I think if you can manage to work, get the tea on the table , have time to spend a few hours at the park with the kids and still manage to read a bedtime story, you are doing just great.
You forgot "......and being a demon in the sack!"
Oh yes! I used to interview students for work placement, and the list of "hobbies" they put on the CV's was hilarious!
"Photography" meant "I own a camera"!
"Bungee jumping" meant they'd once done it for charity.
"Cooking" meant "I can knock up a chilli, but nothing else"!
Well for a start you have to decide on priorities and get better at time management. I find that many people who claim to have no time to do things just aren't using their time very well.
Naturally, someone with young children to look after is going to have far less free time than someone who doesn't, but even then you can still find the time to do things if you really want them enough.
One of the women on my degree course had 4 young children (including one who was only 3 months old when the course started) to look after, and yet she found the time to study (getting up at 4am) and ended up getting a first. I always think of her when I start thinking that I don't have the time to do the things I want to achieve.
I'm assuming that you are single at the moment, because I also find (as a single person), that all of the people I know with children, seem to have pretty busy sounding lives. I feel exhausted just listening to them. I also think that many of the 'good causes' they are running around in support of, again tend to stem from their children's schools or other parents, etc.
Those that do juggle lots of interesting and diverse hobbies will have the social networks in place that make it much easier. Assuming you have sufficient disposable income, it's a lot easier to go on a ski holiday or diving expedition if you have friends and family who also wish to do those things and do a lot of the organising for you.
After that, and assuming you really do want to do all of those things, it comes down to time management and prioritising. In particularly, avoiding time draining activities like faffing about on the internet and too much time watching tv. If you are one of life's procrastinators, you'll need to knock that on the head, and reassess your definition of a lazy Sunday morning.
I know people who routinely get up at their usual work time on Saturdays, and have gone out and come home with the weekly shop by 8:30am. Then they'll sit down and enjoy a bacon roll or croissant/fresh coffee etc, but not for long, because then they sort bills and do paperwork and household chores and then go and meet friends for lunch. I tend to be the person who stays in my pyjamas until just before I head out to meet friends for lunch.
I often tell myself I should do more with my time, and I probably should, but I also know I'm someone who thoroughly enjoys a quiet weekend with no commitments every now and then. I really look forward to them!:o
Then late Sunday afternoon I start to feel bad that I've hardly done anything.:rolleyes::D
Some things, like housework and shopping can be a big drain on your time, so if possible, try to do those things during the working week. If you can afford it, get a cleaner! Alternatively, decide if you really do need to do all of that cleaning every week. It's great to have a clean and tidy house, but if you are spending the weekend mountain biking, does it matter that the microwave needs a clean?:D