Kids learning from Porn about relationships
lola_skye
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Kids and some adults seem to be learning from porn according to the man on the radio. According to one caller the most accidents for teenagers she's seen in A&E are from young ladies who have been in sex acts gone wrong.
I find this disturbing that young boys and men are getting ideas that real relationships comes from porn and are using the same language and actions which are shown in it. Now whilst most people know that porn is basically fiction and that none of the star would want that sort of relationship for real, some people think that this is the norm.
I think that this should be highlighted in sex ed classes that what they see in porn is not ideal for a healthy relationship and that its ok for girls to not feel pressured into it.
I'm not sure it would help for the 40 year old virgins, I'm sure if they think that expecting a porn style relationship would get them a girl then I guess they're destined for a life on the shelf. The same goes for women who go along with this because they're desperate for love.
What does everyone else think?
I find this disturbing that young boys and men are getting ideas that real relationships comes from porn and are using the same language and actions which are shown in it. Now whilst most people know that porn is basically fiction and that none of the star would want that sort of relationship for real, some people think that this is the norm.
I think that this should be highlighted in sex ed classes that what they see in porn is not ideal for a healthy relationship and that its ok for girls to not feel pressured into it.
I'm not sure it would help for the 40 year old virgins, I'm sure if they think that expecting a porn style relationship would get them a girl then I guess they're destined for a life on the shelf. The same goes for women who go along with this because they're desperate for love.
What does everyone else think?
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Teenage boys will always be horndogs but wow.... it's clear they must be watching a serious amount of really hardcore stuff to get these ideas
Hardcore stuff is the norm now and is one google search away. Most of the videos on the front pages of free porn video sites are hardcore and on the far end of the scale too. It scares me personally to imagine people in their early teens or even younger are watching this content as their own representation of what sex is.
I think there was a documentary on TV where some boys were asked various questions and a lot of them suggested they thought spitting on a woman as a form of lubrication was acceptable. Obviously it isn't but it's that sort of message they're taking away from the porn they'd been watching. Along with the idea anal sex is standard too.
Sex should be what you mutually and consensually enjoy with another person. If you got the idea from porn is that so bad? The most important factor is respect for each other and for yourself. What you actually get up to and where you got the idea is trivial.
The trouble is a lot of the standard free porn videos out there now do not send a respectful message. In the majority of cases it's extreme scenarios that simply don't paint anything like an accurate picture of what sex is about and should be.
I'm not suggesting sex education should be black and white boring with standard positions and nothing else. But it certainly shouldn't be about videos where the girls are spat on to lubricate them.. or made to choke during oral sex.. or held by the throat.. or that every girl should welcome anal sex. It's simply not accurate.
I'm not talking a bout sexual positions between two consenting adults. I'm talking about learning about realities In a relationship. Some think that that's how to treat a woman the way they treat them in porn films. Watching porn is far less emabrassimg then really asking what a woman wants.
On a more serious note, I doubt they do, porn is quite obviously nothing like real life relationships. Of course some teens may get some odd ideas but I think some people just have odd ideas in the first place.
I also don't believe for one second that people doing stuff they saw in a porno is a new phenomenon. The kind of stuff some people do has always gone on. We are just more likely to speak openly about this sort of stuff these days.
Probably involves lots of anal and choking.
Please be more specific. It's a jungle out there
Ah, 70s vintage.
Perhaps we need kids exposed to how things really are in all areas of live? We'd better be prepared for the riots though when they realise how much they've been shafted (and not in the porn way).
That assumption may be true, but it would be far better for society to teach girls that regardless of what boys say to them, it's actually fine for them to exercise their own sexual agency and say no to the things they don't really want to do.
I don't think celebrities/famous people help with peoples body images. It's pretty well known now that kids grow up thinking they must be thin, big breasted or well hung and the musicians that sing about sex when the average age of their fandom is 14 are making it worse and putting pressure onto the youngsters.
I think porn is nowhere near the top of the list of priorities for youngsters. Sort out what they see on every day TV and hear in every day music as that has a far greater influence.
My problem was to find someone to practice on.
The OP is very vague about what the radio show was about and who was hosting it. I'd assume that it was really about kids getting the wrong idea about sex and intimacy by getting their information about how to 'do it' from porn rather than more reliable sources (which we seem to lack in this country). An aspect of adult relationships then, but hardly what the majority of us would spend most of our time together doing.
And pizza, and sometimes midgets and donkeys.
Boys need to learn to be respectful and crucially the meaning of real consent, girls need to know they have the right to say no.
This, IMO, is where extended sex ed in schools in needed, kids need more than the biology and mechanics of things, they need to know how to treat each other and what a 'normal' sex life is IMO.
Just glad I'm not a teenage girl any more!!