Flash, my first question has got to be, why do you feel that you have to lose your virginity - now? It will happen naturally, when the time is right, with the right person. To have sex, for the first time, with a 'professional' is just that, sex. It should mean something. I can guarantee that, should you pursue this, in years to come you will look back upon the circumstances, and regret what you did. When you do meet and fall in love with someone, you will definitely wish you had never paid someone for sex but, unfortunately, you can't get it back.
Unlike some other posters, I would definitely advise you against what you are contemplating, and beg you to think again. I was 25 when I lost my virginity; I never felt ready before then and, despite you thinking you are, is it not merely a sense of desperation that, at 27 - no age - you are still 'intact'?
The choice is your's, of course, but it does seem as if you are applying unnecessary pressure on yourself. Think about it, carefully.
I think you make some valid points, but he is a man you are a woman.
You can not understand the mindset of another person let alone a man!
Men can detach more than women can (IMO) and just see sex as sex, women are more in to the 'only in a committed relationship' type of sex.
I think you make some valid points, but he is a man you are a woman.
You can not understand the mindset of another person let alone a man!
Men can detach more than women can (IMO) and just see sex as sex, women are more in to the 'only in a committed relationship' type of sex.
Wait for someone who wants to be with you, not just your money. I don't know what you expect to gain from paying for sex. It seems pretty desperate IMO and you shouldn't feel the need to lower yourself for it. Save it for someone you care about and who cares about you.
I wouldn’t recommend wasting money on an escort. Average cost for an hour is £120+, unless you go for an Eastern European who might have been illegally trafficked into the country as a sex slave.
You’d be better of rethinking your dating profile. What picture are you using? Photograph yourself standing next to a high performance sports car, lie about your job – say you work as a football manager or tv producer. Message single mothers or frumpy woman that have unlikely to have been contacted by anyone else. Study profiles and pretend to be everything they are looking for and I’m sure you will lose your V plate and save yourself money
One other advantage of going with an escort for your first time is that if you're a bag of nerves or, invariably, rubbish at it then it's of no consequence.
I would say it's far more likely to cause ongoing problems with confidence and self esteem if you're about to get down to business with a special lady friend and it all goes horribly wrong.
One other advantage of going with an escort for your first time is that if you're a bag of nerves or, invariably, rubbish at it then it's of no consequence.
If you're a virgin do you get a discounted rate? If it's rubbish then you could ask for a refund and qoute the sales of goods act.
Im a woman and I dont think theres anything wrong with your plan. I think that going 'clubbing' and trying to find a one night stand is fraught with potential problems, STDs, emotional issues and worse case scenario someone that could say that she didnt consent after the act is over.
Get yourself an escort, plan it carefully, seek out what you want carefully
However, I agree with others above, this business about 5s out of 10 or whatever is bunkem and even if you dont purposely go out thinking this, the fact that life is ordered in that way for you is going to be obvious to people you speak to. All women want is someone who is genuinely down to earth, open, honest and just themselves. If you are thinking, oh I better not speak to her she is out of my league, or she is a bit below me, I want better because Im a 6, its not going to work. You just introduce yourself to people that you fancy, thats all.
Before I my OH I was on a dating site and was going out a couple of times a week, it was a lot of fun. Just seek to make friends initially and you will get to know more and more people.
Im a woman and if i was single i wouldnt go anywhere near a bloke who was that desperate to lose his virginity he slept with a prostitute.
How on earth will this end well?
Outcome A. You enjoy the sex, but still unable to find a girlfriend (having sex with a prostitute wont make you more desirable to any woman) you will have to pay for it every time. Whats that add up to? A few hundred a month?
Outcome b. You have sex, have no connection with the woman and realise the whole thing wasnt worth it. Youve just blown your money and now you realise thats it gone. When you do meet someone you love, it wont be your first time and you will live with the regret that your first time was with someone who didnt give a toss about you, just your wallet.
Sorry if that sounds judgemental but you did want opinions.
You’d be better of rethinking your dating profile. What picture are you using? Photograph yourself standing next to a high performance sports car, lie about your job – say you work as a football manager or tv producer. Message single mothers or frumpy woman that have unlikely to have been contacted by anyone else. Study profiles and pretend to be everything they are looking for and I’m sure you will lose your V plate and save yourself money
You would like me to lie about myself to get into their pants? Only to save a bit of money? I don't really wish to lower myself to that.
With Escorting, both parties know the deal. I'd pay, they'd provide.
With your proposal, I'd be luring women, young mothers etc into a false sense of security and that could result in an emotional state for them if I jump on board, do the deed then leave. I don't want to be that person.
Before I my OH I was on a dating site and was going out a couple of times a week, it was a lot of fun. Just seek to make friends initially and you will get to know more and more people.
On the dating sites I've been on (and am on) I've stated that I'm there long-term for a relationship yet wouldn't mind making a few new friends along the way. That doesn't seem to help at all.
Could it be that a lot of women on dating sites are exactly the same as people think I am, in the sense that they're just looking and judging on a score of 10? As mentioned in my OP, I've messaged quite a few people, and out of those people (I'd estimate some 300 - 350+ people) I've probably gotten about 10-15 rejections, the rest have all been ignored (though my profile has been viewed).
It might be that I'm not explaining myself clearly.
Be it dating sites, or in a pub, a club, or generally out and about, I know (or at least highly suspect) that I'm an average kind of guy, and would be amazed if any supermodels were ever interested. Because of that, I don't try my luck with people I expect to be turned down by; lets face it, there's a seriously high chance of this.
I suppose it's like buying a car (bare with me); everyone would love to buy a Ferrari or Lamborghini, and everyone looks in awe as one drives past, but most people own a normal car because they know they'll never be able to afford one of those top range motors.
I'm not saying money is a factor here, that was just the word of choice used for the scenario. Most people are realistic in their choice of vehicles, as they (are?) with their choice of man/woman. No?
That's cool.
I know it's just an analogy but not everyone actually wants to own a Ferrari and when I see someone in one I actually think they look a bit silly and are a bit materialistic.
My point is that your 10 may not be someone else's 10.
I know it's just an analogy but not everyone actually wants to own a Ferrari and when I see someone in one I actually think they look a bit silly and are a bit materialistic.
You got the analogy, so I think I made my point enough with that.
My point is that your 10 may not be someone else's 10.
Perhalps those 10's are a bit materalistic and silly, but then they're still (for the most part) nice are they not?
Sure, everyone has different likes and dislikes, some prefer blondes, others brunette, and others still redheads. Some people like boobs (some big, some small) others prefer bums, but as a general rule, most people can appreciate a good looking car/woman when they see one, even if such is above their pay grade.
Outcome A. You enjoy the sex, but still unable to find a girlfriend (having sex with a prostitute wont make you more desirable to any woman) you will have to pay for it every time. Whats that add up to? A few hundred a month?
Surely the cost would depend upon how often I were to indulge? That said, I only had one occasion in mind, and that's the general getting it done deal. If I did go with your Option A, and was still unable to get a girlfriend, at least I'd have had the experience of sex, be it for better or worse?
Youve just blown your money and now you realise thats it gone. When you do meet someone you love, it wont be your first time and you will live with the regret that your first time was with someone who didnt give a toss about you, just your wallet.
In this instance, what's the difference between losing it to a woman, then breaking up with her, and then getting in a relationship with someone else. The memory of your virginity is always going to be... spoilt!
I wouldn't imagine many people would advertise the fact they they lose their virginity to an escort/prostitute.
Just remember that while you wouldn't advertise it, the time might come when you meet someone and have complete honesty with them. You will then have to make the choice to tell them or be dishonest about it.
The fact is that there is clearly something about you that is turning women off, and that something will not magically disappear because you have had sex. You will be pretty much the same person afterwards as before, and it's likely women will still be as disinterested in you as they are currently. If all you care about is not being a virgin anymore then go for it, as that 'problem' will be solved, but bear in mind that if no girl has wanted you in 27 years it's likely no girl will ever want you. It might not even be something you're doing, it might have nothing to do with your looks, some people just never find love/relationships or even someone to have sex with (unless they pay for it of course).
but bear in mind that if no girl has wanted you in 27 years it's likely no girl will ever want you.
Well i'm sure that's made the OP's day there. Have you ever considered working for the Samartians? I think you'd be really good!
I don't think it's neccasarily a case of no one 'wanting him' it sounds like its a case of him not having the confidence to approach girls. Often the men who get women easily are arseholes who treat women badly anyway. Visiting a hooker may not make someone a ladies man overnight but having some sort of sexual experience can only improve confidence and at least when it comes to it they will have some sort of idea of what to do.
Having your first sexual experience with your 'true love' and living happily ever after rarely happens so i would go for it.
The fact is that there is clearly something about you that is turning women off, and that something will not magically disappear because you have had sex. You will be pretty much the same person afterwards as before, and it's likely women will still be as disinterested in you as they are currently. If all you care about is not being a virgin anymore then go for it, as that 'problem' will be solved, but bear in mind that if no girl has wanted you in 27 years it's likely no girl will ever want you. It might not even be something you're doing, it might have nothing to do with your looks, some people just never find love/relationships or even someone to have sex with (unless they pay for it of course).
Christ Almighty, that will make him feel a whole lot better!
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I think you make some valid points, but he is a man you are a woman.
You can not understand the mindset of another person let alone a man!
Men can detach more than women can (IMO) and just see sex as sex, women are more in to the 'only in a committed relationship' type of sex.
Very well put and I certainly agree.
That site is good and states it as it is but in a more softer way than a paid sex work advert would be, but a fee is involved at the end of the day.
You’d be better of rethinking your dating profile. What picture are you using? Photograph yourself standing next to a high performance sports car, lie about your job – say you work as a football manager or tv producer. Message single mothers or frumpy woman that have unlikely to have been contacted by anyone else. Study profiles and pretend to be everything they are looking for and I’m sure you will lose your V plate and save yourself money
I would say it's far more likely to cause ongoing problems with confidence and self esteem if you're about to get down to business with a special lady friend and it all goes horribly wrong.
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If you're a virgin do you get a discounted rate? If it's rubbish then you could ask for a refund and qoute the sales of goods act.
Get yourself an escort, plan it carefully, seek out what you want carefully
However, I agree with others above, this business about 5s out of 10 or whatever is bunkem and even if you dont purposely go out thinking this, the fact that life is ordered in that way for you is going to be obvious to people you speak to. All women want is someone who is genuinely down to earth, open, honest and just themselves. If you are thinking, oh I better not speak to her she is out of my league, or she is a bit below me, I want better because Im a 6, its not going to work. You just introduce yourself to people that you fancy, thats all.
Before I my OH I was on a dating site and was going out a couple of times a week, it was a lot of fun. Just seek to make friends initially and you will get to know more and more people.
How on earth will this end well?
Outcome A. You enjoy the sex, but still unable to find a girlfriend (having sex with a prostitute wont make you more desirable to any woman) you will have to pay for it every time. Whats that add up to? A few hundred a month?
Outcome b. You have sex, have no connection with the woman and realise the whole thing wasnt worth it. Youve just blown your money and now you realise thats it gone. When you do meet someone you love, it wont be your first time and you will live with the regret that your first time was with someone who didnt give a toss about you, just your wallet.
Sorry if that sounds judgemental but you did want opinions.
With Escorting, both parties know the deal. I'd pay, they'd provide.
With your proposal, I'd be luring women, young mothers etc into a false sense of security and that could result in an emotional state for them if I jump on board, do the deed then leave. I don't want to be that person.
On the dating sites I've been on (and am on) I've stated that I'm there long-term for a relationship yet wouldn't mind making a few new friends along the way. That doesn't seem to help at all.
Could it be that a lot of women on dating sites are exactly the same as people think I am, in the sense that they're just looking and judging on a score of 10? As mentioned in my OP, I've messaged quite a few people, and out of those people (I'd estimate some 300 - 350+ people) I've probably gotten about 10-15 rejections, the rest have all been ignored (though my profile has been viewed).
I know it's just an analogy but not everyone actually wants to own a Ferrari and when I see someone in one I actually think they look a bit silly and are a bit materialistic.
My point is that your 10 may not be someone else's 10.
Perhalps those 10's are a bit materalistic and silly, but then they're still (for the most part) nice are they not?
Sure, everyone has different likes and dislikes, some prefer blondes, others brunette, and others still redheads. Some people like boobs (some big, some small) others prefer bums, but as a general rule, most people can appreciate a good looking car/woman when they see one, even if such is above their pay grade.
me either why waste all the time on foot work when you can get the end score with little effort.
Surely the cost would depend upon how often I were to indulge? That said, I only had one occasion in mind, and that's the general getting it done deal. If I did go with your Option A, and was still unable to get a girlfriend, at least I'd have had the experience of sex, be it for better or worse?
Isn't this a risk we take with everyday things? In this instance, what's the difference between losing it to a woman, then breaking up with her, and then getting in a relationship with someone else. The memory of your virginity is always going to be... spoilt!
I know, and I thank you for it!
Just remember that while you wouldn't advertise it, the time might come when you meet someone and have complete honesty with them. You will then have to make the choice to tell them or be dishonest about it.
Positivity Rocks!!!
What if the escort drove an Escort ?
Well i'm sure that's made the OP's day there. Have you ever considered working for the Samartians? I think you'd be really good!
I don't think it's neccasarily a case of no one 'wanting him' it sounds like its a case of him not having the confidence to approach girls. Often the men who get women easily are arseholes who treat women badly anyway. Visiting a hooker may not make someone a ladies man overnight but having some sort of sexual experience can only improve confidence and at least when it comes to it they will have some sort of idea of what to do.
Having your first sexual experience with your 'true love' and living happily ever after rarely happens so i would go for it.
Christ Almighty, that will make him feel a whole lot better!
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