Losing Virginity to Escort?

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  • Summer BreezeSummer Breeze Posts: 4,399
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    Vast_Girth wrote: »
    New article on the BBC today very relevant to this thread..

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-28850239

    Makes a good read, all the men come over as all right guys as well.
    The man who lost his virginity with an escort seems to think he should not have now.
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    Dolls wrote: »
    Sorry I haven't read the whole thread - but I'd definitely go to an escort.
    I've presently decided to pass/postpone the idea. :)
    Dolls wrote: »
    I am another who says, forget rating women and yourself. Especially with the female sex, personality can be much more important, and physical attraction itself more quirky. Plus, there's no foolproof agreement on who's better looking or more mediocre; I have known men who say they dislike modelly appearanced ladies for looking "all artificial".
    I think I am one of those men. Excessive cosmetics and such (in my opinion at least) doesn't do women justice.
    Dolls wrote: »
    By the way, Million Dollar could, (could, I don't say does) have a point, I think. I think people do sense things about others by un obvious mechanisms. I remember when I used to go out thinking about sex and feeling sexy, I would get far, far more attention than when I was in an asexual phase, and no, that wasn't because of my body language or behaviour I don't think, as I'm not talking about times I was flirting.
    I quite believe it.
    Lola UK wrote: »
    I think your dating post is far too long.. I've nosied around on PoF a bit with friends (we are 25) and we wouldn't have read all of that.. It's good that you are putting up a lot of information, but why not save it for someone who messages you?
    I guess this is down to opinion, but I've always thought (and still do) that a small profile promotes the view that the owner of that profile is lazy and isn't putting in the effort. Yet I'm writing too much? I can't win! :o
    Lola UK wrote: »
    Also scrap the bit about size, even if it was trying to be funny.
    That's already gone! :)
    Lola UK wrote: »
    i also think you should just have fun with it, message random girls, don't be so intense, have a laugh, you're only 27!!!
    Tried (and Failed) at that.
    Vast_Girth wrote: »
    New article on the BBC today very relevant to this thread..

    http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-28850239
    The man who lost his virginity with an escort seems to think he should not have now.
    Yeah, I picked up on that too. At first he thought it was brilliant, then he came to realize how dirty and degrading it was...
  • David MillsDavid Mills Posts: 742
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    Reading some of the comments here I think the sex thing or losing virginity really isn't that important in the long term so going with an escort is only as bad as it personally feels to the person doing it.

    Like I certainly don't even think much about the first time I had sex, I always think about the last time. Just generally if you could get a good decent situation arranged, non seedy, nice hotel room and person then it's your choice.

    And an interesting point on body language, there are some power poses I learned from youtube and on days were I do them, then go out people start responding to me with more confidence and coming up to me and talking to me on the street...to a point were I deliberately don't do them because I prefer to be in peace walking down streets etc. But if I'm wanting to be confident and appear confident around people I spend a few minutes doing them. So if you wanna go out and get attention and attract body language really makes a difference. Just search for it on youtube.
  • Hogs HeadHogs Head Posts: 21,359
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    Hey,

    I also agree with some posters that your profile text is too long. There isn't any mystery! Keep it short and to the point :) You sound nice, although quite geeky! It's cute, but I guess you'll attract a certain type. 'Hello and welcome, let's start with a bit about me...' - I don't know, I think 'Hi' would suffice! Cut it down tremendously, maybe just to a paragraph. Make people want to find out about you... but by talking to you.

    If you aren't/weren't getting any messages or replies, then it must be for a reason. The profile picture is obviously extremely important. Can you mix it up a bit? Maybe use something different?

    I think it's kinda sad that you feel the need to go to an escort to lose your virginity. I don't know... it's not all about sex at the end of the day. I just think you should persevere and wait until someone decent comes along. I mean, you are only 27. I don't think you'd regret it!
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    Reading some of the comments here I think the sex thing or losing virginity really isn't that important in the long term so going with an escort is only as bad as it personally feels to the person doing it.
    Well, I think I'd be one of those people who would regret doing it that way afterwards.
    And an interesting point on body language, there are some power poses I learned from youtube and on days were I do them, then go out people start responding to me with more confidence and coming up to me and talking to me on the street...to a point were I deliberately don't do them because I prefer to be in peace walking down streets etc. But if I'm wanting to be confident and appear confident around people I spend a few minutes doing them. So if you wanna go out and get attention and attract body language really makes a difference. Just search for it on youtube.
    Are you sure that's actual body language though, or more ... you feeling better about yourself, and other people noticing?

    As was mentioned earlier, several times in fact, some people are in the belief that others recognize a happy or confident person over a sad or shy person. If you're doing these poses and then going out, could it be that you're feeling more confident about having done them, and thus that shows? Either way, maybe it's something to look at.
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    I also agree with some posters that your profile text is too long. There isn't any mystery! Keep it short and to the point :) You sound nice, although quite geeky! It's cute, but I guess you'll attract a certain type. 'Hello and welcome, let's start with a bit about me...' - I don't know, I think 'Hi' would suffice! Cut it down tremendously, maybe just to a paragraph. Make people want to find out about you... but by talking to you.
    How much is too much though, and how little is too little? I have (at your suggestion) got rid of the parts you mentioned, but I'm still finding it difficult to condense it any more. I feel like I'm not sharing enough; there needs to be something there for people to pick up on, else it's just another repetitive profile.
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    IIf you aren't/weren't getting any messages or replies, then it must be for a reason. The profile picture is obviously extremely important. Can you mix it up a bit? Maybe use something different?
    My pictures change every now and again as it is, I don't think it's any specific bad picture. Hell, maybe it's all of them? :(
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    I think it's kinda sad that you feel the need to go to an escort to lose your virginity. I don't know... it's not all about sex at the end of the day. I just think you should persevere and wait until someone decent comes along. I mean, you are only 27. I don't think you'd regret it!
    I'm waiting. :) It's a shame I can't go back and edit my initial post, then I could add a note at the bottom telling everyone. Seems I'm forever telling everyone I'm not going ahead with it at the moment - though to be fair, I shouldn't expect everyone to read the entire thread. :)
  • Hogs HeadHogs Head Posts: 21,359
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    How much is too much though, and how little is too little? I have (at your suggestion) got rid of the parts you mentioned, but I'm still finding it difficult to condense it any more. I feel like I'm not sharing enough; there needs to be something there for people to pick up on, else it's just another repetitive profile.

    Hmmm, I guess it's relative, isn't it. When I had a profile on a dating website, I kept it extremely short, and I had many messages saying how refreshing it was. I think it went along the lines of this:

    "24, student, confident, chatty, fun, outgoing, a bit of a poser, happy!
    Chat, mates, or dates :) Taking life as it comes."

    ... so very, very short, and it sums me up to a tee. But the truth is, and I speak for myself here, that most people tend to eyeball profiles and skip past them (or message/reply if they are interested). Too long is too long. Too long makes people think that the person is too serious. I really, really believe that little is sometimes more.

    I'm really glad you have decided to wait. Like I say, you are only 27. Sometimes dating websites work for people, sometimes they don't. I am betting that you'll meet the love of your life when you least expect it ;-) You'll be fine, I promise! Live your life, have fun, and try not to worry too much.

    Have you downloaded Tinder on your phone? It seems to be the latest craze among singletons... most people seem to be on it!

    Get to the gym (if you don't already), do some exercise, get fit... look and feel better about yourself. Of course, life isn't just about looks, but I think it definitely helps when it comes to dating. We live in a shallow world where some people find these sort of things important. Feel good about yourself and people will find that attractive. I have a partner now, but I was never short of attention as soon as my biceps got bigger... and chest... haha! I never got much attention before that. I know... fickle, eh?
  • dd68dd68 Posts: 17,833
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    I think it would mean more if you didn't have to pay someone
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    If you spend enough and pick a really top-notch escort, the experience can in itself be much more than the mundane losing of virginity. There was this guy who gave feedback on a Russian escort he had in Paris, who was also a porn actress, and she was on a special one week "tour" in that city, which meant she had time to have sex with clients or fans for about 1000 Euros, and he said it was a wonderful experience which he would always cherish.
  • chocoholic100chocoholic100 Posts: 6,411
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    petertard wrote: »
    If you spend enough and pick a really top-notch escort, the experience can in itself be much more than the mundane losing of virginity. There was this guy who gave feedback on a Russian escort he had in Paris, who was also a porn actress, and she was on a special one week "tour" in that city, which meant she had time to have sex with clients or fans for about 1000 Euros, and he said it was a wonderful experience which he would always cherish.

    Your not quite right are you.
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    Hogs Head wrote: »
    When I had a profile on a dating website, I kept it extremely short, and I had many messages saying how refreshing it was.
    I think it's very different for women though, it isn't going to matter how much (or how little) you right, some guys aren't even going to read it, they're just going to message. I always read profiles if I intend on messaging someone, and if there's not a lot to read, then it's harder (I find) to start a conversation - cause you don't know what sort of person you're messaging, nor any of their interests.

    I would imagine most women analyze (might be the wrong choice of word) before sending a message, whereas most men probably don't.
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    I'm really glad you have decided to wait. Like I say, you are only 27. Sometimes dating websites work for people, sometimes they don't. I am betting that you'll meet the love of your life when you least expect it ;-) You'll be fine, I promise! Live your life, have fun, and try not to worry too much.
    I hope you're right. :)
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    Have you downloaded Tinder on your phone? It seems to be the latest craze among singletons... most people seem to be on it!
    I have Tinder; I mentioned it a few posts back. I've had just as much luck there as I have on PoF - none!
    Hogs Head wrote: »
    Get to the gym (if you don't already), do some exercise, get fit... look and feel better about yourself. Of course, life isn't just about looks, but I think it definitely helps when it comes to dating. We live in a shallow world where some people find these sort of things important. Feel good about yourself and people will find that attractive. I have a partner now, but I was never short of attention as soon as my biceps got bigger... and chest... haha! I never got much attention before that. I know... fickle, eh?
    Indeed, and you're right, it's the world we live in. I don't like the whole gym environment myself, but cycling and running keeps me fit. Maybe I'll have to get back into swimming; that's suppose to be good for general core/muscles.
  • Shopaholic26Shopaholic26 Posts: 3,322
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    Interesting thread, glad you have decided not to go ahead with the escort idea OP.

    I have had a sneaky look at your profile, was able to find it from your posts.

    I'll give it to you straight ;-) The first two profiles pictures, are ok. But IMO I'd recommend you use the picture with your two friends in as your main profile picture (you look best in that picture). Cut them out and just use that one as the main picture. Obviously still keep the main photo as picture 3 as-well.

    The other photos are fine, you come across fine TBH. Your level headed and so on. So I do think it's a-lot to do with confidence. How your mannerisms are in person etc.

    There is no right or wrong really. Just have to get yourself out there!
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    Interesting thread, glad you have decided not to go ahead with the escort idea OP.
    Thanks. I am too. I think?! :)
    I have had a sneaky look at your profile, was able to find it from your posts.
    You should be a Detective! ;-)
    I'll give it to you straight ;-) The first two profiles pictures, are ok. But IMO I'd recommend you use the picture with your two friends in as your main profile picture (you look best in that picture). Cut them out and just use that one as the main picture. Obviously still keep the main photo as picture 3 as-well.
    The picture in question is a bit tricky to edit; I'm off to London next month for a weekend, I'll have to get some better snaps when out there and use one of them.
    The other photos are fine, you come across fine TBH. Your level headed and so on. So I do think it's a-lot to do with confidence. How your mannerisms are in person etc.
    As you'll have probably noticed, I haven't really had the opportunity to test this in person (with girls anyway), though I do think I'm polite and what not.
    There is no right or wrong really. Just have to get yourself out there!
    Out there and away from dating profiles/apps I think? They're obviously not working for me, not even Tinder (you'd think a match on there would have happened by now). :o

    Also, @Hogs Head, whilst I probably haven't reduced my bio as much as I could, I have reduced it a bit. :)
  • WanderinWonderWanderinWonder Posts: 3,719
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    My advice (though you already know what I'm going to say); go and do it! If we were both local I'd go to one with you. I was (and sometimes still am) a bit anxious about doing something new, or meeting a bunch of strangers, but it was in a public place, and with an open door. You've literally got nothing to lose by attending a meet. Hit the site, search your location (maybe +10miles?) and see what results you get back! :)

    Hey Flash I've been meaning to get back to you for days now - and I see this thread's still rumbling on! Thanks for your kind words of advice. :) I have been looking for a while now; there's a film club nearby that looks quite promising too.

    It's good to see you're not going to make a rash decision over this whole escort business - it's definitely something you'd want to go into with your eyes wide open. I'm sure you'll come to the right decision for you anyway. :)
  • Shopaholic26Shopaholic26 Posts: 3,322
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    Thanks. I am too. I think?! :)

    You should be a Detective! ;-)

    The picture in question is a bit tricky to edit; I'm off to London next month for a weekend, I'll have to get some better snaps when out there and use one of them.

    As you'll have probably noticed, I haven't really had the opportunity to test this in person (with girls anyway), though I do think I'm polite and what not.

    Out there and away from dating profiles/apps I think? They're obviously not working for me, not even Tinder (you'd think a match on there would have happened by now). :o

    Also, @Hogs Head, whilst I probably haven't reduced my bio as much as I could, I have reduced it a bit. :)


    All you have to do is put the picture in Paint, then cut your picture to just you. Takes all of 20 seconds?

    The first two pictures, don't do you any favours lol, sorry :D
    But your other 3 pictures are great. I think your have more luck with the better pictures. I know people say it isn't just about looks, it isn't. Totally agree with that. But lets be honest, when it comes to 'on-line dating' people do go for looks first, so you want the best impression.

    I know you haven't tested it out, but I meant. Are you confident in person, or you quite shy? Like keeping your head down, no eye contact kind of thing?

    I'm surprised you haven't had a reply tbh. I read this whole thread before I searched you out. So you was pretty much what I expected. Nothing awfully bad from what I can see.

    If you really do want to meet someone special? Keep off the escort idea, because you never know what's round the corner.
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    Hogs Head wrote: »
    Hmmm, I guess it's relative, isn't it. When I had a profile on a dating website, I kept it extremely short, and I had many messages saying how refreshing it was. I think it went along the lines of this:

    "24, student, confident, chatty, fun, outgoing, a bit of a poser, happy!
    Chat, mates, or dates :) Taking life as it comes."

    ... so very, very short, and it sums me up to a tee. But the truth is, and I speak for myself here, that most people tend to eyeball profiles and skip past them (or message/reply if they are interested). Too long is too long. Too long makes people think that the person is too serious. I really, really believe that little is sometimes more.

    I'm really glad you have decided to wait. Like I say, you are only 27. Sometimes dating websites work for people, sometimes they don't. I am betting that you'll meet the love of your life when you least expect it ;-) You'll be fine, I promise! Live your life, have fun, and try not to worry too much.

    Have you downloaded Tinder on your phone? It seems to be the latest craze among singletons... most people seem to be on it!

    Get to the gym (if you don't already), do some exercise, get fit... look and feel better about yourself. Of course, life isn't just about looks, but I think it definitely helps when it comes to dating. We live in a shallow world where some people find these sort of things important. Feel good about yourself and people will find that attractive. I have a partner now, but I was never short of attention as soon as my biceps got bigger... and chest... haha! I never got much attention before that. I know... fickle, eh?

    What a lovely post. I hope that, if my son ever asks for advice on the internet, someone like you replies to him.
  • fefsterfefster Posts: 7,388
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    It might be that I'm not explaining myself clearly.

    Be it dating sites, or in a pub, a club, or generally out and about, I know (or at least highly suspect) that I'm an average kind of guy, and would be amazed if any supermodels were ever interested. Because of that, I don't try my luck with people I expect to be turned down by; lets face it, there's a seriously high chance of this.

    I suppose it's like buying a car (bare with me); everyone would love to buy a Ferrari or Lamborghini, and everyone looks in awe as one drives past, but most people own a normal car because they know they'll never be able to afford one of those top range motors.

    I'm not saying money is a factor here, that was just the word of choice used for the scenario. Most people are realistic in their choice of vehicles, as they (are?) with their choice of man/woman. No?

    That's cool. :)

    If I can be honest, this is awful. This is why you can't get a woman.
    When you meet a girl, try to be genuine.
    Talk to her, find out more and be open and honest about yourself.
    Once you have done that, perhaps decide whether you find each other attractive and go from there.

    I don't go through my life 'wishing I had a Ferrari' husband. How insulting to him. Anyway, he is a Ferrari in many ways.

    You sound charisma-less. Once you take time to genuinely listen and appreciate others, their interests and complexities as a human, then you will find yourself in a sexual relationship.

    Until then, it's going to get expensive....
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    Hey Flash I've been meaning to get back to you for days now - and I see this thread's still rumbling on! Thanks for your kind words of advice. :) I have been looking for a while now; there's a film club nearby that looks quite promising too.
    I'm glad you've found a group to join, hopefully that'll help sort your needs/desires out. Just need to attend a meet now. ;)
    It's good to see you're not going to make a rash decision over this whole escort business - it's definitely something you'd want to go into with your eyes wide open. I'm sure you'll come to the right decision for you anyway.
    Think on it, I think it would have been one hell of an awkward experience for me anyhow.
    All you have to do is put the picture in Paint, then cut your picture to just you. Takes all of 20 seconds?
    Done!
    The first two pictures, don't do you any favours lol, sorry
    Hah, thanks, though I did ask for people to be blunt, so thanks! ;)
    But your other 3 pictures are great. I think your have more luck with the better pictures. I know people say it isn't just about looks, it isn't. Totally agree with that. But lets be honest, when it comes to 'on-line dating' people do go for looks first, so you want the best impression.
    I am aware I'm in need of better pictures, less selfies too. I swear I'm not very photogenic at the best of times, but taking pictures of myself? Even worse!
    I know you haven't tested it out, but I meant. Are you confident in person, or you quite shy? Like keeping your head down, no eye contact kind of thing?
    I guess it depends who I'm with. If I meet a group of people for the first time (as was the experience with meetup) then I;m usually quiet and reserved, I listen and jump in when I can. That said, the second meet was much more sociable, and I found myself having integrated well. There was more alcohol involved that time though.

    Around people I know, I'm fine, be that at work, out with friends, family reunion etc. I guess it's just new people I find daunting(?) I don't look away (eyes at the floor). Not always easy knowing what to say to someone you don't know, especially as I can sometimes be unnecessarily sarcastic, and some people don't have a sense of humour. :p
    I'm surprised you haven't had a reply tbh. I read this whole thread before I searched you out. So you was pretty much what I expected. Nothing awfully bad from what I can see.
    Well, I'm doing something wrong... :)
    If you really do want to meet someone special? Keep off the escort idea, because you never know what's round the corner.
    This is preferred.
    fefster wrote: »
    If I can be honest, this is awful. This is why you can't get a woman.
    Honestly is what I requested, though this case/point isn't of significance anymore. I know what I'm trying to say, but I'm failing to put it into words, and my attempts at doing so aren't a true representation of what I mean. It's difficult to explain.
    fefster wrote: »
    Until then, it's going to get expensive....
    Or not. :)
  • Summer BreezeSummer Breeze Posts: 4,399
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    I want to see your profile :)
  • WanderinWonderWanderinWonder Posts: 3,719
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    I'm glad you've found a group to join, hopefully that'll help sort your needs/desires out. Just need to attend a meet now. ;)

    Think on it, I think it would have been one hell of an awkward experience for me anyhow.

    I wish I could be as efficient as you are at replying to everyone on your thread. :D

    Well it's just one of a number of possibilities, but it does look quite good - especially given the fact that I often want to see movies nobody I already know wants to see. :)

    I can imagine it'd potentially be rather awkward. I guess for some 'customers' it's not that big a deal to them, so they're quite happy to carry on paying. But for others, it might prove to be a real downer on their already fragile self-confidence - so perhaps they'd be better off putting their wallet away for another day.

    But I can understand your frustration: sometimes the prospect of having a 5* experience with a professional sex worker is oddly appealing (especially after some of the disappointing 'free' experiences that I've had).

    The two things that stop me from booking one are, firstly, the fact that they (probably) wouldn't be remotely interested in me would be a big turn off, and secondly, the thought of all the people they've already serviced makes me feel a little queasy.

    And it's so much nicer when you're with someone you like (who likes you back equally). I'd even go so far as to say that it's worth waiting for (plus these days we have an abundance of porn and online exchanges to keep us going ;-)).

    I'd be happy to give you some feedback btw, re. your pics. PM me if you want. :)
  • fefsterfefster Posts: 7,388
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    petertard wrote: »
    If you spend enough and pick a really top-notch escort, the experience can in itself be much more than the mundane losing of virginity. There was this guy who gave feedback on a Russian escort he had in Paris, who was also a porn actress, and she was on a special one week "tour" in that city, which meant she had time to have sex with clients or fans for about 1000 Euros, and he said it was a wonderful experience which he would always cherish.

    I've had a bad day

    and

    I rarely laugh out loud, in fact I can't remember the last time

    This did it though....
  • fefsterfefster Posts: 7,388
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    Flash525 wrote: »
    I'm glad you've found a group to join, hopefully that'll help sort your needs/desires out. Just need to attend a meet now. ;)

    Think on it, I think it would have been one hell of an awkward experience for me anyhow.

    Done!

    Hah, thanks, though I did ask for people to be blunt, so thanks! ;)

    I am aware I'm in need of better pictures, less selfies too. I swear I'm not very photogenic at the best of times, but taking pictures of myself? Even worse!

    I guess it depends who I'm with. If I meet a group of people for the first time (as was the experience with meetup) then I;m usually quiet and reserved, I listen and jump in when I can. That said, the second meet was much more sociable, and I found myself having integrated well. There was more alcohol involved that time though.

    Around people I know, I'm fine, be that at work, out with friends, family reunion etc. I guess it's just new people I find daunting(?) I don't look away (eyes at the floor). Not always easy knowing what to say to someone you don't know, especially as I can sometimes be unnecessarily sarcastic, and some people don't have a sense of humour. :p

    Well, I'm doing something wrong... :)

    This is preferred.

    Honestly is what I requested, though this case/point isn't of significance anymore. I know what I'm trying to say, but I'm failing to put it into words, and my attempts at doing so aren't a true representation of what I mean. It's difficult to explain.

    Or not. :)

    You need to understand to take constructive criticism on board. If you are thinking about how you look or whether she is a 10 and you are a 7, then you are not giving her enough attention and you will come off as charisma-less. That is what you are doing and that's all I was trying to say.
    Losing your virginity to an escort will not solve your issues, I'm sorry to say.
  • Flash525Flash525 Posts: 8,862
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    I want to see your profile
    Check your Inbox. :)
    I wish I could be as efficient as you are at replying to everyone on your thread.
    It comes with practice, and experience. ;-)
    Well it's just one of a number of possibilities, but it does look quite good - especially given the fact that I often want to see movies nobody I already know wants to see.
    Yeah, I'm the same. I joined a local(ish) film group, though have yet to attend a film with them; not for lack of trying, it's just they usually go weeknights, and typically it's been when I've been on a late shift at work. Bad timing!
    But I can understand your frustration: sometimes the prospect of having a 5* experience with a professional sex worker is oddly appealing (especially after some of the disappointing 'free' experiences that I've had).
    The problem, at least I think for me is that regardless of how the experience was, I'd know in the back of my mind that it wasn't real, and I think that would play on me.
    The two things that stop me from booking one are, firstly, the fact that they (probably) wouldn't be remotely interested in me would be a big turn off, and secondly, the thought of all the people they've already serviced makes me feel a little queasy.
    There is this also.
    I'd be happy to give you some feedback btw, re. your pics. PM me if you want.
    You'd best check your Inbox too. :)
    fefster wrote: »
    You need to understand to take constructive criticism on board.
    I can, and am doing. :)
    fefster wrote: »
    If you are thinking about how you look or whether she is a 10 and you are a 7, then you are not giving her enough attention and you will come off as charisma-less.
    Well, the first important thing to note here is that short of meeting these people, none of them know what I think about them.

    The whole rating phrase though was probably taken out of context. As I've said, I'm not quite sure how to word it. I'll refrain from detailing real life encounters (cause hell, there's none to share) but when I'm browsing these dating websites, I'm not one of these people who just click yes, yes, yes.

    If a profile picture from the featured members list or search results draws my attention, I'll go and take a look. Said person doesn't have to be a model or anything; it's usually just if the picture in question strikes me. They're only thumbnail so not always a true representation of said person.

    If/When I am then on their profile, I'll look at them (obviously) and decide whether I find them attractive or not; do note, on my profile I've stated that I wouldn't mind making new friends whilst on the quest for a relationship (not exact words). If people don't have a profile, it's rare that I'll message them (I figure they're not taking the game seriously enough), though occasionally something will stand out in a picture, and I'll act on it.

    Otherwise, I'll have a read, and if there's common interests or something worthy of note, I'll again act on it. These people don't have to be supermodels either. In fact, it's these sort of people (the supermodels) that I'm less likely to contact because I feel they're whey out of my league; the same goes for the petite looking ones. Often, pictures can tell a thousand words, and when I look at these people, I'm pretty certain they'd not be interested; the few I have messaged (there's always an exception) haven't replied anyway; as I initially suspected.

    I hope that helps clear the rating aspect up. I don't go onto these sites and think "she's a 2, she's a 7 and she's a 10", I go on there and analyze whether or not there's going to be mutual appeal/attraction, and sure, that's not always easy to judge, but I think it's known whether a certain person (or type of person) is likely to share romantic interest.
    fefster wrote: »
    Losing your virginity to an escort will not solve your issues, I'm sorry to say.
    The idea has long since faded. :)
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