Seeing two people at once - Good or bad?
mizhog
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Ive been out with this one guy 4 times, not slept with him yet, and i went on a date with this other guy this week, and we hit it off and are going out again. Im seeing the first guy tonight and the other guy tomorrow. And I am planning on seeing a third in a few days. I just split up with my ex last month so wanted to have some fun. I quite like the 2 ive met so far, and we text quite alot back and forth. Why do i feel a bit guilty. They could be doing the same as me. Nothing wrong with playing the field a bit is there?
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None at all. In fact, I doubt you feel guilty at all. You're probably trying to rub it in your ex's face at that, aswell. Have fun:D
As long as none of them are under the impression that they are your one and only, then there should be no problem at all. To avoid upset down the line you should make that clear at the outset and they can decide if they want to spend time with you on that basis. All open and above board like.
Agreed.
Do make it clear to them that you're seeing other people, though, in case they're taking it more seriously than you may expect.
A guy I was seeing wasn't happy when he found out. He asked if we could go out on a certain evening and I said no because I'd be on a date with the other guy that evening, which prompted his WTF?! reaction.
His reaction took me by surprise. I didn't realise until then that in his mind, dating someone more than twice marked the beginning of a relationship. News to me.
That is all.
They typed that whole paragraph out though, very clever toddler.
Seconded.
But if they don't know you're seeing them both at the same time then it's very wrong, deceitful and just shows a complete lack of class and respect for others on your part.