Alot of people find it very hard to be the 'right' weight. I'm one of those people and its frustrating as i'd love to be a bit more curvy and have a bit of a bum! Im not having a go at the OP but i had lots of people say im so skinny, and find it quite offensive really. Espcially when these people arent close to me. I wouldnt dream of going up to someone and saying 'you're really skinny'.
Alot of people find it very hard to be the 'right' weight. I'm one of those people and its frustrating as i'd love to be a bit more curvy and have a bit of a bum! Im not having a go at the OP but i had lots of people say im so skinny, and find it quite offensive really. Espcially when these people arent close to me. I wouldnt dream of going up to someone and saying 'you're really skinny'.
Exactly. You'd never say to someone you don't know that well 'Oh you're so fat' so why do people think it's ok to say 'oh you're so skinny.'
Its comments like that, which don't help millions of girls out there who have body issues, does it matter that melissa suffield may have put on some weight? No... as long as she is healthy and can act...
Im probably going to get jumped on here but I think there are just as many people in the world who call someone who's clearly overweight 'curvy' or 'beautiful', which is no better and does the persons concerned no good at either.
I know what you mean, the old Lucy actress and the Abi actress probably are naturally a little bigger then girls their age and new Lucy is probably a bit slimmer then most her age but it doesn't matter at all. None of them are 'fat' by any means.
Im probably going to get jumped on here but I think there are just as many people in the world who call someone who's clearly overweight 'curvy' or 'beautiful', which is no better and does the persons concerned no good at either.
Not going to jump on you, but perhaps those people really do mean it; those comments also make the person concerned feel okay about who they are rather than self-conscious about how they look.
Not going to jump on you, but perhaps those people really do mean it; those comments also make the person concerned feel okay about who they are rather than self-conscious about how they look.
True, but do they not also need some encouragement to lose weight? if people keep saying there's nothing wrong with them they will likely continue to be an unhealthy weight. I think one of the reasons why there's so many obese people nowadays is because there's no real stigma attached to being obese.
True, but do they not also need some encouragement to lose weight? if people keep saying there's nothing wrong with them they will likely continue to be an unhealthy weight. I think one of the reasons why there's so many obese people nowadays is because there's no real stigma attached to being obese.
I'm not going to jump you.
I can kind of see where your coming from. I am however going to play devils advocate here.. When I came home for summer after 1st year at uni (I was around a size 16) my dad took one look at me and just came out with 'you really need to loose weight, your getting quite fat..'
However, even though I lost weight I was still convinced that I was fat.(before i had quite a positive body image i think.. i was no stick insect but at the same time i knew i was healthy.) However I became obsessed with calorie counting and everything to do with it, and what with media presenting images of size 0 Hollywood stick insects it didn't really help matters. Fast forward I was becoming obsessive at the gym, desperate to loose those 'extra pounds' (around about now I was probs a size 12) and I got an injury. The doctor prescribed me medication that made me seriously ill. It was discovered I had crohns disease (not a disease to be laughed at). I couldn't eat, my weight dropped off, I went from a healthy size 12, to a gaunt, anemic size 8 in about 2 months. I would give anything to be healthy again. Able to eat. and my only worry was whether i would end up fat.
So you see, for me, it went badly wrong...
Sorry for this being on pd, just wanted to say...
I'm not going to jump you.
I can kind of see where your coming from. I am however going to play devils advocate here.. When I came home for summer after 1st year at uni (I was around a size 16) my dad took one look at me and just came out with 'you really need to loose weight, your getting quite fat..'
However, even though I lost weight I was still convinced that I was fat.(before i had quite a positive body image i think.. i was no stick insect but at the same time i knew i was healthy.) However I became obsessed with calorie counting and everything to do with it, and what with media presenting images of size 0 Hollywood stick insects it didn't really help matters. Fast forward I was becoming obsessive at the gym, desperate to loose those 'extra pounds' (around about now I was probs a size 12) and I got an injury. The doctor prescribed me medication that made me seriously ill. It was discovered I had crohns disease (not a disease to be laughed at). I couldn't eat, my weight dropped off, I went from a healthy size 12, to a gaunt, anemic size 8 in about 2 months. I would give anything to be healthy again. Able to eat. and my only worry was whether i would end up fat.
So you see, for me, it went badly wrong...
Sorry for this being on pd, just wanted to say...
Thanks though no need to be. (unless you gave it to me lol:eek:) Thankfully I seem to be slowly getting back to normal but it's been a sh!tty 2 years lol..
Thanks though no need to be. (unless you gave it to me lol:eek:) Thankfully I seem to be slowly getting back to normal but it's been a sh!tty 2 years lol..
Well, I'm glad you're recovering and I'm sure you'll be okay
I'm not going to jump you.
I can kind of see where your coming from. I am however going to play devils advocate here.. When I came home for summer after 1st year at uni (I was around a size 16) my dad took one look at me and just came out with 'you really need to loose weight, your getting quite fat..'
However, even though I lost weight I was still convinced that I was fat.(before i had quite a positive body image i think.. i was no stick insect but at the same time i knew i was healthy.) However I became obsessed with calorie counting and everything to do with it, and what with media presenting images of size 0 Hollywood stick insects it didn't really help matters. Fast forward I was becoming obsessive at the gym, desperate to loose those 'extra pounds' (around about now I was probs a size 12) and I got an injury. The doctor prescribed me medication that made me seriously ill. It was discovered I had crohns disease (not a disease to be laughed at). I couldn't eat, my weight dropped off, I went from a healthy size 12, to a gaunt, anemic size 8 in about 2 months. I would give anything to be healthy again. Able to eat. and my only worry was whether i would end up fat.
So you see, for me, it went badly wrong...
Sorry for this being on pd, just wanted to say...
When I came back from my first term at Uni - years ago - my mother said that I'd put on so much weight that she was embarrassed to be seen with me. I was about 10 stone and 5'5. :eek:
There's nothing faux about my concern; she's a teenage girl who appears to have lost a lot of weight and I'm the mother of a teenage girl.
Seemed like you were going for the 'my daughter is better than her' angle to me, in an almost passive agressive way. Like people have said, you don't know her or anything, so there's no need to be concerned.
Seemed like you were going for the 'my daughter is better than her' angle to me, in an almost passive agressive way. Like people have said, you don't know her or anything, so there's no need to be concerned.
WTF? Where did you come up with that?? Where the heck did I imply that?
My dd is five years younger than Hetti but because she's a ballet student I keep half an eye to make sure she's eating enough. If her arms and legs became as thin as Hetti's in the course of a few months, I would worry.
I certainly wasn't comparing my dd with Hetti, and there is no passive aggression behind my concern. I really don't know where you picked that up from.
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her legs are a delight !! hehe
I think she was born in Wales. She lives in Sussex now, I've seen her in Eastbourne town centre before.
Exactly. You'd never say to someone you don't know that well 'Oh you're so fat' so why do people think it's ok to say 'oh you're so skinny.'
Im probably going to get jumped on here but I think there are just as many people in the world who call someone who's clearly overweight 'curvy' or 'beautiful', which is no better and does the persons concerned no good at either.
I know what you mean, the old Lucy actress and the Abi actress probably are naturally a little bigger then girls their age and new Lucy is probably a bit slimmer then most her age but it doesn't matter at all. None of them are 'fat' by any means.
My mum was saying this the other day, she also thinks the dude who plays Jay is way too thin as well
Not going to jump on you, but perhaps those people really do mean it; those comments also make the person concerned feel okay about who they are rather than self-conscious about how they look.
True, but do they not also need some encouragement to lose weight? if people keep saying there's nothing wrong with them they will likely continue to be an unhealthy weight. I think one of the reasons why there's so many obese people nowadays is because there's no real stigma attached to being obese.
And Jamie Borthwick (Jay) IMO
I'm not going to jump you.
I can kind of see where your coming from. I am however going to play devils advocate here.. When I came home for summer after 1st year at uni (I was around a size 16) my dad took one look at me and just came out with 'you really need to loose weight, your getting quite fat..'
However, even though I lost weight I was still convinced that I was fat.(before i had quite a positive body image i think.. i was no stick insect but at the same time i knew i was healthy.) However I became obsessed with calorie counting and everything to do with it, and what with media presenting images of size 0 Hollywood stick insects it didn't really help matters. Fast forward I was becoming obsessive at the gym, desperate to loose those 'extra pounds' (around about now I was probs a size 12) and I got an injury. The doctor prescribed me medication that made me seriously ill. It was discovered I had crohns disease (not a disease to be laughed at). I couldn't eat, my weight dropped off, I went from a healthy size 12, to a gaunt, anemic size 8 in about 2 months. I would give anything to be healthy again. Able to eat. and my only worry was whether i would end up fat.
So you see, for me, it went badly wrong...
Sorry for this being on pd, just wanted to say...
Sorry to hear that chocolatecake
Thanks though no need to be. (unless you gave it to me lol:eek:) Thankfully I seem to be slowly getting back to normal but it's been a sh!tty 2 years lol..
Well, I'm glad you're recovering and I'm sure you'll be okay
Aw thanks. Me too hopefully... *fingers crossed*.. Hoping to be well enough to do my MA in september.. :eek::eek:
I'm sure you will be. Good luck :cool:
What a stupid comment, are you the olympic offical who called Jessica Ennis fat?
Fat, thin, black, white, asian, gay, straight, bisexual, short, tall etc....
Until THAT person expresses a concern about THEMSELVES... leave them be!
When I came back from my first term at Uni - years ago - my mother said that I'd put on so much weight that she was embarrassed to be seen with me. I was about 10 stone and 5'5. :eek:
I hope you feel better soon. Xxxx
Seemed like you were going for the 'my daughter is better than her' angle to me, in an almost passive agressive way. Like people have said, you don't know her or anything, so there's no need to be concerned.
WTF? Where did you come up with that?? Where the heck did I imply that?
My dd is five years younger than Hetti but because she's a ballet student I keep half an eye to make sure she's eating enough. If her arms and legs became as thin as Hetti's in the course of a few months, I would worry.
I certainly wasn't comparing my dd with Hetti, and there is no passive aggression behind my concern. I really don't know where you picked that up from.