Sorry but people who say they are a full time mum or similar phrases really grate my cheese. Parenting isn't a job no more than doing the dishes and the ironing is. Housework and parenting is something most people do 'as well' as working and having a job. It's just another one of those things that we all have to do that we don't get paid for like mowing the lawn.
When someone says I'm a full time parent what they really mean is, 'im unemployed but too embarrassed to tell anyone',
I didn't say that at all, I made a quip about being a parent - certainly nowhere in my post did I mention whether or not I also work.
I made a quip meaning that, whether at home or at work, you're always 'on' if you're a parent. It wasn't meant to be a serious remark, hence the grin.
There really wasn't any need to be quite so defensive.
ETA: I'm on the unemployment figures, just to clarify.
She may well be, but it's still not a job in the employment sense. It's a way of life.
Oh well then I guess that makes me a full time cleaner and housekeeper as every day I do housework. I don't get a day off from that either but I still wouldn't class it as my job.
My point is when asked about what they do for a living and work and they reply, "I'm a full time mum" what they really mean is, "I'm unemployed".
No, she's a full time mum, she's not unemployed. Stop trolling.
Usually I would be but Europe does not work to our hours and I've got specialist glass sliding door/walls from Norway coming at 8am and then have to wait till midday for some other stuff and more stuff from Sweden due at 4. Inbetween midday and 3ish though I shall take myself off for a nice pub lunch and a bit of retail sale therapy if I have enough time. On the bonus side I'm getting next Friday off instead so it's all good.
I havent seent his in a while, but you used to see women on quiz shows who's occupation was 'housewife'. I always took that to mean unemployed
Well, in further clarification, I never use the term full-time parent or full-time housekeeper (I'm a minimalist housekeeper at best ) or anything like that. I chose parenthood (albeit as part of a married couple at the time); I do use the term full-time carer - today I was at the hospital with my mother (who has cancer), I'm helping her get to and from her scan as it's over £30 by taxi each time, and she's there at least twice a week at the moment. Next week it's Dad's turn - he also has cancer and it's his turn for a scan. He's in a care home but they charge extra for the staff to accompany him for medical appointments, so I do it, willingly. Being half-term next week I'm fortunate that daughter goes for a couple of days respite, so that I can continue to look after Mum even in the holiday.
When at home with my (disabled) daughter I'm a mum. I would give anything to be at work instead, but it is what it is. I'm fairly sure one or both of my folks will die within the year, so I shall re-evaluate the work situation once they don't need me.
I certainly wasn't looking for praise for doing what millions of other mothers do, that'd just be silly
ETA: Reminder to self, no more parenthood jokes, look what it leads to!
Well, in further clarification, I never use the term full-time parent or full-time housekeeper (I'm a minimalist housekeeper at best ) or anything like that. I chose parenthood (albeit as part of a married couple at the time); I do use the term full-time carer - today I was at the hospital with my mother (who has cancer), I'm helping her get to and from her scan as it's over £30 by taxi each time, and she's there at least twice a week at the moment. Next week it's Dad's turn - he also has cancer and it's his turn for a scan. He's in a care home but they charge extra for the staff to accompany him for medical appointments, so I do it, willingly. Being half-term next week I'm fortunate that daughter goes for a couple of days respite, so that I can continue to look after Mum even in the holiday.
When at home with my (disabled) daughter I'm a mum. I would give anything to be at work instead, but it is what it is. I'm fairly sure one or both of my folks will die within the year, so I shall re-evaluate the work situation once they don't need me.
I certainly wasn't looking for praise for doing what millions of other mothers do, that'd just be silly
ETA: Reminder to self, no more parenthood jokes, look what it leads to!
Wow, i feel exhausted just reading that. I didn't mean to sound snooty, or condescending in my post, and hope i didnt insult your hard work
On the plus side, double pay and a day off in lieu.
I am curious, what are these jobs that give days off in lieu or double pay etc? Anyone bar myself that's working Monday seems to have this? I would get the "You should be lucky you have a job" line if I suggested this
I am curious, what are these jobs that give days off in lieu or double pay etc? Anyone bar myself that's working Monday seems to have this? I would get the "You should be lucky you have a job" line if I suggested this
It depends on the company, industry etc. There is no one standard rule when it comes to bank holidays.
Many jobs, retail etc now see Bank Holiday as a normal working day. I guess it must be the same for the essential services like the police, nursing etc?
Some places if a member of staff has been there a long time before Sundays and Bank Holidays became the "norm" working days they might still have a contract that says anything like Bank Holidays are extra pay/day in lieu etc and only newer staff have them as a normal working day.
I am curious, what are these jobs that give days off in lieu or double pay etc? Anyone bar myself that's working Monday seems to have this? I would get the "You should be lucky you have a job" line if I suggested this
Retail here. Those who have been here less than about 6 years "only" get time and a half plus a day in lieu.
Retail here. Those who have been here less than about 6 years "only" get time and a half plus a day in lieu.
I remember about 10-15 years ago, before we let every tom dick and harry into the country getting things like double time, days off in lieu etc, all gone now though.
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im kind of on the fence, i work 40 hours a week plus and am a half time dad..plus i have to run my house myself..
that statement sounded a little 1950s no offence..:)
I made a quip meaning that, whether at home or at work, you're always 'on' if you're a parent. It wasn't meant to be a serious remark, hence the grin.
There really wasn't any need to be quite so defensive.
ETA: I'm on the unemployment figures, just to clarify.
No, she's a full time mum, she's not unemployed. Stop trolling.
1950's?
The alternative is for her to work and for us to send our child to daycare all day. So she prefers to be a full time Mom.
I havent seent his in a while, but you used to see women on quiz shows who's occupation was 'housewife'. I always took that to mean unemployed
When at home with my (disabled) daughter I'm a mum. I would give anything to be at work instead, but it is what it is. I'm fairly sure one or both of my folks will die within the year, so I shall re-evaluate the work situation once they don't need me.
I certainly wasn't looking for praise for doing what millions of other mothers do, that'd just be silly
ETA: Reminder to self, no more parenthood jokes, look what it leads to!
Wow, i feel exhausted just reading that. I didn't mean to sound snooty, or condescending in my post, and hope i didnt insult your hard work
On the plus side, double pay and a day off in lieu.
I am curious, what are these jobs that give days off in lieu or double pay etc? Anyone bar myself that's working Monday seems to have this? I would get the "You should be lucky you have a job" line if I suggested this
It depends on the company, industry etc. There is no one standard rule when it comes to bank holidays.
Many jobs, retail etc now see Bank Holiday as a normal working day. I guess it must be the same for the essential services like the police, nursing etc?
Some places if a member of staff has been there a long time before Sundays and Bank Holidays became the "norm" working days they might still have a contract that says anything like Bank Holidays are extra pay/day in lieu etc and only newer staff have them as a normal working day.
the three queens are in..
its Sunday service on the buses
the trains are not running due to industrial action
I get every day off.
Retail here. Those who have been here less than about 6 years "only" get time and a half plus a day in lieu.
I remember about 10-15 years ago, before we let every tom dick and harry into the country getting things like double time, days off in lieu etc, all gone now though.
Me too