Yes. I was bullied pretty much intensively throughout my time at secondary school. If it were possible to go back and relieve a moment, those 5 years wouldn't be it. Worse years of my life, I wish my parents had chosen a better school- although that in itself is not a guarantee that what happend to me wouldn't have happend anyways.
10 years have since past and the memories are still as fresh today as they were then. Horrible. I believe that my depression started then and I haven't gotten rid of it. But now I'm happily married with a great job. So things do get better. But when you are in the eye of the storm, time just drags on.
Hated it beyond reason, because it separated me from my sister, cousin, mother, family and home, plus all the being treated inpersonally as one in a crowd, with no individual consideration or attention. Plus - I could go on - just how the other children were. I had nothing in common with them. The teachers were horrible and always worrying me with things they said. It was just stupendous, never-ending negativity.
I was ill so much growing up and my perception at the time was, my unhappiness at school was causing it, and I'm sure it was true. I had lots of absences and any day I managed to get in, I was usually mostly in the sickroom. I loved studying - it was just the social aspect and the separation from home and family. Everything I learnt, I learnt outside of school.
From childhood, I always swore if I had children I'd home educate them.
, I wish my parents had chosen a better school- although that in itself is not a guarantee that what happend to me wouldn't have happend anyways.
Primary school was fun though.
My parents did the opposite, chose the best academic school in the area but when i was bullied throughout the whole time they wouldnt let me leave to go to the school my friends were at.
I was ill so much growing up and my perception at the time was, my unhappiness at school was causing it...
Maybe the fact I couldn't eat before I go to school, had to go to toilet several times and had a sometimes nervy feeling is due to the stressful social aspect of things. I had no appetite in the mornings during school weeks, but over weekends, my appetite returned. If I was on my own with no one in the classroom, it would be great. If my 'friends' weren't there, that would be great as well. Primary school wasn't much better really - it was probably worse than it is now.
No but then I rarely turned up. Registration, out the back, under the fence and down town to the coffee shop...that was pretty much my school experience.
I still managed to get 6 "O" levels all grade B and above - go figure!
Primary school No, I generally liked the Primary I went too, Life was alot simpler for me back then..I had nice teachers, great friends..
But Secondary was a different story, I only ever liked Food Ecomonics and ICT, the only subjects I felt I was ever any good at;
I was mentally bullied by a girl who was supposed to be my friend my entire 5 year run at Secondary School, she made me feel like I was useless, and shook my confidence to the point I was nothing more than a mute in the corner who only spoke, when spoken too.
She never physically hurt me, but It was the things she said, and How she made me feel what damaged me, and Still does to a degree..
And It wasn't just her that bullied me, It was others, the popular girls/boys who I was basically a fodder for some of their jokes..
Some of the teachers werent much better to me either; My RE teacher told everyone in the class while I was stood there infront of her/and them, That I'd fail my GCSE exam and She was a bitchy woman too..I proved her wrong with my C..
Oh and my Last Maths teacher at Secondary school was a bit of a prat too, He'd let others to go the toliet but If I asked, he'd say No, I sometimes walked out and went anyway, He'd write snarky comments in my Maths book, basically implying I was Thick at Math, I still have them Books an all. If he'd bothered to help me, instead of knocking us down, I might have done better at my GCSE, my Maths teacher at college has helped me realize I'm not as bad at maths as I thought..
So sometimes, I like to pretend I skipped my life between 11-16 and I never went to that Secondary School..
I love the College I go to now though, Teachers are supportive even when I have issues, I did have something happen to me at college last year and they were really helpful and were there for me, I have great friends who I have a laugh with too, I'm finishing level one of computing in June, and Start level 2 in September.
Hated every minute of High School. Couldn't wait to run like the wind to get out of the place at home time. Not sure it was stress though. Not at 14,15,16.
I hated my secondary school - not sure it was stress though, more like misery. Even after all these years I still feel a bit sick on Sunday evenings though I don't even go out to work now - I work for myself, at home.
I hated my secondary school - not sure it was stress though, more like misery. Even after all these years I still feel a bit sick on Sunday evenings though I don't even go out to work now - I work for myself, at home.
Same. Hate Sunday nights and that sense of dread. I'm even stressed and nervous thinking about it.
I was too bored to be stressed by it. I was the one sat at the back gazing out of the window and sighing heavily. Wish I'd put more effort into it looking back.
I liked my school, I just didn't like some of the people.
I found sixth form more stressful (but that was through my own doing, I went completley off the rails the second year and ended up having to put a lot of work in at very short notice to ensure I got to University, which thankfully I did)
I loved every single minute of the seven years I spent at Primary School. As another poster said about their own experiences, I had great teachers, even greater friends, and generally, everything that happened to me has left me with great memories. Sadly, I can't say the same about Secondary School. I hated it from the very first day...and things just went downhill from there. I had zero confidence which didn't help matters, but the teachers didn't seem to give a damn, all my primary school friends were in different classes and the kids I was with generally hung around with their own friends. Believe me, no one was happier than I was when I finally left school!
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Now I wish I was back there.
But not when I was a kid!
10 years have since past and the memories are still as fresh today as they were then. Horrible. I believe that my depression started then and I haven't gotten rid of it. But now I'm happily married with a great job. So things do get better. But when you are in the eye of the storm, time just drags on.
Primary school was fun though.
Surrounded by girls my own age it was like I had discovered the promised land
one million per cent.
Hated it beyond reason, because it separated me from my sister, cousin, mother, family and home, plus all the being treated inpersonally as one in a crowd, with no individual consideration or attention. Plus - I could go on - just how the other children were. I had nothing in common with them. The teachers were horrible and always worrying me with things they said. It was just stupendous, never-ending negativity.
I was ill so much growing up and my perception at the time was, my unhappiness at school was causing it, and I'm sure it was true. I had lots of absences and any day I managed to get in, I was usually mostly in the sickroom. I loved studying - it was just the social aspect and the separation from home and family. Everything I learnt, I learnt outside of school.
From childhood, I always swore if I had children I'd home educate them.
My parents did the opposite, chose the best academic school in the area but when i was bullied throughout the whole time they wouldnt let me leave to go to the school my friends were at.
So yeah school was very stressful for me.
I'll be gone when my exams are done, I just need to get myself sorted for them and hopefully pass them all.
Maybe the fact I couldn't eat before I go to school, had to go to toilet several times and had a sometimes nervy feeling is due to the stressful social aspect of things. I had no appetite in the mornings during school weeks, but over weekends, my appetite returned. If I was on my own with no one in the classroom, it would be great. If my 'friends' weren't there, that would be great as well. Primary school wasn't much better really - it was probably worse than it is now.
I still managed to get 6 "O" levels all grade B and above - go figure!
But Secondary was a different story, I only ever liked Food Ecomonics and ICT, the only subjects I felt I was ever any good at;
I was mentally bullied by a girl who was supposed to be my friend my entire 5 year run at Secondary School, she made me feel like I was useless, and shook my confidence to the point I was nothing more than a mute in the corner who only spoke, when spoken too.
She never physically hurt me, but It was the things she said, and How she made me feel what damaged me, and Still does to a degree..
And It wasn't just her that bullied me, It was others, the popular girls/boys who I was basically a fodder for some of their jokes..
Some of the teachers werent much better to me either; My RE teacher told everyone in the class while I was stood there infront of her/and them, That I'd fail my GCSE exam and She was a bitchy woman too..I proved her wrong with my C..
Oh and my Last Maths teacher at Secondary school was a bit of a prat too, He'd let others to go the toliet but If I asked, he'd say No, I sometimes walked out and went anyway, He'd write snarky comments in my Maths book, basically implying I was Thick at Math, I still have them Books an all. If he'd bothered to help me, instead of knocking us down, I might have done better at my GCSE, my Maths teacher at college has helped me realize I'm not as bad at maths as I thought..
So sometimes, I like to pretend I skipped my life between 11-16 and I never went to that Secondary School..
I love the College I go to now though, Teachers are supportive even when I have issues, I did have something happen to me at college last year and they were really helpful and were there for me, I have great friends who I have a laugh with too, I'm finishing level one of computing in June, and Start level 2 in September.
Same. Hate Sunday nights and that sense of dread. I'm even stressed and nervous thinking about it.
I found sixth form more stressful (but that was through my own doing, I went completley off the rails the second year and ended up having to put a lot of work in at very short notice to ensure I got to University, which thankfully I did)
university was incredibly stressful
Then yes.