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How is your relationship with your mother?
Do you love her unconditionally or is it a one-way thing?
Do you have to work hard at it?
Do you love her unconditionally or is it a one-way thing?
Do you have to work hard at it?
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You only have one mum, cherish every moment.
Unfortunately, parents (and family) you inherit, friends you choose.
That's what I keep getting told
This is reminiscent of my mum, also passed away.
Right down to the age
It can be complicated, that parent/child relationship. It can leave lots of unresolved issues, but it might help to talk it through with someone.
She can be hard work, but she did all she could to give me a good start in life. There's no way I could let her down after that. Plus, she does her best not to become a toxic parent, which I appreciate.
For many years there was geographical distance and I didn't see her on a regular basis ........for the past 11 years she's lived nearby and I see her most days. I realise more than my sister that she's not without her faults (as any of us) - I do feel guilty for saying that though.
I really dislike these type of comments
Fine if your mum isn't a very vitriolic mean and vindictive alcoholic for example
There is nothing for me to cherish
And I am sure I am not the only one
She is not a nice woman but my daughters still like her so, for their sake, I put up with her being in my life.
My dad, however, I adore, despite his faults.
This but take 7 years off the age. I only see her about 4 times a year too so it's never for often enough. Can't wait to see her in 3.5 weeks time
It doesn't make them any less valid!
That's really made me sad. I should remember this when I'm getting irritated with my mum.:o:
I should still cherish my mother?
Who wouldn't recognise me in a line up? If she could get to the line up through her drubken haze
I will not and can not cherish anything about her
I'm the same, schmisk. I don't even like my mother, never mind cherish her.
And? Why are you raining on other people's parades?
I don't think she is, dee. She's just explaining that we don't all have lovely mums who we can cherish. Some of us have really crap mothers who don't deserve any cherishing. It does grate on me sometimes when people tell me that I should love my mother because she gave birth to me and brought me up, that I should love her because one day she will be dead and I will miss her.
Well, I'm afraid I won't miss her and I can't love her and I'd be happier if she wasn't in my life at all. It's unfortunate, but she brought it on herself by her behaviour.