I have just met a man and I was instantly attracted to him but I realise that if I sleep with him too quickly he will probably think I am a tart (which I think is double standards but never mind). I am about to go on a second date and he has already asked me for a third. I see this turning into a relationship. So how long do you think it's best to wait. BTW we are both in our 30s.
A lot depends on age
If you are 90, there might not be a next date.
Also, it depends on whether you want a relationship that lasts or a 'f**k' buddy.
If it is the latter, then I would make sure they are disease free and you know their name.
If it is the former, I think a first or second date can be too soon imo. If you see each other twice a week, I would think after a month would be right but I think you will both 'know' when the time is right.
Asking for a blow job* on a second date? Good luck bring that up in conversation people
*I had to Google 'Blowie' and one definition was:
'Large usually hairy metallic blue or green fly; lays eggs in carrion or dung or wounds' maybe I misunderstood your reply.
In my marriage, sometimes I just want it for the hell of it. Sometimes I want it to show how I feel (and he'd better show me how he feels or he's in trouble).
This has been true of all my previous relationships.
However, I have also 'used' men when I've not been interested in a relationship and so there is no emotion there to begin with.
There's no reason women should keep their mouths shut about needing sex for the sake of it at all.
with regard to the keeping your mouth shut about it, there are good reasons to not make it your public persona, i don't mean that you should be ashamed of it or owt like that. an example:
a chick friend of mine told two stories in the office (i don't work with her,) she told them about how her new boyfriend asked her if they could make love one morning and she said no, we haven't got time but we can have a quick ****, and another story where she told them that she liked it up the bum.
it definitely had an affect on the way guys and girls treated her.
This might sound odd but TBH I think giving a blowjob on a second date is even more intimate than sex.
interesting you say that. i've heard that said before. i've always thought that sex as a shared, two way experience was much more intimate than a BJ, you're far more exposed.
with regard to the keeping your mouth shut about it, there are good reasons to not make it your public persona, i don't mean that you should be ashamed of it or owt like that. an example:
a chick friend of mine told two stories in the office (i don't work with her,) she told them about how her new boyfriend asked her if they could make love one morning and she said no, we haven't got time but we can have a quick ****, and another story where she told them that she liked it up the bum.
it definitely had an affect on the way guys and girls treated her.
Well, there's a huge difference between not being ashamed of wanting sex and between letting your work colleagues that you like it up the bum.
JMO of course, but they're probably reacting to her pretty OTT and in-yer-face attitude and being given information they don't want to hear rather than her perfectly natural desire for sex.
interesting you say that. i've heard that said before. i've always thought that sex as a shared, two way experience was much more intimate than a BJ, you're far more exposed.
Sorry but your username made me laugh given the type of thread we are in:D
with regard to the keeping your mouth shut about it, there are good reasons to not make it your public persona, i don't mean that you should be ashamed of it or owt like that. an example:
a chick friend of mine told two stories in the office (i don't work with her,) she told them about how her new boyfriend asked her if they could make love one morning and she said no, we haven't got time but we can have a quick ****, and another story where she told them that she liked it up the bum.
it definitely had an affect on the way guys and girls treated her.
I had the same experience except mine was when i was a 16 year old with a saturday job at the local co-op. The women who worked on dairy were a pair of dirty old middle aged cows and used to make all manner of suggestions to younger lads. They always used to talk about sex one even telling another lad how she licked some blokes bum lol!
Val and Sue....wherever you are now. Thanks ladies! lol
Well, there's a huge difference between not being ashamed of wanting sex and between letting your work colleagues that you like it up the bum.
JMO of course, but they're probably reacting to her pretty OTT and in-yer-face attitude and being given information they don't want to hear rather than her perfectly natural desire for sex.
i know, it was an extreme example. but i think people can treat you differently if you're single and randy.
I had the same experience except mine was when i was a 16 year old with a saturday job at the local co-op. The women who worked on dairy were a pair of dirty old middle aged cows and used to make all manner of suggestions to younger lads. They always used to talk about sex one even telling another lad how she licked some blokes bum lol!
Val and Sue....wherever you are now. Thanks ladies! lol
i hate them kind of old women, they get away with stuff that if i did to a young girl i would (rightly,) go to prison for.
and whilst i'm on this it's that time of year again where the old women, who normally aren't allowed out are out drinking with the christmas parties, pinching my ass.
It depends on how you handle it though doesn't it?
If you're single, randy and on a date with someone you want to get down and dirty with, no problems.
Standing on the check-out and announcing to Linda from the perfume counter that you had it up the bum last night is bound to get you whispered about.
yeah. i was really talking about over sexualising yourself in the wrong context. obviously people who you want to do it with really need to know.
infact that is what i said to that girl. NAME# they only people you ever need to tell you like it up the bum are people with whom you're doing it and would like to put it in your bum. nobody else.
it's not even the kind of thing you should mention on a first date TBH
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A lot depends on age
If you are 90, there might not be a next date.
Also, it depends on whether you want a relationship that lasts or a 'f**k' buddy.
If it is the latter, then I would make sure they are disease free and you know their name.
If it is the former, I think a first or second date can be too soon imo. If you see each other twice a week, I would think after a month would be right but I think you will both 'know' when the time is right.
ok then if thats not for you give him a good grope..make him cum in his pants from the grope and he'll be like 'WOW'
This is getting rude now
I heard some women do that first, to see how big his tackle is.
So do I.....maybe I'm just getting old though or summat!
That describes a lot of guys from up yer way:D;)
Only kidding - they were real gentlemen
Blimey Friday has come around quickly;)
I used to stand very close to my guys to see how big they were in my day
I didn't even know what a blow job was till I was 20 and anal was only for gays
I was quite an innocent in my youth you know
Me three....I think this is a really intimate act
You're enjoying this conversation a little too much aren't you?
with regard to the keeping your mouth shut about it, there are good reasons to not make it your public persona, i don't mean that you should be ashamed of it or owt like that. an example:
a chick friend of mine told two stories in the office (i don't work with her,) she told them about how her new boyfriend asked her if they could make love one morning and she said no, we haven't got time but we can have a quick ****, and another story where she told them that she liked it up the bum.
it definitely had an affect on the way guys and girls treated her.
I am trying to put myself in this guys shoes so that i can offer valuable advice
interesting you say that. i've heard that said before. i've always thought that sex as a shared, two way experience was much more intimate than a BJ, you're far more exposed.
Well, there's a huge difference between not being ashamed of wanting sex and between letting your work colleagues that you like it up the bum.
JMO of course, but they're probably reacting to her pretty OTT and in-yer-face attitude and being given information they don't want to hear rather than her perfectly natural desire for sex.
I think that's very noble of you.
Sorry but your username made me laugh given the type of thread we are in:D
I had the same experience except mine was when i was a 16 year old with a saturday job at the local co-op. The women who worked on dairy were a pair of dirty old middle aged cows and used to make all manner of suggestions to younger lads. They always used to talk about sex one even telling another lad how she licked some blokes bum lol!
Val and Sue....wherever you are now. Thanks ladies! lol
Yup....and not much in it for me (in a getting me jollies kinda way.
i know, it was an extreme example. but i think people can treat you differently if you're single and randy.
You just made me spit coffee all over my keyboard with laughing at that!
I'm loving this thread!!!!
It depends on how you handle it though doesn't it?
If you're single, randy and on a date with someone you want to get down and dirty with, no problems.
Standing on the check-out and announcing to Linda from the perfume counter that you had it up the bum last night is bound to get you whispered about.
yes and you don't know where it came from
i hate them kind of old women, they get away with stuff that if i did to a young girl i would (rightly,) go to prison for.
and whilst i'm on this it's that time of year again where the old women, who normally aren't allowed out are out drinking with the christmas parties, pinching my ass.
More than whispered about I would think! :eek:
yeah. i was really talking about over sexualising yourself in the wrong context. obviously people who you want to do it with really need to know.
infact that is what i said to that girl. NAME# they only people you ever need to tell you like it up the bum are people with whom you're doing it and would like to put it in your bum. nobody else.
it's not even the kind of thing you should mention on a first date TBH