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Should I be annoyed?!
Dodgyraider
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Right, I'll try and word this without making myself sound like an ungrateful sod...
I'm a 27 year old bloke living alone in my own house. I've been trying to do a bit of work on the place the last few weeks with the willing and appreciated help of my folks. My dads a tradesman so it is a MASSIVE help!
I sent my dad a text yesterday about something unrelated and he responds saying he's at mine doing a few odd jobs. Now this I have absolutely no problem with and as I've said I really really appreciate the help.
However I would have loved to get a text or a phonecall the night before just saying something like 'hey, thinking about popping over tomorrow to have a look at *****'
That way I can at least make sure things are tidy and put away and nothing is on show that shouldn't be on show...!! ;-)
Should I mention something, or could this lead to awkward conversations, ie 'why do we need to let you know? It's not like anyone's going to be in?'
Anyhow, lesson learnt. Tidy up any incriminating, embarrassing artefacts just in case a helpful, unannounced visitor arrives whilst I'm out!
I'm a 27 year old bloke living alone in my own house. I've been trying to do a bit of work on the place the last few weeks with the willing and appreciated help of my folks. My dads a tradesman so it is a MASSIVE help!
I sent my dad a text yesterday about something unrelated and he responds saying he's at mine doing a few odd jobs. Now this I have absolutely no problem with and as I've said I really really appreciate the help.
However I would have loved to get a text or a phonecall the night before just saying something like 'hey, thinking about popping over tomorrow to have a look at *****'
That way I can at least make sure things are tidy and put away and nothing is on show that shouldn't be on show...!! ;-)
Should I mention something, or could this lead to awkward conversations, ie 'why do we need to let you know? It's not like anyone's going to be in?'
Anyhow, lesson learnt. Tidy up any incriminating, embarrassing artefacts just in case a helpful, unannounced visitor arrives whilst I'm out!
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im afraid you have not achieved your aim. No you should not be annoyed.
Copies of the Daily Mail?
Therein lies your first mistake!
Better to let him carry on as you've started now, or he may take offence. Maybe casually mention that he could call you the night before, should he be doing any more work.
Perhaps say that you want to make sure the house is tidy for them and if they could just let you know the night before and you'll make sure it's tidy and that you have milk/sugar/tea in the house!
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Sounds interesting?;-):D
Ha, that is almost a replica of what I did say!
And just for people's info who may be judging... I don't have any drugs / stolen property / bondage etc.
It is simply just a case of wanting to make sure I haven't left any underwear lying around, skidmarks down the toilet, dirty pots in the sink, a half drunk bottle of wine on the coffee table etc
Just general things that you don't want anyone seeing!
Oh that's disappointing
My mum and some friends of mine have keys to my house, I'd be pretty annoyed if either of them simply rocked up and let themselves in. Holding keys to someone's home is a security / emergency measure not carte blanche to have a mooch at will. I have keys to neighbours and friends, I'd never just let myself in without being asked to.
Equally, the fact that your dad let himself in to do you a favour does sort of mitigate it.
On balance, be annoyed but say nothing and if you're leaving your jazz mags lying about well, your old man has probably seen it all before. (which is what you're really afraid of ;-) perhaps some weird karma thing will take plae and your old man will "borrow" your jazz mags
The magazines?
Your Dad can turn up at mine anytime, lots of stuff he could do here as I'm useless.
I'm with you. OP should be eternally grateful and think himself lucky that dad is doing the work. There's really nothing to get worked up about here.
My dad was helping me paint my walls the other week, and while in work I got a text from him saying he'd let himself and as he thought he could get the bathroom done before I got home!
So I was in the same situation as you, so when I got in I just said I was really grateful but just let me know beforehand as I can tidy up! No harm done on either side and I think we should both be grateful our dads our so helpful!
At what age do we gain independence and privacy? Whatever number you put on it, having your own place is a [the?] big marker towards those two things.
He stated dad's been doing work around his place, so whilst he didn't know dad was popping round that particular day, it's not something that was entirely unexpected. So, given these circumstances, I don't think there's anything to complain about.
Where on earth does it say that the old boy is rocking up to do some work because he thinks he can do it better and hasn't clarified anything with his son??
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I'm a 27 year old bloke living alone in my own house. I've been trying to do a bit of work on the place the last few weeks with the willing and appreciated help of my folks. My dads a tradesman so it is a MASSIVE help.
No, it isn't.
Sorry. If I'm perfectly honest there may have also been a happy tissue on the floor that hadn't been removed... Now that IS embarrassing!
Sigh... Evidently you are missing the tone of the thread.
Sigh... Again... As mentioned several times I am grateful.
And if this is your idea of being 'worked up' you really must have led a sheltered life!
Haha it's the 30 seconds after the text lands where you're racking your brain as to what you left out...
'Is Crystal still handcuffed to the bed post??!'