Someone For Everyone
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I was actually looking for a song of the same name by an artist called Nikka Costa (which i found, in case anyone wanted to ask ) and found this rather interesting opinion piece which i thought i'd leave out there if anyone fancies a read ..
http://elitedaily.com/dating/the-harsh-truth-about-whether-or-not-there-is-someone-for-everyone/608721/
I’m afraid that would be a no – there isn’t actually someone out there for every individual. Ridiculous, say you? Think about it; how could the worst of the worst, the most screwed up and morally-deprived individuals in the world have soul mates out there just waiting for them?
http://elitedaily.com/dating/the-harsh-truth-about-whether-or-not-there-is-someone-for-everyone/608721/
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I suspect such words when given to someone are merely intended to comfort them in their loneliness, even though it is a kind of empty statement that doesn't stand up to even the slightest examination.
Hi btw, long time no see.
Everyone has the one for them
Well given how many people are in the world
Given how big the world is
What is the chance of meeting that person let alone them living in your country let alone town or somewhere where you could meet them even if you factor in the internet the chance of happening to meet the one for you must be billions to one .
Chances are someone living say in London their one could be in America -Australia -Japan.
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I agree with you actually, I do think it's more of a way of placating someone rather than a statement that actually holds any legitimacy.
Asa puts it far more eloquently than I ever could, but needless to say, as you probably well know, it's not a concept I believe in or will ever believe in. The last part of your post, for me, is where the argument falls over. What if your "someone" lives on the other side of the world ?
The chances of actually meeting that person would be infinitesimal at best.
What makes you think there is someone for everyone? Surely out there there must be at leat one person for whom nobody would be suitable - psychopaths, sociopaths, etc. Do they all have that someone out there?
I don't believe that.
Though look at how many murdering couples there have been Bonnie and Clyde-Ian Brady and Myra Hindley-Fred and Rose West so no matter how crazy you are maybe you can find another crazy person
Apologies, when you said "I have always thought that." I thought you were agreeing that "Everyone has the one for them ".
Regardng murderous couples, I'd say they are the exception, when you look at the number of individual, lone murderers. The response to such murderers from neighbours is usually "they kept themslves to themselves", etc.
The idea that people have a "soul mate" who they just happen to meet in their immediate social group is a load of auld bollix.
BIB
No that's the last thing I would want
I sometimes feel I would like someone for purely companionship purposes but that would be a relationship breaker fr me.
There is always someone with low enough standards for everyone. The lowest of the low most screwed up people are often in prison on life terms, or in america on death row and those male inmates often have relationships with women who are attracted to the lowest of the low most screwed up people.
We know that.
Maybe what should be said is
"Sooner or later most people will find someone who will do for now"
I haven't read the link, only the bit you quoted. I agree there isn't necessarily someone out there for everyone, but I would add that it has nothing to do with how good or bad the person is. Even the most ruthless killer could find someone who will share share enjoyment in their perverted practices, or you can be a perfectly nice person and never meet someone you feel a close enough connection with.
Daniel Kitson
Of course there isn't one perfect person out there for everyone. But there are plenty of people who if you met them you would be able to form a connection with.
I think the song 'If I didn't have you' by Tim Minchin says it nicely:
You couldn't buy it at any price
But of the 9.999 hundred thousand other possible loves
Statistically, some of them would be equally nice
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE
There are of course countless 'someones for everyone'.
Yes, I agree. This is where it all gets worrying, when people genuinely start to think of 'the one' in some kind of Disney fairtytale kind of way. Where fate will bring them together and they will live happily every after. I am amazed how many people well into adulthood still believe this mystical nonsense.
Anyway, I don't really think there is anyone for me despite what they say. But if someone does want me they should let me know.
Well in my post I said statistically there is not just one compatible person for everyone, but plenty.
Why do you feel there is no one out there that you would be compatible with?
john wayne gacey had a wife, fred west had a wife, charles manson just got married...
People are busy with their own lives and there is no reason why they should take time out to waste getting to know me. Maybe there is more than one, but they are probably too busy with life to see I am there. Anyway, I'm sure someone else will be just as good as me when they are ready.
There are about 7.2 billion people in the world. And just over 3.15 billion seconds in a century. You couldn't even individually greet everyone currently alive within your lifetime.
There are a ridiculous number of humans around, and humans aren't that varied that there aren't going to be multiple people that each could tolerate being around for a while. But that's not the same as actually finding them among the relatively few people out of everyone that you're going to meet, and out of those much fewer you're able to or allowed to take the time to mutually get to know.
So no hope then