Will I get cancer?
stipey2
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I am a 36 year old male. I consider myself fairly fit and healthy. I walk every day and run 2-3 times a week. However my life is constantly plagued with thoughts of getting cancer. This is with good reason. When my Mother was 45 she developed a cancerous tumour in her bowel which was caught in time. However five years later it returned and this time had spread before anything could be done. I worry that the same will happen to me. I am happily married with two beautiful daughters aged 1 and 4 and desperately want to see them grow up.
I have recently spoken to a doctor who says I qualify for cancer screening. I gues this is a massive advantage but I still worry. There is no other history of the disease in my family. In fact I have 3 grandparents all in their mid-eighties. Any thoughts anyone?
I have recently spoken to a doctor who says I qualify for cancer screening. I gues this is a massive advantage but I still worry. There is no other history of the disease in my family. In fact I have 3 grandparents all in their mid-eighties. Any thoughts anyone?
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But with all due respect, you need to see a doctor regarding the psychological issues here.
All I can say is try not to think about, you've done all you can by taking action speaking to a doctor, The more you worry, more problems could arise.
Be strong my brother.
Both my parents had bowel cancer - my father died aged 58 - my mother recovered after an op aged 61 because she detected the symptoms early enough and it eas treatable. She is now 82.
I am screened and have a colonscopy every 5 years - I know what to look out for and can have an appointment with the specialist if I ever have concerns.
My advice would be to take up the opportunity of screening (it puts your mind at rest) - I have had non cancerous polyps removed during the procedure - uncomfortable, a little unpleasant but not too painful and certainly worth the discomfort and effort IMO.
But with all due respect, you need to see a doctor regarding the psychological issues here.[/QUOTE]
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On the phychological issue - I can vouch that this can
lead to serious issues if constantly brooded on.
As a young man I came home from service overseas
convinced I had a major health problem. Despite
seeking medical advice and tests that were all returned
nagative this condition eventually led to me losing my
job in a government ministry, losing my fiancee and ruining my life for ever.
The only certainty in life is death and taxes....but remember this; life is one long joke with a cruel, bitter punch-line. It's the telling of the joke which should be remembered and admired. If your punch-line happens to be the Big C, well, maybe string out the set-up before delivering your punch-line.
If you do, then life has done one on you.
If you don't, and you've lived your whole life as if you might, you've done one on yourself.
Nobody in my extended family had ever had cancer and all just died of old age.
Except my mum who got cervical cancer this time last year and had a hysterectomy to cure her of that and my dad who was the healthiest 75 year old you could ever meet who was diagnosed with cancer of the duodenum last October which had spread to his liver. He died last month.
BTW - it's total bollox that you can prevent getting cancer by thinking positively about it.
The only thing I would say (and of course it is only a personal point of view) is that cancer is not necessarily the utter horror that it's hyped up to be. My dad was in some discomfort for about an hour on the afternoon before the morning he died but apart from that we all enjoyed the last couple of weeks of his life.
Just hope you do live to 80, 90, 100 before it gets you.
As others have said, continue going for screening and leading a healthy lifestyle.
you've more chance of getting it if you don't. Stress and worry cause all sorts of illness
As you're so sure please can you post some peer reviewed evidence that people who think they won't get cancer don't.
Stressing about negative things are not good for you. Its common sense
http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/showthread.php?t=1817307
Explain There's nothing to discuss in that thread. Why have you directed me to it?
If you don't know the answer, do you just make it up?
no, I just look around bemused thinking what the hell are they on about
DS does not like new age spiritual thinking here.
Sorry to hear about your Mum though xxx
Seeking reassurance is a key sign to an early developing anxiety disorder, and shouldn't be ignored. If possible, talk to your doctor about your feelings. Having two kids will wear you out, and the lack of sleep, reducing your neurotransmitter levels. If your Serotonin drops too far, you can start to develop an anxiety disorder. The best treatment for this is short term anti-depressants.
Easing your anxiety by checking on it will only make you more obsessed with the problem. Best to try and prevent yourself seeking reassurance about it (as hard as that may be).
I went through it very badly, and am now on the highest dose of two types of anti-depressants for life. Don't let the worry get that bad
Oh you've misunderstood.
If you can show me some evidence that people who positively think they won't get cancer don't get cancer I'm totally for new age spiritual thinking.