I - we - turn down wedding invites these days. It's usually someone who one of us works with but have never socialised with outside of work, or distant relatives who give all the impression that every relative is being rounded up to witness the glorious event. Either way you eventually you get to the age where the rigmarole of a trip to some hotel 200 miles away plus the cost of the outfits, the hotel room and the gift plus a day drinking stupid amounts because it starts at 1 so the pre-wedding bucks fizz plus 10 hours of 'partying' just leads inevitably down that path, it all becomes too much, and I'd rather buy another set of carbon wheels for the bike than blow a load of wodge on someone's wedding day.
Ours cost about £400 for a bootfull of wine from France, whatever the registry office costs were and a couple of hundred on some caterers who filled our house with a cracking spread. Nobody complained that we hadn't had owls to deliver the rings, and we're still going strong years later.
Ever body coos at a wedding about how nice the table decorations are or how nice it was to see the page boys dressed like Alan Shearer or whatever, but in reality nobody gives a rat's ar$e about it all and most blokes given half a chance wouldn't go anyway. Weddings are for girls and the bride's mother.
I got engaged last year, 2 years into our relationship. I knew it was happening. My OH insisted on 2016 because last year we moved house twice and both got new jobs that affected our income considerably and we want to pay for as much as possible.
We will be needing a loan too. I personally hate being the centre of attention and have tried many times to convince my fiancé to have our wedding at City Hall so we're not waiting so long, but he says he's only becoming a husband once and wants to give me everything I deserve. So I can't really argue because it's his day too. To be honest, the loan will just be an extension of the one we already have so we won't feel any worse off for it.
So yes, I wish mine could be sooner (4 year engagement) but I understand why it can't for others too - and do I care what others think of how much we've spent? Nope. None of their business!
Having had a big wedding the first time, I had absolutely no desire to have a big wedding the second time (nor did my husband as he'd had a big first wedding too).
So, we booked ourselves a little holiday to Las Vegas, invited no one else and had an Elvis wedding, just the two of us. It was fantastic, one of the best decisions ever. We had a completely stress free wedding day which was all about the two of us, fun, love and laughter.
Why do people take years now to get married, I mean they fall in love and he proposes and they then set the date and its usually about 3 years away.
Back in my day it was sorted within a few months, these days its - here is your cordial invite to the wedding of Wayne and Frogmella June 1st 2016 WTF!!?
What was wrong with the best man having them in his pocket FFS.
What is the whole rigmarole around weddings these days, I appreciate you want it to be a lovely day - especially the bride.
As far as I can see though these days things are just getting stupid.
I have set my wedding date by the way, its June 1st 2076 you are all welcome but Ill probably be dead.
Am I just a miserable bastard ?
It may be that the couple are waiting to see if they're fully compatible. Once they've realised that they can live together without having too many arguments, they then decide to get married and make it official. I wouldn't wait anywhere near the length of time some wait to get married. Still, that's their choice though.
Having had a big wedding the first time, I had absolutely no desire to have a big wedding the second time (nor did my husband as he'd had a big first wedding too).
So, we booked ourselves a little holiday to Las Vegas, invited no one else and had an Elvis wedding, just the two of us. It was fantastic, one of the best decisions ever. We had a completely stress free wedding day which was all about the two of us, fun, love and laughter.
The Elvis impersonator was actually very good!
You didn't even have close family there? Bloody hell.
Yes - it does make me laugh this 'it is expensive to get married' lark, when the only relevant bit to the entire day costs less than £100.
The rest is just a party for family and friends or to show off, and is really an irrelevance. We paid out of our own pocket for ours and had a wonderful day and it cost us £2,100 for the whole wedding day and £2,500 for the honeymoon. The beauty of it all was that as we were paying for it ourselves we got what we wanted.
The really silly thing is that people spend thousands on these things, get themselves or their family in debt, and in 40% of the cases their marriages end in divorce within 5 - 10 years. Is it really worth it?
Why must people demand to know why others make the lifestyle choices they do. You never stop being bloody interrogated do you. Why are you single? Then you find someone. Why don't you live together? You get a house. Why aren't you engaged. You get engaged. Why haven't you set a date? You get married. Ooooh not long til we hear the pitter patter of tiny feet.
One day i'm going to say just **** off :mad:
No matter what you do, what you have achieved, society will never be happy or satisfied with you.
Which is fine if they stopped there and did not then go on to slate everyone elses choice.:(
Exactly. There is somewhat an aura of snobbery about it all as well, whether someone paid £100,000 or £100. So fecking what, does everyone want a medal?
Ive been to all kinds of weddings, mine was the best obviously, and enjoyed them all, it's about having fun and celebration, not a pissing contest over who spent the least or most money.
You didn't even have close family there? Bloody hell.
No we didn't. One of the reasons we went away on our own was because it was proving impossible to get our two sets of parents together in this country (due to ill health) so rather than have a wedding with only one set of parents there, we went away on our own.
The people who matter to us were happy for us, we had the best day ever, and those are the important things.
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Ours cost about £400 for a bootfull of wine from France, whatever the registry office costs were and a couple of hundred on some caterers who filled our house with a cracking spread. Nobody complained that we hadn't had owls to deliver the rings, and we're still going strong years later.
Ever body coos at a wedding about how nice the table decorations are or how nice it was to see the page boys dressed like Alan Shearer or whatever, but in reality nobody gives a rat's ar$e about it all and most blokes given half a chance wouldn't go anyway. Weddings are for girls and the bride's mother.
I got engaged last year, 2 years into our relationship. I knew it was happening. My OH insisted on 2016 because last year we moved house twice and both got new jobs that affected our income considerably and we want to pay for as much as possible.
We will be needing a loan too. I personally hate being the centre of attention and have tried many times to convince my fiancé to have our wedding at City Hall so we're not waiting so long, but he says he's only becoming a husband once and wants to give me everything I deserve. So I can't really argue because it's his day too. To be honest, the loan will just be an extension of the one we already have so we won't feel any worse off for it.
So yes, I wish mine could be sooner (4 year engagement) but I understand why it can't for others too - and do I care what others think of how much we've spent? Nope. None of their business!
Each to their own, eh?
Which is fine if they stopped there and did not then go on to slate everyone elses choice.:(
So, we booked ourselves a little holiday to Las Vegas, invited no one else and had an Elvis wedding, just the two of us. It was fantastic, one of the best decisions ever. We had a completely stress free wedding day which was all about the two of us, fun, love and laughter.
The Elvis impersonator was actually very good!
It may be that the couple are waiting to see if they're fully compatible. Once they've realised that they can live together without having too many arguments, they then decide to get married and make it official. I wouldn't wait anywhere near the length of time some wait to get married. Still, that's their choice though.
You didn't even have close family there? Bloody hell.
Damned right.
Yes - it does make me laugh this 'it is expensive to get married' lark, when the only relevant bit to the entire day costs less than £100.
The rest is just a party for family and friends or to show off, and is really an irrelevance. We paid out of our own pocket for ours and had a wonderful day and it cost us £2,100 for the whole wedding day and £2,500 for the honeymoon. The beauty of it all was that as we were paying for it ourselves we got what we wanted.
The really silly thing is that people spend thousands on these things, get themselves or their family in debt, and in 40% of the cases their marriages end in divorce within 5 - 10 years. Is it really worth it?
No matter what you do, what you have achieved, society will never be happy or satisfied with you.
Exactly. There is somewhat an aura of snobbery about it all as well, whether someone paid £100,000 or £100. So fecking what, does everyone want a medal?
Ive been to all kinds of weddings, mine was the best obviously, and enjoyed them all, it's about having fun and celebration, not a pissing contest over who spent the least or most money.
No we didn't. One of the reasons we went away on our own was because it was proving impossible to get our two sets of parents together in this country (due to ill health) so rather than have a wedding with only one set of parents there, we went away on our own.
The people who matter to us were happy for us, we had the best day ever, and those are the important things.