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Do women ever ask men out on dates?
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Just wondering whether this ever happened and how often.
I hear 'she has the hots for you - go and ask her out' but why don't the girls ask the lad out much?
I hear 'she has the hots for you - go and ask her out' but why don't the girls ask the lad out much?
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There are exceptions obviously before I get shouted down with examples proving me wrong, but in my experience far less women than men tend to initiate in "asking out" a member of the opposite sex on a first date, even in this day and age.
Can any females on here explain why this seems to be the case because I don't really understand?
I guess because for some it's daunting (not that it isn't daunting for men) so it's better to hide behind old traditions that suit them? I'm not going to shout you down, I see it too.
I personally have no problem asking men out but I know a lot of women that do. I asked my last boyfriend out, and have done others. One of my pet gripes actually is precisely this, wanting equality when it suits you but wanting to stick with old fashioned traditions when it doesn't. I'm for equality, I don't expect or want special treatment because I'm female.
Plus the fact I don't take too kindly to rejection, it makes me very angry. :mad:
Same for me - but rejection just makes me hurt inside though I don't get angry.
I mean't more like rejection makes me hurt them on the outside.
I'm not sure I'd want to go out with a woman who was having her monthly meeting anyway. She's bound to in a foul mood and your chances of getting any action would be negligible...;)
It happens, it has happened and it will happen.
Even if a woman doesn't ask you out directly, some will make it very obvious they are interested.
Respect. Nothing worse than a woman who picks and chooses which part of equality she wants.
In my experience as many women ask men out as there are men who ask women out. Which is as it should be. Why should a woman hang around if there is a man she likes?
Admittedly, some are more forward about wanting to be asked out than others but even when i've been on a guaranteed shag with the village bike, i've still had to put all the work in before I got anywhere.
A good few years ago when I was young and single I went to one of those grab a granny nights where it's notorious for older divorced women to pick up young lads and it was one of those places where you couldn't fail to cop off. That is of course unless you were me. I didn't have the confidence to actually chat a woman up and ask her out so all my friends who had the gift of the gab ended up with a night cap and I went home by myself.
It's not about equality it's about power. Women feel empowered when they are the ones being chased and that's why I think despite equality, men still have to be the ones who do the chasing.
Oh, stop me right now........must step away from the keyboard.
After a post like that I simply can't imagine why you've never been asked out!
as i said elsewhere you are probably not reading the signals/signs correctly.
If that's how you describe women you've asked out, Gods only know what you'd call a woman who made the first move. I wouldn't ask a man out incase he assumed I was gagging for it. Sadly that post confirms my fear.
I agree with you on this
Some women do ask men out (especially women below 30) but I would still say its 90% men asking women
its a shame for them as i would say a womans success rate would be vastly higher than any man
Also, it could be true that the kind of guys that are shy and don't tend to ask women out much would actually make better boyfriends/partners than the more confident guys who get loads of dates but may be the type more liable to cheat or treat women badly.
Well put.
As a man who's been asked out by 2 women that I can clearly remember, I'm sure the majority of men don't think you are easy for asking them out. They sure as hell think you're interested. It's flattering and gratifying.
As for the rejection thing, us guys have to put up with that, why shouldn't you ladies?