Should be remain friends with their ex's?
Will_Loz
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I think they should never have contact. (Unless of course they have kids)
My ex was controlling an manipulative. It hit her hard that I ignored her. I have to say after the way she behaved in the past she deserved it.
Anyone here ignore their ex completely?
My ex was controlling an manipulative. It hit her hard that I ignored her. I have to say after the way she behaved in the past she deserved it.
Anyone here ignore their ex completely?
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Although it hurts, if it's over, it's over.
So I think it depends on the circumstances and people.
You really can't judge all relationships as one
You are right it depends on the circumstances. My ex was a cheat so it was a bitter experience for me.
Again correct.
Did you completely ignore the ex you did not like or just gradually reduced contact?
I just never spoke to him again since I found the sense to leave.
I've run into him in pubs and such. We say hello and go our separate ways.
It doesn't work like that for a lot of people though, not if the break-up was due to one party having an affair, for example. The resentment and hurt often lingers for years.
Over the last year our relationship has improved and I put that down to the fact that we had an open and honest chat about the past and how we felt. Since our chat we are on much better terms and we get on much better. I wouldn't say we were the best of friends but at the same time we still care about each other and there are no more negitive feelings.
Get some dignity and move on
Edit for the replies that followed - it's obviously different when kids are involved
Unfortunately he frequently annoys me and on one blinding occasion last year made me feel like rubbish through his tactless and frankly hypocritical comments. Considering he's now dating one of my friends, we're not especially on amazing terms (nor am I with the friend anymore as both of them have become exceptionally supercilious). If I could see all our mutual friends without him, I wouldn't be especially devastated.
That's a sweeping generalisation and isn't always the case at all.
Also, if children are involved then it certainly may not be the case. When myself and Mrs Fizix had our first child we made a deal, if anything ever goes wrong we have to maintain a good friendship as that's in our childrens best interests. Whether it would go like that is another matter but the principal is a good one.
Er, no.
Sometimes relationships just run their course but the people involved still remain friends.
It's definately possible. The times I've seen it though it's been more like what I said
lol, no! Seriously, that has amused me to even think about.
I dumped the said ex and he has a lovely girlfriend now. We're still friends because we were friends for seven years before we started dating and our break up was pretty mutual and easy. I may have said it was over, but he was thinking exactly the same and I got there first. We didn't talk for a couple of months but we have friends in common so naturally fell back into the friendship.
Do people seriously think everyone's relationships are exactly the same?
Tbh I think it more stems from people having this idea that male/female friendships have to have a sexual or romantic element somewhere (which they don't but people do think like that), so if there has been one in the past it will have to persist.
Well yeah. I'm still friends with a few exes. My last relationship ended about six months ago, and we had no contact for a while, but now we seem to be at a point where we can just go for a beer or watch a band as friends- it's still a BIT weird, but it gets less weird every time. It would be such a shame to have given up the friendship just because the romantic side went tits-up. I think it's worth the effort where possible.
I'm hoping to have this kind of relationship with my ex of four months. I certainly still want her in my life, but it's a bit raw still.
I'm really pleased I have as she means a lot to me as a person, but in a relationship it's awful!