Insecure boyfriend problem
I met my boyfriend about 4 months ago. We're madly in to each other and have lots in common...even the same name (I'm gay), but his insecurities are almost out of control and I don't know what to do.
He says he trusts me, but has these episodes where he's convinced I'm cheating. He's even been through my phone when I've not been in the room. His friends tell him to trust his gut instinct and be cautious, which I'm finding really unhelpful advice on both our parts.
I've NEVER cheated in my life, but nothing I say helps. I've gone to all lengths I can think of to reassure him and be helpful. I even deliberately leave my phone laying around now if I leave the room.
Some advice would be really helpful, as I love this guy and want it to work.
He says he trusts me, but has these episodes where he's convinced I'm cheating. He's even been through my phone when I've not been in the room. His friends tell him to trust his gut instinct and be cautious, which I'm finding really unhelpful advice on both our parts.
I've NEVER cheated in my life, but nothing I say helps. I've gone to all lengths I can think of to reassure him and be helpful. I even deliberately leave my phone laying around now if I leave the room.
Some advice would be really helpful, as I love this guy and want it to work.
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It's not fair to either of you if the trust isn't there because it'll cause resentment for both of you.
Sorry OP but you need to cut loose.
I fee like that's worst case scenario. the guy might have just been burnt in the past, and isn't realising that he's paranoid..
Get the hell outta dodge.
It backfires sometimes I think.
Trust is the biggest requirement for a successful relationship and if you haven't got that then you have nothing.
I can see this only getting worse.
Going through someone's phone is not a good thing - there must be trust in a relationship.
It sounds like your boyfriend has a lot of growing to do in terms of personal growth. I think you should be cautious about the future. You don't have to be a doormat and be run ragged to appease someone when HE has the issues.
Be strong.
Lol! What's gonna happen to Trevor? TBH he is no Warren! Although Warren in stenders was such a let down, he should have been the one to dethrone Phil.
This post should be in Soaps.
Everytime it will feel like he is thinking about you and you cheating, so he is showing he doesn't trust you. (even if you are not cheating)
but he is convinced that you are.
If he keeps these 'untrusting actions' towards you, week after week, month after week, then that would personally get a bit annoying and upsetting.
If there is No trust in a relationship, then perhaps it is time to walk away/ end it?
Sorry if it isn't what you wanted to hear, but just being straight with you.
This. You might as well cheat.
I agree please end it with him
Ended our relationship today. I gave it another chance, but yet again we fought, with him finishing it by slamming the front door on my arm (it was an accident).
I've recently bagged the job of a lifetime, and he hates the fact I'm working until 11pm most nights. He accused me of being too rigid with my fitness regime, too and moaned because I basically wanted a few free hours to myself this morning, to go running and get some bits of shopping in.
I was honestly convinced this guy was the one. Feel gutted tbh, but there's no hope in this relationship any more.
4 months...what would it have been like in 4 years?
Would like to thank everyone for the advice!