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Getting the bus for the first time alone!
EastEnders-1105
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Hi,
im getting the bus home from college on my own from college for the first time and im nervous
any advice?
thanks
im getting the bus home from college on my own from college for the first time and im nervous
any advice?
thanks
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you said in another thread that you're 17? Have you really not been on a bus before?
Genuine question, I really don't want it to come across harshly, it's just at about 14, I used to go into town with my friends on the bus, etc. How have you got to places in the past?
and at age 14-16 i was ill and didnt want to go out anywere
and this is about being on my own with no friends or family with me and coz i was ill its been a while since ive been on a bus
2. sit down
3 . get off when you want to.
Take a bottle of water, sandwich,book and small pillow.
Wear loose clothes and comfy shoes that can easily be slipped off.
All of the above is on the assumption that you're taking a long coach journey!
Dont worry about it. If you can cope with buying milk in a corner shop, then this is easier.
nervous about going alone as when i have been before ive always had someone with me
But what is it you're worried about? You get on bus, sit down, when you get to your destination, get off. What difference would the other person make?
O_o
If you do, then I'd recommend a visit to your G.P. and to explain this to them, and see what comes of that.
In the interim. How about some cheap alternative..such as buying a bicycle and riding to/from college..? No bus fares will quickly pay for the price of an average bike...in addition to getting you fitter - physically at least.
Bycycle might not work as i live quite away from college
Going to ask if someone could meet me and come home with me the first couple times
will let you know how it goes
thank you for your advice some really helped
Good lord, I first got a bus on my own when I was 6 years old. How times do change. :cool:
Good idea OP. Also, to take your mind off it maybe play car cricket.... try to make words out of the letters on vehicle number plates, though don't get too distracted that you miss your stop
Must be mighty :cool: to get on with life with no issues, ailments or problems.
Bit of an ill thought out observation if I may say.
Anxiety, agrophobia, general phobias can manifest at any time in anybody for no reason that psychiatry/psychology alike can fathom - the brain still being the least understood part of anatomy - given it's unique signature to us all.
Don't be too smug...my socially outgoing mother went from complete capacity to deal with others, to virtual housebound agrophobic terror in less than a year. This was in her early sixties...so maybe reign it in a little eh
Bollocks to car cricket........pocket billiards will take your mind off Everything. :eek:
Ignore all the sarcastic comments, having panic attacks can make the smallest things feel like a major thing, Just make sure you get on the right bus, have the right change for the journey and if you're unsure about where to get off ask the driver in advance, maybe take some music and earphones with you, music tends to have a calming effect on me!
its incredibly silly the things you can panic and worry over, to anyone else it would seem as straight forward as getting on the bus and sitting down but its way more difficult than that. Having someone else with you made it that bit easier because you feel you can hide behind them and you've got a security blanket.
Just take it one small step at a time, try not to over think it, if you are worried about anything research the prices, timetables and bus stops etc before you go so your confident in what you're doing. Bring headphones as I feel it can help you feel less paranoid and just go for it!
It's a bus, not a bungee jump or your first flight by rocket to the moon. Get on it, pay for your ticket or show your pass and sit down. Then get off the bus at your required destination. If you are not sure where to get off, ask the driver to tell you when.
E.g. if you're worried about what to say to the driver - practice asking for a single to wherever it is. If you're worried about not having the right money (do you know how much it is?) then make sure you have lots of change, and practice saying 'just a moment, let me find the right change for you'. If you're worried that there won't be a seat, or that you might have to sit next to a stranger, then plan some different strategies - where you'll sit if the bus is empty, where you'll sit if the bus is fuller, that sort of thing. If you're worried about getting off at the right place, then pick a spot somewhere before you need to get off, and when you get there, ring the bell and start making your way to the front, ready to get off.
Maybe have some nice music that you can listen to that might relax you a bit too, and something that can distract you if you're feeling panicky, like a phone that you can look at/text/pretend to text if you're feeling self conscious. I actually recommend not taking someone with you the first time, because you'll still have to do it on your own sometime, and I think it's like ripping off a plaster, best get it over with sooner.