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I can see this kid turning bad in front of my eyes.
Neil5234
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it just happens to be a 14 year black kid who lives opposite me and could be any kid from anywhere...he lives with his single mom with 3 sisters and a brother, the one sister got pregnant at 15 and is now in a council flat.
Anyway the lad was the most caring child I have met and would come an chat to me while I was working outside, he would do anything for you and helped anyone in our small cul-de-sac if they needed assistance in any way, his mother would leave the kids to their own devises about once a month as she visited her sister in london for the weekend.
problems started about 12 months ago as the older sisters would start having parties till the early hours with the police being called on a few occasions as bottles were smashed in the road, you could smell the weed as you passed the house in the summer as they were all in the front garden drinking, last couple of months this lad has got off the school bus with a **** in his mouth his face has changed from a lovely smiling kid to a kid who looks like he has attitude problems, he never even says hello even when you greet him these days but just looks away, he is hanging out with some hooded kids most nights now till the early hours even though he has school the next morning
i just wonder what his life would have been like if he had had a more structured disciplined family around him, I know its none of my business but I do miss the caring smiling lad that used to come and have a chat.
Anyway the lad was the most caring child I have met and would come an chat to me while I was working outside, he would do anything for you and helped anyone in our small cul-de-sac if they needed assistance in any way, his mother would leave the kids to their own devises about once a month as she visited her sister in london for the weekend.
problems started about 12 months ago as the older sisters would start having parties till the early hours with the police being called on a few occasions as bottles were smashed in the road, you could smell the weed as you passed the house in the summer as they were all in the front garden drinking, last couple of months this lad has got off the school bus with a **** in his mouth his face has changed from a lovely smiling kid to a kid who looks like he has attitude problems, he never even says hello even when you greet him these days but just looks away, he is hanging out with some hooded kids most nights now till the early hours even though he has school the next morning
i just wonder what his life would have been like if he had had a more structured disciplined family around him, I know its none of my business but I do miss the caring smiling lad that used to come and have a chat. 0
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Is the father an imprisoned drug dealer too?
I imagine he'd probably still have become a teenager.
Hope so as I would hate to see his potential go to waste, he is a very intelligent kid and wanted to be a vet, hope he pulls around.
There are 3 fathers of the kids but none are ever seen.
In the world of DS, that makes you racist and the and the thread will descend into a point scoring excercize between forum members trying to show they are outraged..:D
this, it`s normal. they usually come out the other end fine.
Sure with teachers, parents, figures of authority, but neighbours? No matter how sullen and moody I was, I can't ever remember blanking neighbours or friends.
Neil, keep the lines of communication open, even if this lad doesn't respond. Leading by example - showing politeness, consideration - is a small thing, but quite valuable I think.
A few years back I was rebuilding my Porsche in a lock-up garage and I used to get kids hanging around, asking me what I was doing, what different bits were and if they could help etc.
Couple of years further on and you'd be more likely to see the same kids drinking White Lightning, trying to uproot a tree, smash windows, chuck somebody's bicycle in the river or whatever.
Funny thing is, another couple of years on and they're now old enough that they have girlfriends, which means they need cars, which means they need a job and, being teenagers, they're busy sticking fake bonnet-vents to their cars and bolting exhaust-tips the size of soup cans to them.
It's all a bit naff but teenagers never realise they're being naff and at least they're taking a bit of pride in something.
Give it a couple more years and they'll probably have settled down completely or they'll be proper petrolheads and they'll have sheds of their own, filled with oily bits to fix.
maybe the op has upset him or his family unknowingly.
this. My first thought when I read the OP's post.
I am white.
black as a child? what colour is he now?
It is not so bloody what
It is like me saying:
Fat White Athiest Priest became head of the Co-op bank and is a well known drug user, sleep with prossies and commits fraud.
Is there something wrong with the White Community? When will the Queen and Richard Dawkins apologise for this fat guy? Something should be done.
The fact that he is White is irrelevant? Just as in the case with the OP's posts, the fact that he is black is not relevant and not sure why the OP needs to mention it.
No, I meant when I was a child.
I guess if it was MJ your question might be logical.