Me and the husband do things together, its not always feasable to do things with other people, he works mon-fri with the weekends off, and I'm the same but shifts. We have the same group of friends so 9/10 we go out together. A lot of our friends have now had children, so again can't always do things with them.
I go on his works nights out etc as I know everyone there, and I know if I didn't go then they would be asking why. They were once going to put a night off until i could go!
But then their nights are never organized through the company, they do it themselves and is usually in the local pub!
We are also going to be having a joint 30th in 3 years, but thats mainly due to costs etc.
Me and the husband do things together, its not always feasable to do things with other people, he works mon-fri with the weekends off, and I'm the same but shifts. We have the same group of friends so 9/10 we go out together. A lot of our friends have now had children, so again can't always do things with them.
I go on his works nights out etc as I know everyone there, and I know if I didn't go then they would be asking why. They were once going to put a night off until i could go!
We are also going to be having a joint 30th in 3 years, but thats mainly due to costs etc.
You are planning your thirtieth birthday three years in advance :eek:
Couples that never go out separately with their own friends
That meet up during their lunch hour every day
That go to the supermarket together every weekend
That join evening classes together
That won't go to their office Christmas party because partners aren't invited.
Do you find this sweet and romantic or a bit strange? Personally, I'd find that kind of relationship a bit claustrophobic.
We go out together as we have the same friends that we see regulary, I have other friends that I occasionally go out with without him and he does the same. But our main group of friends are the same people who we have known for years. We go out to places together as he does shifts and some weeks I see him for an hour a day (30 minutes in the morning when he gets back and I am rushing around getting ready for work and 30 minutes in the evening before he goes when he is doing the rushing about) so his weekends off are nice spent doing stuff together.
We go shopping together because when just one of us goes there is always stuff that we don't think of and the other does.
I find it odd that there would be a work Christmas party where partners aren't invited.
I've worked in lots of different places and at every single one partners have NOT been invited to the xmas do. I find people who won't do stuff without their partners odd to be honest, my mum and dad's friends are like this and apart from my parents they have absolutely no other friends. Probably because my mum and dad are the only people who will put up with them.
I think it's a bit weird, yeah, but I suppose if they're happy, whatever. It does mean that they're not proper, reliable friends for anyone else though, and it's especially galling when the couple then split up and suddenly expect all their old friends - who they dropped like hot potatoes - to make time for them again.
For some reason I am picturing Hayley and Roy Cropper
My partne and I are always together but the minute we start wearing matching outfits or looking the same I shall start to worry..especially as he has a very hairy face
I haven't watched Corrie for ages. Has Haley changed her hairstyle? lol
My partner and I do everything together and it's just the way we like it.
Aside from the time when he's at work and I'm at uni or work we're together. We have the same group of friends so that doesn't make a difference together.
We don't really go on seperate nights out, mainly because we both don't really like the whole pub/club scene and because the times when we go out we like to do so in each others company.
I remember reading a thread on here a while ago about couples having seperate holidays...that is one thing I don't get. I couldn't imagine having a holiday without the man I love.
We have been together for almost 10 years and despite the fact we're joined at the hip, we always have stuff to talk about. We finish each others sentences, I can have a song in my head and he'll start randomly singing it. We are so in sync and I love it.
I can't think of anyone else I would rather spend my spare time with, he makes me smile and makes me feel so happy just by seeing him or hearing his voice.
People find us rather odd but I really don't care...I have the most amazing man in my life and nothing else in the world matters when we're together.
I am the luckiest girl in the world
The two of you sound like Howard and Hilda from Ever Decreasing Circles
I think that attitudes to this can change as your life progresses. I only ever had one partner so most of our friends were joint and when young we socialised with them together. We then had 15 years or so of going out for evenings on our own because someone had to stay in and babysit.
After that we slipped into the doing everything together because we preferred it.
It is right though that it is inevitable that one partner gets left alone and those that haven't built up their own circle of friends are then a bit snookered!
I've known my husband since I was 5 he was 6 we lived around the corner from each other, we started going out when I was 13 all our friends are the same, some have changed wives, husbands, partners over the years. We are partners in a 24hr a day property maintenance business, our Christmas parties for staff we are both there as hosts, our clients invite us both as contractors to social events. We've been married 33 years and when one of us die we will still have a huge circle of friends. We mostly do everything together and yet hardly have any quality time alone due to work.
I used to think that this was exactly how a relationship should be. :eek:
I was brought up by my Grandparents who had that kind of relationship, and I just thought that how it was meant to be! When I met my husband I was mortified to find out that he wanted to go out with his mates, I really didn't understand it because I thought when you were with someone you did everything together!
It took a while for the penny to drop, and now I shudder at the thought of such a claustrophobic relationship.
My Grandparents were happy to live their lives like that, but it's come back to bite them in the end, my nan has advanced Alzheimers and my Grandads entire life revolves around caring for her, even when he has respite he doesn't do anything because there's nothing else in his life. If they'd had their own interests then at least when something like this happens, there's a part of their life that remains the same and separate.
But his chioce yes?
An elderly Cousin of mine was married for MANY years, and worked went to the pub, football but his life revolved around his wife, she had friends and was always ringing people up, even me i miss her calls as she died a couple of years ago and it has devastated him, he has gone away for last couple of Christmas's as he can't stand to be around the things that remind him, but as i said they didn't do a lot together apart from meals parties etc he has the money to do what he wants but not the person he wants to do them with.
An Uncle of my is in the same position as your Grandad as he lives for his wife who now has Alzheimers and again he is not short of ££ but he wants to do it all, and we have all said without her he would not last long, we have all tried lots to get him to do other things but he wants to care for her , he is now 80 and does more than i do lol, he does have respite during the day and does a few things but he is happiest when she is around.
So whatever people do they do because it's their relationship and in most cases works for them, but wouldn't work for others, it's not strange it's something most people have done all their lives, they have the same friend at school and maybe college/uni best man/bridesmaid etc and then you form that bond with your partner, some do it a few times lol
No one does it the same some rely on others more than other people, does it make them wierd, no of course not, the same way some people couldn't live with another they prefer their own company, i don't find them wierd or unhealthy just they do it because it works for them, i certainly don't think you can say after xxxx years it will come back to bite them if you have had all those years living the way you have wanted.
I suppose to each their own but I would actually find a guy who only wanted to be with me all the time and had no friends or interests of his own very very boring. It would be a complete turn off to me.
Oh yeah, we either do the shopping together, or its just me, I wouldn't trust him to get half the stuff I wanted if he went himself!
Same as us, he did go once on his own when I was sick, and when he got back I couldn't believe it. He had purchased a lot of stuff we never eat. When I asked why, he just said because it was on special offer. Not much point buying it if we don't eat it, so ended up going again a few days later, lol!
Same as us, he did go once on his own when I was sick, and when he got back I couldn't believe it. He had purchased a lot of stuff we never eat. When I asked why, he just said because it was on special offer. Not much point buying it if we don't eat it, so ended up going again a few days later, lol!
Hehe, mine is like a child, he'd some back with loads of sweets/crisps, stuff for his PC etc.
Agreed. What's more a lot of partners can be a bit funny about their other halves having drunken snogs with work colleagues in the stationary cupboard, so It s generally best if they're not there to witness it...:D
There's a good chance the cupboard wouldn't be stationary if there was a drunken snog going on inside it
My partner and I do everything together and it's just the way we like it.
Aside from the time when he's at work and I'm at uni or work we're together. We have the same group of friends so that doesn't make a difference together.
We don't really go on seperate nights out, mainly because we both don't really like the whole pub/club scene and because the times when we go out we like to do so in each others company.
I don't understand this part, why does a night out have to revolve around the pub/club scene? Have you no desire to spend time with other women without men around? Is there not 1 thing in your lives that one of you likes more than the other?
I love my husband, and for the past year he's been unemployed. I am partially housebound due to illness so we've spent almost 24/7 with each other for a year. We've never had a row and we're not sick of the sight of each other BUT I couldn't imagine never going out without him again.
I enjoy having conversations that don't involve him (though they may be about him haha) and talking about different subjects that he may have no interest in whatsoever.
I have always been a tomboy but I have to admit I adore a girly night, where it's all girls together. There is nothing we can't talk to our husbands about, but sometimes it's nice to have purely female input on a topic.
I have to say the "weirdest" couple I know, in terms of their behaviour together can't go 3 hours without talking on the phone to exchange such urgencies as "what are you watching on TV" and "what did the cat eat". They also share 1 facebook, which I do find very odd especially as they have wildly different tastes.
The only problems I see with couples doing everything together is that one day one of them will die and the other is going to be utterly devastated and without a strong support network and will have to begin to make friends and do things with other people at a time when it's really the last thing you want to be thinking about. I think it's probably better to start doing this when you're together rather than it being an extra stress when you've just lost your partner.
Other than that, people can do as they like, it's not my life and I have no place to judge others.
I knew a couple that had one facebook as well, we don't but have each others passwords as I've seen me saying to him - go into my facebook and do xyz for me.
I consider my boyfriend to be my best friend so it feels natural spending a lot of time with him. We often do the shopping together but that's just practical because if one person forgets something then the other is likely to remember it! We do have our own interests though which I think keeps things healthy, you can't do everything together.
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I go on his works nights out etc as I know everyone there, and I know if I didn't go then they would be asking why. They were once going to put a night off until i could go!
But then their nights are never organized through the company, they do it themselves and is usually in the local pub!
We are also going to be having a joint 30th in 3 years, but thats mainly due to costs etc.
You are planning your thirtieth birthday three years in advance :eek:
Not really, just came to the decision we're having a joint one lol
We go out together as we have the same friends that we see regulary, I have other friends that I occasionally go out with without him and he does the same. But our main group of friends are the same people who we have known for years. We go out to places together as he does shifts and some weeks I see him for an hour a day (30 minutes in the morning when he gets back and I am rushing around getting ready for work and 30 minutes in the evening before he goes when he is doing the rushing about) so his weekends off are nice spent doing stuff together.
We go shopping together because when just one of us goes there is always stuff that we don't think of and the other does.
I reckon it's a good tactic of hers to make sure i never quit my job.
I've worked in lots of different places and at every single one partners have NOT been invited to the xmas do. I find people who won't do stuff without their partners odd to be honest, my mum and dad's friends are like this and apart from my parents they have absolutely no other friends. Probably because my mum and dad are the only people who will put up with them.
I never thought of that
Yes they are! Have you seen them?:eek:
I haven't watched Corrie for ages. Has Haley changed her hairstyle? lol
Yes I do.
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The two of you sound like Howard and Hilda from Ever Decreasing Circles
After that we slipped into the doing everything together because we preferred it.
It is right though that it is inevitable that one partner gets left alone and those that haven't built up their own circle of friends are then a bit snookered!
But his chioce yes?
An elderly Cousin of mine was married for MANY years, and worked went to the pub, football but his life revolved around his wife, she had friends and was always ringing people up, even me i miss her calls as she died a couple of years ago and it has devastated him, he has gone away for last couple of Christmas's as he can't stand to be around the things that remind him, but as i said they didn't do a lot together apart from meals parties etc he has the money to do what he wants but not the person he wants to do them with.
An Uncle of my is in the same position as your Grandad as he lives for his wife who now has Alzheimers and again he is not short of ££ but he wants to do it all, and we have all said without her he would not last long, we have all tried lots to get him to do other things but he wants to care for her , he is now 80 and does more than i do lol, he does have respite during the day and does a few things but he is happiest when she is around.
So whatever people do they do because it's their relationship and in most cases works for them, but wouldn't work for others, it's not strange it's something most people have done all their lives, they have the same friend at school and maybe college/uni best man/bridesmaid etc and then you form that bond with your partner, some do it a few times lol
No one does it the same some rely on others more than other people, does it make them wierd, no of course not, the same way some people couldn't live with another they prefer their own company, i don't find them wierd or unhealthy just they do it because it works for them, i certainly don't think you can say after xxxx years it will come back to bite them if you have had all those years living the way you have wanted.
Same as us, he did go once on his own when I was sick, and when he got back I couldn't believe it. He had purchased a lot of stuff we never eat. When I asked why, he just said because it was on special offer. Not much point buying it if we don't eat it, so ended up going again a few days later, lol!
Hehe, mine is like a child, he'd some back with loads of sweets/crisps, stuff for his PC etc.
and then the year after, he got his daughter a job
and this year, he got his son a job
its creepy as hell, they all arrive together, go on breaks together, to go lunch together and leave together
it'd drive me crazy i swear
There's a good chance the cupboard wouldn't be stationary if there was a drunken snog going on inside it
I don't understand this part, why does a night out have to revolve around the pub/club scene? Have you no desire to spend time with other women without men around? Is there not 1 thing in your lives that one of you likes more than the other?
I love my husband, and for the past year he's been unemployed. I am partially housebound due to illness so we've spent almost 24/7 with each other for a year. We've never had a row and we're not sick of the sight of each other BUT I couldn't imagine never going out without him again.
I enjoy having conversations that don't involve him (though they may be about him haha) and talking about different subjects that he may have no interest in whatsoever.
I have always been a tomboy but I have to admit I adore a girly night, where it's all girls together. There is nothing we can't talk to our husbands about, but sometimes it's nice to have purely female input on a topic.
I have to say the "weirdest" couple I know, in terms of their behaviour together can't go 3 hours without talking on the phone to exchange such urgencies as "what are you watching on TV" and "what did the cat eat". They also share 1 facebook, which I do find very odd especially as they have wildly different tastes.
Other than that, people can do as they like, it's not my life and I have no place to judge others.