No, I didn't mean that.
OP replied 'Thanks for your help myss, I'll tell him to go away' so I think he thought it was sarcastic.
Me, I agreed with you.
I didn't think it was sarcastic. A holiday would do him good. And if he wants to take me with him (and paying my fare), who am I to say no ?
:D Thank you. Funny how we can read the same thing but end up with different views because I read his post as telling his friend to go away as in go on a holiday break!
I didn't think it was sarcastic. A holiday would do him good. And if he wants to take me with him (and paying my fare), who am I to say no ?
After having re-read, I can see I made a mistake.
I thought you meant 'Ok then, I'll just tell him to get lost and stop bothering me with all this boring sh*t then shall I?'
At least you two knew what you meant!
That's a question! With lots of time and support. I find one process is a bit typical:
1. Wailing/Crying to each friend or family member
2. More crying at home
3. All cried out but feeling crap - the realisation
4. Fed-up of feeling fed-up
5. Getting back up to norm
Not as quick as that but something along the lines. I agree with the previous poster, he's had a close call of possibly making one of the biggest mistakes of his life and he's not alone either, there are probably loads of people who have been that close and had gone the whole way before finding out. Sell the ring and use the money on a holiday break.
Basically when he is ready to hear it let him know that she was not the girl he thought she was. If she were she would not have dumped him for someone else.
I do not like to make assumptions, so I will ask, is it established that she has been cheating on him?
After having re-read, I can see I made a mistake.
I thought you meant 'Ok then, I'll just tell him to get lost and stop bothering me with all this boring sh*t then shall I?'
At least you two knew what you meant!
Basically when he is ready to hear it let him know that she was not the girl he thought she was. If she were she would not have dumped him for someone else.
I do not like to make assumptions, so I will ask, is it established that she has been cheating on him?
Chocolate and gin..nice cure;):D!
That's the first thing I told him.
She wasn't cheating on him, she dumped him for some other guy.
of course Harris! we all know what you get up to on a certain other thread!
*cough* *cough*
ditto what someone else said, sure this isn't you? I think your love of Mickie James got the better of your relationship! :eek:
in all seriousness, chocolate and BEER! (not gin!)
My friend's girlfriend left him yesterday for another man. He was very much in love with her and he (and I) thought she felt the same way. He was about to propose to her, showing how serious he was and so he is really devastated now.
Any advice on what I should do to cheer him up?
Any and all help will be greatly appreciated .
There is no easy answer, he'll get over it in his own time. You can be there for him when he needs to talk, and also give him time and space when he needs it. Possibly taking him out and trying to take his mind off things for a while would help, but that's about all you can do.
of course Harris! we all know what you get up to on a certain other thread!
*cough* *cough*
ditto what someone else said, sure this isn't you? I think your love of Mickie James got the better of your relationship! :eek:
in all seriousness, chocolate and BEER! (not gin!)
It isn't me :mad:, I'm trying to help out a friend and I get ambushed :mad:!
By the way, dude, Mickie James isn't that attractive.
There is no easy answer, he'll get over it in his own time. You can be there for him when he needs to talk, and also give him time and space when he needs it. Possibly taking him out and trying to take his mind off things for a while would help, but that's about all you can do.
I'm still trying to get over a break up that happened 6 months ago. I don't think time really does heal, I think it just makes you stronger so you can cope with the loss better.
I don't think I'll ever really heal, not completely. A bright spark in my life has gone out and will never come back.
Even if I meet someone else and am happy with them, it won't change how badly hurt I've been.
I feel so sorry for your friend. Try and keep him busy doing stuff but let him have a little time to think about things and feel sad. It's all part of coming to terms with things, having some time to reflect.
I'm still trying to get over a break up that happened 6 months ago. I don't think time really does heal, I think it just makes you stronger so you can cope with the loss better.
I don't think I'll ever really heal, not completely. A bright spark in my life has gone out and will never come back.
Even if I meet someone else and am happy with them, it won't change how badly hurt I've been.
I feel so sorry for your friend. Try and keep him busy doing stuff but let him have a little time to think about things and feel sad. It's all part of coming to terms with things, having some time to reflect.
I phoned my friend and he told me that his ex called him to meet up at a cafe in order to talk things out. I'm scared that he's going to do something stupid. Should I go with him, at a different table in case she brings her new man?
My friend's girlfriend left him yesterday for another man. He was very much in love with her and he (and I) thought she felt the same way. He was about to propose to her, showing how serious he was and so he is really devastated now.
Any advice on what I should do to cheer him up?
Any and all help will be greatly appreciated .
As cliched as it sounds the only thing that truly helps in time.
Distraction may be the way forward for the next few weeks???
Make sure he isn't left alone all the time (although don't get sucked in to always being on call / available otherwise he may become dependant on you)
It's strange how when this happens to a man, we don't have other men calling the woman names and saying "well all women are b*tches".
happens the other way around and everyone rushes to demonize the bloke and blame all of life's ills on him - complete with the pre-requisite "all men are b*stards".
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I guess time will heal his wound.
After having re-read, I can see I made a mistake.
I thought you meant 'Ok then, I'll just tell him to get lost and stop bothering me with all this boring sh*t then shall I?'
At least you two knew what you meant!
Basically when he is ready to hear it let him know that she was not the girl he thought she was. If she were she would not have dumped him for someone else.
I do not like to make assumptions, so I will ask, is it established that she has been cheating on him?
I wouldn't say that. I'm a nice guy
That's the first thing I told him.
She wasn't cheating on him, she dumped him for some other guy.
of course Harris! we all know what you get up to on a certain other thread!
*cough* *cough*
ditto what someone else said, sure this isn't you? I think your love of Mickie James got the better of your relationship! :eek:
in all seriousness, chocolate and BEER! (not gin!)
There is no easy answer, he'll get over it in his own time. You can be there for him when he needs to talk, and also give him time and space when he needs it. Possibly taking him out and trying to take his mind off things for a while would help, but that's about all you can do.
It isn't me :mad:, I'm trying to help out a friend and I get ambushed :mad:!
By the way, dude, Mickie James isn't that attractive.
Thank you for your advice
I agree with you we've all been there and broken hearts do mend in time
Thank you for your opinion
lol, fair enough, all in jest though Harris.
however......kelly then
I'm sure your friend will get over it though
That's OK
Kelly Kelly...you got me there
He's starting to get even more sad I'm going to get mad at him.
Just back off if he annoys you
I don't think I'll ever really heal, not completely. A bright spark in my life has gone out and will never come back.
Even if I meet someone else and am happy with them, it won't change how badly hurt I've been.
I feel so sorry for your friend. Try and keep him busy doing stuff but let him have a little time to think about things and feel sad. It's all part of coming to terms with things, having some time to reflect.
I'm sorry that you feel sad.
Thanks for your advice
What, like a monkey or something?
*Goes to order monkey*
As cliched as it sounds the only thing that truly helps in time.
Distraction may be the way forward for the next few weeks???
Make sure he isn't left alone all the time (although don't get sucked in to always being on call / available otherwise he may become dependant on you)
Let him vent his anger - just be a good listener.
Booze also helps!!
Hijack or not, never a truer word and all that.
And given the fact that the vast majority of relationships don't last, he'll probably end up in the same boat somewhere down the line.
On the contrary, if he's that sensitive, he should do what I did and pack the whole thing in completely.