Stuff To Do On Friday/Saturday Nights
This isn’t an especially serious thread – I’m not massively ‘down’ or anything but I am at a bit of a loose end.
The situation is this: I’m a 30-year-old straight, single male, and I can’t find anything interesting to do on Friday and Saturday nights these days.
From the age of about 18 to 24, I knew at least some of my friends would be out on the town every Friday or Saturday night. I was never massively into clubbing, and I only drink moderately, but I do like bars with music, venues with live music, and traditional pubs. I didn’t go out every week, but I knew it was always there if I wanted it.
From 24 to around 28 it became much less frequent as people began to settle down into relationships, and, if I’m honest, certain members of the group fell out with each other, beyond the point of no return in some cases. However, I still had an old-style night out from time to time.
Now I’m 30. I still see the old gang once every few months or so, but it’s not the same. The conversations are nearly always about weddings and babies, the meet-ups are often overpriced meals in poor restaurants. A few of the ‘old gang’ are still single, but some have become gym obsessives. In general, the group has a lot less in common than it once did.
In some cases, people have responsibilities with babies, which I understand, and in other cases, it seems they want to stay in and watch TV every night – a bottle of wine and a DVD with their wife/girlfriend (fine sometimes, but not every night, thanks). Life moves on, the old gang is effectively dead, I get that, but what about single old me?
It hasn’t been so much of an issue recently because I’ve had financial problems and couldn’t afford to do much, but they’ll be sorted out within the next few weeks.
September will be a busy month – three weekends will be taken up with weddings and friends visiting me from further afield, but beyond that I’m looking for stuff to do.
I don’t want to spend every Friday and Saturday night between October and Christmas stuck in front of the TV with only rubbish like the X Factor for company.
Any suggestions?
The situation is this: I’m a 30-year-old straight, single male, and I can’t find anything interesting to do on Friday and Saturday nights these days.
From the age of about 18 to 24, I knew at least some of my friends would be out on the town every Friday or Saturday night. I was never massively into clubbing, and I only drink moderately, but I do like bars with music, venues with live music, and traditional pubs. I didn’t go out every week, but I knew it was always there if I wanted it.
From 24 to around 28 it became much less frequent as people began to settle down into relationships, and, if I’m honest, certain members of the group fell out with each other, beyond the point of no return in some cases. However, I still had an old-style night out from time to time.
Now I’m 30. I still see the old gang once every few months or so, but it’s not the same. The conversations are nearly always about weddings and babies, the meet-ups are often overpriced meals in poor restaurants. A few of the ‘old gang’ are still single, but some have become gym obsessives. In general, the group has a lot less in common than it once did.
In some cases, people have responsibilities with babies, which I understand, and in other cases, it seems they want to stay in and watch TV every night – a bottle of wine and a DVD with their wife/girlfriend (fine sometimes, but not every night, thanks). Life moves on, the old gang is effectively dead, I get that, but what about single old me?
It hasn’t been so much of an issue recently because I’ve had financial problems and couldn’t afford to do much, but they’ll be sorted out within the next few weeks.
September will be a busy month – three weekends will be taken up with weddings and friends visiting me from further afield, but beyond that I’m looking for stuff to do.
I don’t want to spend every Friday and Saturday night between October and Christmas stuck in front of the TV with only rubbish like the X Factor for company.
Any suggestions?
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With regards to RebelScum's post, don't get me wrong, I have no interest in hanging about in nightclubs that are very obviously aimed at the teens/early 20s market (not that I was ever massively into clubbing to begin with), but I also dislike the idea of spending every Friday/Saturday night in watching mind-numbing reality TV shows.
I'm happy to 'stay in' for five or even six nights per week, but at 30 years of age, unmarried, no children, I hope I've got plenty of fun times ahead, I just need to find out where.
Maybe you can go to the gym (or some sport you like)?
Would that be a Friday/Saturday night activity? Most sports clubs tend to take place on weeknights generally.
So if there is a dog track near enough, give it a go. Do not bet too much, keep it down to a quid win and a quid place - you will soon get the hang of getting a programme and reading the form.
Not much cop for picking up women mind you, any there are only interested in putting their money on.
Yeah, I've been to dog tracks before and had a great night out. Unfortunately, there's only one in Wales these days, and that's a dodgy flapping track that's not easy to get to. There hasn't been one near where I live since the 1970s (well before my time!).
Wow that's not depressing at all!
I don't see why someone has to withdraw socially, just because they're getting older. Some people are just more outgoing than others, irrespective of what stage of life they are at.
Plenty of older people have active social lives, without appearing like 'the sad old man by the bar'.
He's already worried he's going to the dogs
I didn't mean an overnight change of lifestyle, or not going out at all. It is just a fact that many people just stop going out as much as they used at weekends as they get older, it doesn't make them sad or boring. It doesn't mean staying at home by yourself and becoming a recluse. Occasional nights out are always good, but you get to the point where going out every weekend gets old. I do think one of the worst things you can do is think that you have to be doing something just because it's Friday/Saturday. You'll just end up with a feeling of being left out.
I still crave for this lifestyle but most of my friends are settled down in mundane relationships.
I hope my 40's aren't this boring.
I'm a very homely person, I really do enjoy staying in on weekend nights especially after a long week of work.