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Were you bullied at School?
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and if so, do you think it still has an impact on you / your life now? How you think about yourself, how confident you are, whether or not you have some self esteem issues because of it?
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Sorry if that sounds harsh but I can't bear professional victims and the past will only influence the future if you let it. It's much more empowering to just put the past behind you and take control for yourself.
This. Got over it became stronger as a person.
I don't think you sound harsh at all. Infact I applaud the fact that you had the strength of character to be able to put your demons to rest.
I was bullied,and for a time and it did cause me great problems, but then I had an epiphany...the bullies had long gone but I was now bullying myself and doing a better job than they ever did. I decided to change the things about myself that I didn't like about myself, keep the things I did..and it worked.
Exactly!
After a few years you realise that no-one even remembers it except you. You're doing yourself much more harm by dwelling on how it's "ruined" your life than anyone else ever did to you. Onwards and upwards.
You smell:p
I'll get you at playtime matey:mad::D.
I've never been bullied since.
Bullying is very tough on you when you're the victim and has had a real effect on me in RL. Made me shy and quiet and the unsocial creature I am today. Because the way I learned to deal with the bullying was to turn a blind eye to it so I ended up talking to only a select group of trusted friends. The reality is I'm easy meat for bullies so anyone who so much as pointed a finger at me I didn't talk to and that just got easier and easier.
Two or three kids in my class used to catch it from some others because they were from single parent families in the days when it was still relatively rare, and with the situation at home not giving them strength, and schools not being so hot on it back then, they were really suffering.
I've since communicated with one of them many years on and he now has a stable happy family life and career, but he said it took him years to develop his self-esteem, luckily despite all this he did well academically, perhaps driven by the one thing he felt confident with.
In primary school I was bullied until the end. It had been going for about a year and a half. Was making me feel really bad etc. Moved onto secondary school and was loving it, the bully had moved to a different school I had new friends. Then in year 9 the bully moved into my school. I was thinking crap here it comes again. I was sitting in my french class with him behind me, you could hear the insults and the constant kicking on the back of my chair, he was telling me "to fight him and how he was going to kill me and stuff". So after ignoring him for the whole lesson he came up to me at breaktime with his friends and he starting pushing me, then kicked me to the floor. I saw red and got up punched him in the face so hard I thought I'd broken my hand:D Then the rest of my year started applauding the fact I actually hit him back for once. He never started on me again.
Ever since that day it has made me stronger as a person.
The person concerned lost her OH on the way to visit their first child. Karmic boomerang :yawn:
In the end I cracked and fought back at home and at school, That was when I figured out most bully's are cowards.
Fought back like me. *High 5*:D
But then again I went through a phase of being a bully so it evened out.
I still regret the things I did to people.
He left me alone after that.
I find it very hard to trust people, and I don't find it easy to make friends.
This.
With some people it's easier but making friends with new people is always hard for me. I've just been kicked around by too many people in earlier life.
Same here.
I'm not confident at all but don't think that has any thing to do with being bullied really.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isfn4OxCPQs&feature=related
Anyway, I'm an Asperger's sufferer, so I was a particular target for bullying. Mostly, I'd put up with people chucking pens and paper balls at me. They're usually harmless. However, there was one big **** who used to kick me, trip me up, flush my head down the bog etc.
I kept on putting off getting back at him because of a lack of confidence.
I left at the end of year 11 (the school was a combi secondary school and sixth form, the sixth form was technically part of the school but academically separate, obviously). It was approaching the end of my final school day. I knew this was the day I would get back at him in a way that would make sure that he wouldn't dare retaliate. I decided to leave it right to the moment we were going out of that tip of a school for the last time.
On my way out, I went past a bunch of those metal filing cabinets that seemed to be perpetually empty in school, and just wasting space. They all had gaps inbetween them. On the way out, I found him terrorising a year 7 kid inbetween them, saying that he would get him outside school.
He couldn't hear me, I crept up behind him and gave him an almighty slam with my fist to the back of his head. He went down like a sack of potatoes, crashing into the filing cabinets, and tipping them over. Obviously, I helped him as I pushed him as he was falling, being the evil bastard that I am
Then I quickly pushed over the filing cabinet on the other side so it would land on top of him.
I pegged it after that, and he never got his own back on me, because he never saw who it was who did this to him.