following on from my thread.... we have been chatting for the past few days etc and it seems fine. we are going meet up tonight and go for a run in the car. should i keep the convo light and don't discuss our problems too much? or just pretend this is like a first date again that type of thing?
hard to give advice when we dont know why she dumped you in the first place.
Sounds to me she had "fun" with someone else and hence why she didn't miss you much.
Now she's back and all alone she wants your attention.
Either way I think she's a fickle woman who frankly doesn't deserve you if she can toss you aside after 3 weeks of absence.
This. Don't go for a 'run in the car' (is that a euphemism for something?). In fact, cut off all contact and move on. She shagged someone else, or came close to it, and she'll do it again if you get back together.
this is a genuine story and we are both in our 20's
its easy to say move on.....
Yeah, I know it's not easy, and I feel for you. But the longer this goes on, the harder it will be. It really sounds from this thread (and your previous thread, when you were worried about her going away) that it's just not going to work out between you two. Sorry, mate.:(
Sounds like its been over in her head for a while and she used this holiday to create the break period. Always better just to be honest but everything is done for a reason! I also think that you knew it was over too, if I'm honest (from you previous thread!).
Move on, don't go backwards...it'll hurt like a son of a bitch for a few weeks but it'll pass!
Don't write a letter, bad idea! If you don't get a response then it'll eat you up and you may be compelled to contact her again and again and without realising it, you're verging on harassment and the very opposite to what you want to achieve!
I know it's a bit off topic, but what does "go for a run in the car" mean? Are you taking the car somewhere and then going for a run? Or running to the car? Or does it just mean going for a drive?
Have you or are you going to ask her if she met someone on holiday? Maybe she did and since being home this guy has told her there is no chance for them and now she is looking at you again.
Billy_Value, I agree with this. Don't let her pull the strings, that's an awful thing to tell you after 3 weeks away. She has had a taste for freedom, if she has bored so easily, its not a great omen exactly.
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hard to give advice when we dont know why she dumped you in the first place.
Sounds to me she had "fun" with someone else and hence why she didn't miss you much.
Now she's back and all alone she wants your attention.
Either way I think she's a fickle woman who frankly doesn't deserve you if she can toss you aside after 3 weeks of absence.
This. Don't go for a 'run in the car' (is that a euphemism for something?). In fact, cut off all contact and move on. She shagged someone else, or came close to it, and she'll do it again if you get back together.
Move on.
My thoughts exactly. I just wasn't able to express them so tactfully.
Thankfully JulesF was closer to my phrasing.
this is a genuine story and we are both in our 20's
its easy to say move on.....
It's far too hot to be tactful today.
Yeah, I know it's not easy, and I feel for you. But the longer this goes on, the harder it will be. It really sounds from this thread (and your previous thread, when you were worried about her going away) that it's just not going to work out between you two. Sorry, mate.:(
Move on, don't go backwards...it'll hurt like a son of a bitch for a few weeks but it'll pass!
Don't write a letter, bad idea! If you don't get a response then it'll eat you up and you may be compelled to contact her again and again and without realising it, you're verging on harassment and the very opposite to what you want to achieve!