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If youhad a horribly disabled child.Would you keep them or put them up for adoption?.
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I've often wondered how difficult it must be to have a child that will live out their life in pain and misery.And that's before your own life becomes intolerable.
The stress,the financial pain,the life on hold,the heartache.the misery.
Countered with the love of the child.The parental bond,the will to do your best for them.
Not judging either way.Just wondering how other people think.
PS.No one can see your vote.:cool:
The stress,the financial pain,the life on hold,the heartache.the misery.
Countered with the love of the child.The parental bond,the will to do your best for them.
Not judging either way.Just wondering how other people think.
PS.No one can see your vote.:cool:
If you had a horribly disabled child.Would you keep them,or put them up for adoption? 181 votes
I'd keep them.I owe it to them.Flesh and blood.
57%
104 votes
I'd put them up for adoption.I couldn't stand the stress.
16%
29 votes
I'd give it a go.See how it works.Keep options open.
11%
20 votes
Not sure.It's a tough one.
15%
28 votes
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That's what parenthood is all about.
I'd like to think that I would keep him / her, but I'm not sure if I'd be able to cope.
I don't have any children.So I'm not really qualified to comment on this subject.
But I can only imagine myself in the position.To be frank.I couldn't be bothered with the hassle.
I guess that's the difference between having children and not.I can't relate to parents real world feelings/bonds..
It must be the hardest thing in the world.I take my hat off to parents who crack on with it.Truly they are good people.:)
Unfortunately, we live in a world where people increasingly think about no one but themselves and are encouraged to do so.
I'm sure it would be incredibly difficult to cope with a severely handicapped child, but as their parent you have to find a way of coping.
Indeed and part of me thinks if I was unable to cope, wouldn't it be better for the child to be with someone that could? Would it be more selfish of me to keep them?
I see a lot of stories on the news about such things.I always feel happy that the parents are doing their best.But underneath,i feel they are just putting on a brave face for the cameras.I imagine them lying in their beds at night thinking 'why us?,why me?.,what did we do wrong?'.'We have a good life,and now it's all gone tits up'.
Look at some of the posts from this DS member. I've never seen him complain about looking after his disabled family, quite the opposite. I don't know how he does it. I admire him.
http://forums.digitalspy.co.uk/member.php?u=456780
That's kind of the point I was making.
The child is your child and it is your job to care for them. People who do look after a disabled child are putting them first. How ever difficult it might be to care for a disabled child, it's not half as difficult as it is for that child to get through each day.
It would break my heart to look at my severely disabled child each day and think about how much of life they will miss out on. The last person I'd be thinking about is myself.
Good on you.I'm a bit of a selfish hard hearted shitter when it comes down to it.
Maybe that's why I'm on my own.
A lot of people would be greatful to raise even a severely disabled child as their own.
Personally.i'd have them adopted rather than have a poor upbringing with parents who cursed the day they were born.
I would say the same for any child, far better in a family home where you are wanted and cared for with love than in a home where you may be fed , clothed and watered but not loved or wanted.
It must be extremely difficult to arrange your working life around caring for the child.I guess you'd have to give up your job,your income.
Brave post.Good on you.
Indeed.The folk who re-arrange their lives to cope with lifes unexpected events should be applauded.I don't think they get enough support from the system.
Good stuff.People forget that they might be disabled,but they still have feelings.Fear,happiness,sadness etc.
Very true.There are so many good kids with bad parents out there.
Churn them out and deny any responsibility.I call them 'Breeders'.
That's what I'd do.
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