I have 28G boobs and to be honest most of the time I really don't notice them and don't think that many other people do either! Its only an issue if you make it one, I'm happy with myself and my figure and I can't think of any time that I have used them to my advantage or would even think to!
Bra shopping can be a bit of a pain but specialist shops make it so much easier now that I really have nothing to complain about. Its all about being happy as you are
Wow - you dont hear about many women being under at least 30 something.....28 - cool!:D
Im a big girl a bbw and a 38HH. I was a 36F when i was a size 12, my clevage was always covered up back then but that seemed to just make them seem larger and i used to hunch over in an attempt to hide them...
now i rejoice in them i am what i am and all that bollox got to make the most of your assets and yes a pretty face or perfect figure can open doors, but a brain and a personality is what keeps you in the room.
The power they gave me to give up my gymnastics career. Yes, I'm so happy and proud that I had the power to no longer be good enoguh for what I wanted to do.
Really, why would I want to appreciate that? They're large and uncomfortable and I'm constantly getting leered at, and as a teacher I have to constantly be checking to ensure that I'm hiding them well enough.
Wow - you dont hear about many women being under at least 30 something.....28 - cool!:D
I think there are a lot more 28s and 30s than people realise. I used to think I was a 36C. Only when I started wearing a 28G/30FF did I realise just how wrong I was. It was like I'd found a whole new pair of boobs. Sooo nice.
And then I look at certain short, skinny actresses who state that they're 36C. I'm looking at them and thinking... there is no way on this earth that you are above a 28.
I think that very much depends on the person. If you're an outgoing person you may be able to handle the interest in your boobs and laugh it off or "give as good as you get". If you're shy and all men (and some women) do is comment on your boobs or stare at them it's extremely disconcerting. It's a very uncomfortable experience when in the workplace you have the boss staring at your chest.
I'm reasonably endowed, and some years back now I was at a Disco when "you can't touch this" came on. A whole gaggle of blokes danced their way round me pointing at my chest. I wanted to die. Unfortunately the disco was on a boat going up he Thames so I couldn't even get off!
I have been groped at another party, shouted at in the street; it's not a nice experience and has made me want to hide them away if I'm honest. I certainly don't see much in the way of the benefits, because I'd like to think potential boyfriends would like me for me, and potential employers like me for my skills, and not because of my boobs!
I’m sorry to hear of your bad experiences though getting groped, stared at or intimidated seems to be a hassle that all women, regardless of boobs, clothing etc seem to suffer from. Surely though negative attention is the downside of being noticed by virtually every man in the club within 10 minutes of walking in. I mean when women dress up to look nice on a night out, isn’t it to be noticed? You have the power to virtually guarantee that on every night if you want.
There are times when I’ve gone out wearing fancy dress and you really stand out and get loads of attention. Girls talking to you, pinching your arse etc. Obviously walking back to the car past the drunken chavs falling out of the kebab shops at the end of the night isn’t so great and the attention then isn’t welcome, but it’s a worthy trade for the attention I received earlier. I’d love to be able to wield that appeal all the time.
I do think some are missing the point. Clearly, big boobs aren’t going to hide a shity personality when entering a relationship, however they will get you noticed in the first place for someone to see your fabulous personality.
The power they gave me to give up my gymnastics career. Yes, I'm so happy and proud that I had the power to no longer be good enoguh for what I wanted to do.
Really, why would I want to appreciate that? They're large and uncomfortable and I'm constantly getting leered at, and as a teacher I have to constantly be checking to ensure that I'm hiding them well enough.
I think there are a lot more 28s and 30s than people realise. I used to think I was a 36C. Only when I started wearing a 28G/30FF did I realise just how wrong I was. It was like I'd found a whole new pair of boobs. Sooo nice.
And then I look at certain short, skinny actresses who state that they're 36C. I'm looking at them and thinking... there is no way on this earth that you are above a 28.
I don't understand. You don't like them, they are large and uncomfortable but discovering that they were bigger than you had thought was "sooo nice".
I dont know but i imagine that if you do go for the sexy underwear - there is always the "spilling over" effect.....i dont suppose many women like that look....!
Unless of course they went in the first place for 1/4 cup bra's!!
1/4 cup bras are fun, but without detail, not very good for wearing under white shirts or anything too shear!:eek:
The power they gave me to give up my gymnastics career. Yes, I'm so happy and proud that I had the power to no longer be good enoguh for what I wanted to do.
Really, why would I want to appreciate that? They're large and uncomfortable and I'm constantly getting leered at, and as a teacher I have to constantly be checking to ensure that I'm hiding them well enough.
I think there are a lot more 28s and 30s than people realise. I used to think I was a 36C. Only when I started wearing a 28G/30FF did I realise just how wrong I was. It was like I'd found a whole new pair of boobs. Sooo nice.
And then I look at certain short, skinny actresses who state that they're 36C. I'm looking at them and thinking... there is no way on this earth that you are above a 28.
I was the same - thought I was a 34DD for years - got measure all the time in the big department stores as I never comfortable, the bras would always rub and leave a horrible red mark on me, making me think the Bras were too small ound the back for me so would try 36D's etc - then went to a small indepent Lingerie shop, measured as a 32G and never looked back !
Same as you on the celeb fron too - also my best friend thinks she is a 34 B - in reality she is probably a 28D
Coincidence that major department stores measure most womans backs to be 34 and upwards ?!?!
mm - agreed - you dont want to wear them under a sheer top or anything...
With a 1/4 cup bra - how far beneath the nipple do they come?
To expand on the pm reply, if you are desperate to find 1/4 cups try Auberge, they are French and do a lot of them, they are popular in france, but they feel very different to wear so check how your wife/girlfriend feels about them first, as they are not sensible to wear to work.
As for location of things, well it depends on the girl, obviously I am not going to explain where they come to on me, that's a bit too personal for an open forum! (and no, I am not telling you in pm!)
I’m sorry to hear of your bad experiences though getting groped, stared at or intimidated seems to be a hassle that all women, regardless of boobs, clothing etc seem to suffer from. Surely though negative attention is the downside of being noticed by virtually every man in the club within 10 minutes of walking in. I mean when women dress up to look nice on a night out, isn’t it to be noticed? You have the power to virtually guarantee that on every night if you want.
Yep, but I don't want the attention of every man, and certainly not because he's after my boobs! The kind of man who is drawn by the size of my boobs (like it's some kind of novelty!) isn't the kind of man I'm interested in tbh.
There are times when I’ve gone out wearing fancy dress and you really stand out and get loads of attention. Girls talking to you, pinching your arse etc. Obviously walking back to the car past the drunken chavs falling out of the kebab shops at the end of the night isn’t so great and the attention then isn’t welcome, but it’s a worthy trade for the attention I received earlier. I’d love to be able to wield that appeal all the time.
Get a job dressed as a chicken all day and see if you still enjoy fancy dress in a month's time! I can't take my boobs off if I've had enough like you can with dress up.
I do think some are missing the point. Clearly, big boobs aren’t going to hide a shity personality when entering a relationship, however they will get you noticed in the first place for someone to see your fabulous personality.
If they are actually interested in your personality in the first place and the boobs are a bonus. But some people are shallow and are just interested in the boobs or the physical. If I was the type of person who just wanted a one night stand and didn't care if the bloke liked me or my boobs then ok, but I'm not like that.
OH, PS. I'm an identical twin too, and we've had even more attention on that score. Blokes trying to score with both of us, do you come as a package quips. :rolleyes:
Honest no matter whether it's boobs or being a twin, it makes me feel like an object, not a person.
Yep, but I don't want the attention of every man, and certainly not because he's after my boobs! The kind of man who is drawn by the size of my boobs (like it's some kind of novelty!) isn't the kind of man I'm interested in tbh..
Thanks for taking the time to respond. But what if a guy finds large boobs sexually attractive? Is that wrong?
I don't mean that to paint you as an object but in a crowded club of women, in a bar or even going shopping there has to be a 'thing' that catches your eye in a member of the opposite sex, be it large boobs, blonde hair, long legs etc.
I understand you wanting guys to appreciate your personality but you do need a hook for them to be interested. To have a relationship there does also have to be a physical attraction. Unfortunately, and in most cases you need to have the physical attraction to then lead onto discovering the real personality.
If I saw you out and the rest of you was pretty, you'd probably catch my eye. I admit that I'd think you had a nice figure and would probably find you sexually attractive. On that basis if I had unlimitless confidence (which I don't!) I'd probably come on over to chat to you to see if your personality matched your attractive figure.
Is that scenario wrong? Is it not usual to act on sexual or physical attraction?
The difference is that in your case, you have something that means a bigger proportion of guys will have noticed you, meaning that you will have more options to choose from.
See, I think I've got an ok personality but that doesn't shine out in a crowd. I don't have a physical gift that gets me noticed and hence no one gets to see the personality hence the fancy dress example (though I take on board your response to that point)
I can understand you not wanting the attentions of some chest staring, drooling imbecile but saying you wouldn't be interested in someone drawn by the size of your boobs is interesting/strange.
That's like if you fancied a bloke because he had a good body, nice bum or was tall, him saying I'm not interested in someone who likes me because I work out, I'm tall etc
Thanks for taking the time to respond. But what if a guy finds large boobs sexually attractive? Is that wrong?
I don't mean that to paint you as an object but in a crowded club of women, in a bar or even going shopping there has to be a 'thing' that catches your eye in a member of the opposite sex, be it large boobs, blonde hair, long legs etc.
I understand you wanting guys to appreciate your personality but you do need a hook for them to be interested. To have a relationship there does also have to be a physical attraction. Unfortunately, and in most cases you need to have the physical attraction to then lead onto discovering the real personality.
If I saw you out and the rest of you was pretty, you'd probably catch my eye. I admit that I'd think you had a nice figure and would probably find you sexually attractive. On that basis if I had unlimitless confidence (which I don't!) I'd probably come on over to chat to you to see if your personality matched your attractive figure.
Is that scenario wrong? Is it not usual to act on sexual or physical attraction?
The difference is that in your case, you have something that means a bigger proportion of guys will have noticed you, meaning that you will have more options to choose from.
See, I think I've got an ok personality but that doesn't shine out in a crowd. I don't have a physical gift that gets me noticed and hence no one gets to see the personality hence the fancy dress example (though I take on board your response to that point)
I can understand you not wanting the attentions of some chest staring, drooling imbecile but saying you wouldn't be interested in someone drawn by the size of your boobs is interesting/strange.
That's like if you fancied a bloke because he had a good body, nice bum or was tall, him saying I'm not interested in someone who likes me because I work out, I'm tall etc
I do understand what you mean. For me that's not been borne out though. My boyfriends have all been people I've met through friends, who I've been introduced to, rather than them seeing me across a dance-floor and been attracted to my boobs. But we're not just talking about getting chatted up in clubs etc. Would you as a bloke like your 50-something fat female boss looking at your butt? Perhaps you'd like lots of female attention in clubs for your pert derriere, but what if a bloke fancies his chances too and gives you a little stroke on your butt to show his appreciation? This is the issue - we can't choose the attention we get!
And similarly I've never been one to just eye up a bloke's backside and approached them because of it! Maybe this is just peculiar to me, but I am far more interested in what's going on in a blokes head than what his butt looks like. If he's got a great butt and a six pack I'm all the happier, but it's not the first thing that attracts me (I usually go for a smile and twinkle in the eye, which most people can exercise the use of!).
Edited to add: I've never met any blokes in nightclubs. I've gone there to dance with friends and that's it. To me they're like cattlemarkets (to coin a phrase LOL!). I prefer meeting people who have like minded interests so will meet when there are a smaller group of people where you don't have to be a BIG personality or the one with the best backside. As for looks, we all get older, and the tight butt, six pack and boobs all start sagging and heading south.
I'm size 8, very slim and I have 32Es (nearly Fs). They look huge on me, I'm so small everywhere else that a lot of people really do think they're fake. There's good and bad points; I have a long-term boyfriend now but before that I did enjoy the fact that I could always get male attention when I was out. However, sometimes I wish I didn't get stared at. Even if I wear a t-shirt they're still obvious and I really can't get away from them. Not to mention that I've had some negative experiences with men whilst out because of them.
Buying clothes is a nightmare. For example, the other day my friend and I tried on the same strapless dress; she's a little bit bigger than me but managed to squeeze into the size 8 and looked great. The size 8 wouldn't do up round my boobs. The size 10 wouldn't either and it was too big everywhere else. Buying bras is pretty much impossible above a DD because most ranges stop there. I hate M&S bras so that's no good. La Senza is the place I find best but I basically can't buy cheap bras any more.
And as for whoever mentioned shirts...god, I haven't even tried since I was a D!
I'm trying to buy a nice dress for my summer ball at the moment and it's so difficult! And my boobs aren't even that big on the scale of things!
I hear ya honey! Tho' my boobs aren't quite as big. I'm 32D/DD.
I have exactly the same problem: size 8 tops & dresses are cut for flat-chests, so a size 8 is often too small across the boobs, but the size 10 is enormous all over. I've missed out on some really lovely clothes because of this!
The OP seems naive about the merits of the attention big bazongas get you. I've been told off on here before for complaining about being groped, stared at etc, apparently I should be grateful. So I'm glad other women say the same thing.
LOL, all women complain about their boobs, large or small. I have a very slight (size 6/8) sister who has a pair and a half, and a wife who just has a standard handful, but is otherwise normal size, 5ft6 an size 10. Both of them spend a large part of their free time wishing their boobs were different. TBH ladies, most men do not obsess over boobs, or any other part of women. We obsess over one chosen woman fairly often, and no matter what her boobs are like, we love them.
To the women blessed with natural big boobs and slim bodies ie not fat tits or fake ones.
At what point did you begin to notice, realise and fully understand the power they gave you? When did it dawn on you that for at least the next 20 years you could exploit something to allow you to rely on most guys making the first move, the effort and the hard work?
How long after you had the epiphany did you grasp that for some time you were going to be able to pick and choose, to have more options over everyone else and to be more able to snare the attention of the bloke you wanted??
Aside from wondering what the hell 'fat tits' are (women's breasts are made from fat, y'know) I think you're confused here.
I am a 16 with 36FF breasts - I'm a perfect hourglass shape. Sadly, I look matronly most of the time as a) most clothing won't fit over them, which limits what I wear b) high-street clothing is cut to a C-cup regardless of size, so I often have to go up a size which looks rubbish c) I don't want to walk around with Max Cleavage all the time but, to be honest, I'd look buxom in a burkha. Also, my underwear costs £50 per set. Which is annoying.
I tend to date guys who are interested in my brain, not my chest. Men who stare at the chest rather than my face are not people I really want to hear from. I think most men have got used to the fact breasts exist and I;ve never felt a compulsion to 'drop' the 'fact' I have them into discussion. Do you go about telling girls you have a penis? Well, then.
I’m sorry to hear of your bad experiences though getting groped, stared at or intimidated seems to be a hassle that all women, regardless of boobs, clothing etc seem to suffer from. Surely though negative attention is the downside of being noticed by virtually every man in the club within 10 minutes of walking in. .
I don't know about you, but I don't want to be sexually harrassed just because I have large breasts....or if I had blonde hair, or anything else that makes some men think they have a 'right' to annoy and pester people. I dunno, I don't go to that kind of club, but I used to in my teens and it really pissed me off - stranger hands on the arse was the reason I kept my nails long.
Aside from wondering what the hell 'fat tits' are (women's breasts are made from fat, y'know) I think you're confused here.
I am a 16 with 36FF breasts - I'm a perfect hourglass shape. Sadly, I look matronly most of the time as a) most clothing won't fit over them, which limits what I wear b) high-street clothing is cut to a C-cup regardless of size, so I often have to go up a size which looks rubbish c) I don't want to walk around with Max Cleavage all the time but, to be honest, I'd look buxom in a burkha. Also, my underwear costs £50 per set. Which is annoying.
I tend to date guys who are interested in my brain, not my chest. Men who stare at the chest rather than my face are not people I really want to hear from. I think most men have got used to the fact breasts exist and I;ve never felt a compulsion to 'drop' the 'fact' I have them into discussion. Do you go about telling girls you have a penis? Well, then.
16 and size 36ff:eek: Did you wake up one morning and think "hello -who are these 2"!:o
I do understand what you mean. For me that's not been borne out though. My boyfriends have all been people I've met through friends, who I've been introduced to, rather than them seeing me across a dance-floor and been attracted to my boobs. But we're not just talking about getting chatted up in clubs etc. Would you as a bloke like your 50-something fat female boss looking at your butt? Perhaps you'd like lots of female attention in clubs for your pert derriere, but what if a bloke fancies his chances too and gives you a little stroke on your butt to show his appreciation? This is the issue - we can't choose the attention we get!
And similarly I've never been one to just eye up a bloke's backside and approached them because of it! Maybe this is just peculiar to me, but I am far more interested in what's going on in a blokes head than what his butt looks like. If he's got a great butt and a six pack I'm all the happier, but it's not the first thing that attracts me (I usually go for a smile and twinkle in the eye, which most people can exercise the use of!).
Edited to add: I've never met any blokes in nightclubs. I've gone there to dance with friends and that's it. To me they're like cattlemarkets (to coin a phrase LOL!). I prefer meeting people who have like minded interests so will meet when there are a smaller group of people where you don't have to be a BIG personality or the one with the best backside. As for looks, we all get older, and the tight butt, six pack and boobs all start sagging and heading south.
You've led a blessed life if you've always had the opportunity to regularly meet new people in small intimate groups and that’s the only avenue you’ve ever needed. Not everyone is as fortunate and have little other avenues than the cattlemarkets you mention.
It's amazing that physical attraction doesn't seem to have been an influence in your partner/relationship selection. Are you saying that not even when younger did you ever look at a guy and think "blimey, he's good looking, I'll try to find out a little more about him".
Even as a late teen were you so wary of 'objectifying' a bloke because he was good looking that you wouldn't admit that you simply fancied him? Okay maybe not as bluntly but surely not every bloke you've been attracted to has had a wonderful mind and the fact that he hasn't got a bong eye has been a bonus.
Can you really say that when you got introduced to all the guys you mentioned that they didn't initially look at you (ie before they discovered your personality) and think "wow, she's really sexy". Or go away and think 'wow, what a busty stunner'. If not then you've lived in a world far removed from the one I've known for the last 38 years.
I’m not trying to harangue you but physical attraction plays a valuable part in partner selection. The more attractive you are, the more possibilities/options are open to you. The fact you’ve never had to lower yourself to find blokes at clubs/bars must make you think you’ve got a good strike rate. Do you always believe it’s down to your killer personality?
Aside from wondering what the hell 'fat tits' are (women's breasts are made from fat, y'know) I think you're confused here.
I am a 16 with 36FF breasts - I'm a perfect hourglass shape. Sadly, I look matronly most of the time as a) most clothing won't fit over them, which limits what I wear b) high-street clothing is cut to a C-cup regardless of size, so I often have to go up a size which looks rubbish c) I don't want to walk around with Max Cleavage all the time but, to be honest, I'd look buxom in a burkha. Also, my underwear costs £50 per set. Which is annoying.
I tend to date guys who are interested in my brain, not my chest. Men who stare at the chest rather than my face are not people I really want to hear from. I think most men have got used to the fact breasts exist and I;ve never felt a compulsion to 'drop' the 'fact' I have them into discussion. Do you go about telling girls you have a penis? Well, then.
Really, it isn't hard to work out what I mean by fat tits, is it? I'm talking about the size 20 girls who can't distinguish the roll of fat running from each armpit and meeting in the middle as not being a killer bust.
I do laugh at all the 'I date guys that are interested in my brain not my body' guff. It's delivered so contemptuously as if physical attraction is so wrong.
I'm sure you'd be thrilled if your collective boyfriends all said 'oh you were ugly as sin and I never found your body attractive but what a great personality'.
Finally, yes I know breasts exist but this thread isn't about their existence. It's about their size being relative to the attraction they receive from males.
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Wow - you dont hear about many women being under at least 30 something.....28 - cool!:D
I'm quite little, hence the name
The original OP wasn't about where to find the best clothes for big boobs but more about the attention that they receive.
Probably because people have been trying to help others by mentioning companies to buy bras from like Bravissimo, etc.
now i rejoice in them i am what i am and all that bollox got to make the most of your assets and yes a pretty face or perfect figure can open doors, but a brain and a personality is what keeps you in the room.
The power they gave me to give up my gymnastics career. Yes, I'm so happy and proud that I had the power to no longer be good enoguh for what I wanted to do.
Really, why would I want to appreciate that? They're large and uncomfortable and I'm constantly getting leered at, and as a teacher I have to constantly be checking to ensure that I'm hiding them well enough.
I think there are a lot more 28s and 30s than people realise. I used to think I was a 36C. Only when I started wearing a 28G/30FF did I realise just how wrong I was. It was like I'd found a whole new pair of boobs. Sooo nice.
And then I look at certain short, skinny actresses who state that they're 36C. I'm looking at them and thinking... there is no way on this earth that you are above a 28.
I’m sorry to hear of your bad experiences though getting groped, stared at or intimidated seems to be a hassle that all women, regardless of boobs, clothing etc seem to suffer from. Surely though negative attention is the downside of being noticed by virtually every man in the club within 10 minutes of walking in. I mean when women dress up to look nice on a night out, isn’t it to be noticed? You have the power to virtually guarantee that on every night if you want.
There are times when I’ve gone out wearing fancy dress and you really stand out and get loads of attention. Girls talking to you, pinching your arse etc. Obviously walking back to the car past the drunken chavs falling out of the kebab shops at the end of the night isn’t so great and the attention then isn’t welcome, but it’s a worthy trade for the attention I received earlier. I’d love to be able to wield that appeal all the time.
I do think some are missing the point. Clearly, big boobs aren’t going to hide a shity personality when entering a relationship, however they will get you noticed in the first place for someone to see your fabulous personality.
No, that sounded just fine...
(now where is the leering smiley when you need one?)
I don't understand. You don't like them, they are large and uncomfortable but discovering that they were bigger than you had thought was "sooo nice".
1/4 cup bras are fun, but without detail, not very good for wearing under white shirts or anything too shear!:eek:
I was the same - thought I was a 34DD for years - got measure all the time in the big department stores as I never comfortable, the bras would always rub and leave a horrible red mark on me, making me think the Bras were too small ound the back for me so would try 36D's etc - then went to a small indepent Lingerie shop, measured as a 32G and never looked back !
Same as you on the celeb fron too - also my best friend thinks she is a 34 B - in reality she is probably a 28D
Coincidence that major department stores measure most womans backs to be 34 and upwards ?!?!
mm - agreed - you dont want to wear them under a sheer top or anything...
With a 1/4 cup bra - how far beneath the nipple do they come?
To expand on the pm reply, if you are desperate to find 1/4 cups try Auberge, they are French and do a lot of them, they are popular in france, but they feel very different to wear so check how your wife/girlfriend feels about them first, as they are not sensible to wear to work.
As for location of things, well it depends on the girl, obviously I am not going to explain where they come to on me, that's a bit too personal for an open forum! (and no, I am not telling you in pm!)
No, wearing a bra that fit better was nice because it physically felt more comfortable.
Roger that. Thanks for the clarity.
Get a job dressed as a chicken all day and see if you still enjoy fancy dress in a month's time! I can't take my boobs off if I've had enough like you can with dress up.
If they are actually interested in your personality in the first place and the boobs are a bonus. But some people are shallow and are just interested in the boobs or the physical. If I was the type of person who just wanted a one night stand and didn't care if the bloke liked me or my boobs then ok, but I'm not like that.
OH, PS. I'm an identical twin too, and we've had even more attention on that score. Blokes trying to score with both of us, do you come as a package quips. :rolleyes:
Honest no matter whether it's boobs or being a twin, it makes me feel like an object, not a person.
Thanks for taking the time to respond. But what if a guy finds large boobs sexually attractive? Is that wrong?
I don't mean that to paint you as an object but in a crowded club of women, in a bar or even going shopping there has to be a 'thing' that catches your eye in a member of the opposite sex, be it large boobs, blonde hair, long legs etc.
I understand you wanting guys to appreciate your personality but you do need a hook for them to be interested. To have a relationship there does also have to be a physical attraction. Unfortunately, and in most cases you need to have the physical attraction to then lead onto discovering the real personality.
If I saw you out and the rest of you was pretty, you'd probably catch my eye. I admit that I'd think you had a nice figure and would probably find you sexually attractive. On that basis if I had unlimitless confidence (which I don't!) I'd probably come on over to chat to you to see if your personality matched your attractive figure.
Is that scenario wrong? Is it not usual to act on sexual or physical attraction?
The difference is that in your case, you have something that means a bigger proportion of guys will have noticed you, meaning that you will have more options to choose from.
See, I think I've got an ok personality but that doesn't shine out in a crowd. I don't have a physical gift that gets me noticed and hence no one gets to see the personality hence the fancy dress example (though I take on board your response to that point)
I can understand you not wanting the attentions of some chest staring, drooling imbecile but saying you wouldn't be interested in someone drawn by the size of your boobs is interesting/strange.
That's like if you fancied a bloke because he had a good body, nice bum or was tall, him saying I'm not interested in someone who likes me because I work out, I'm tall etc
I do understand what you mean. For me that's not been borne out though. My boyfriends have all been people I've met through friends, who I've been introduced to, rather than them seeing me across a dance-floor and been attracted to my boobs. But we're not just talking about getting chatted up in clubs etc. Would you as a bloke like your 50-something fat female boss looking at your butt? Perhaps you'd like lots of female attention in clubs for your pert derriere, but what if a bloke fancies his chances too and gives you a little stroke on your butt to show his appreciation? This is the issue - we can't choose the attention we get!
And similarly I've never been one to just eye up a bloke's backside and approached them because of it! Maybe this is just peculiar to me, but I am far more interested in what's going on in a blokes head than what his butt looks like. If he's got a great butt and a six pack I'm all the happier, but it's not the first thing that attracts me (I usually go for a smile and twinkle in the eye, which most people can exercise the use of!).
Edited to add: I've never met any blokes in nightclubs. I've gone there to dance with friends and that's it. To me they're like cattlemarkets (to coin a phrase LOL!). I prefer meeting people who have like minded interests so will meet when there are a smaller group of people where you don't have to be a BIG personality or the one with the best backside. As for looks, we all get older, and the tight butt, six pack and boobs all start sagging and heading south.
I have exactly the same problem: size 8 tops & dresses are cut for flat-chests, so a size 8 is often too small across the boobs, but the size 10 is enormous all over. I've missed out on some really lovely clothes because of this!
The OP seems naive about the merits of the attention big bazongas get you. I've been told off on here before for complaining about being groped, stared at etc, apparently I should be grateful. So I'm glad other women say the same thing.
Aside from wondering what the hell 'fat tits' are (women's breasts are made from fat, y'know) I think you're confused here.
I am a 16 with 36FF breasts - I'm a perfect hourglass shape. Sadly, I look matronly most of the time as a) most clothing won't fit over them, which limits what I wear b) high-street clothing is cut to a C-cup regardless of size, so I often have to go up a size which looks rubbish c) I don't want to walk around with Max Cleavage all the time but, to be honest, I'd look buxom in a burkha. Also, my underwear costs £50 per set. Which is annoying.
I tend to date guys who are interested in my brain, not my chest. Men who stare at the chest rather than my face are not people I really want to hear from. I think most men have got used to the fact breasts exist and I;ve never felt a compulsion to 'drop' the 'fact' I have them into discussion. Do you go about telling girls you have a penis? Well, then.
I don't know about you, but I don't want to be sexually harrassed just because I have large breasts....or if I had blonde hair, or anything else that makes some men think they have a 'right' to annoy and pester people. I dunno, I don't go to that kind of club, but I used to in my teens and it really pissed me off - stranger hands on the arse was the reason I kept my nails long.
16 and size 36ff:eek: Did you wake up one morning and think "hello -who are these 2"!:o
You've led a blessed life if you've always had the opportunity to regularly meet new people in small intimate groups and that’s the only avenue you’ve ever needed. Not everyone is as fortunate and have little other avenues than the cattlemarkets you mention.
It's amazing that physical attraction doesn't seem to have been an influence in your partner/relationship selection. Are you saying that not even when younger did you ever look at a guy and think "blimey, he's good looking, I'll try to find out a little more about him".
Even as a late teen were you so wary of 'objectifying' a bloke because he was good looking that you wouldn't admit that you simply fancied him? Okay maybe not as bluntly but surely not every bloke you've been attracted to has had a wonderful mind and the fact that he hasn't got a bong eye has been a bonus.
Can you really say that when you got introduced to all the guys you mentioned that they didn't initially look at you (ie before they discovered your personality) and think "wow, she's really sexy". Or go away and think 'wow, what a busty stunner'. If not then you've lived in a world far removed from the one I've known for the last 38 years.
I’m not trying to harangue you but physical attraction plays a valuable part in partner selection. The more attractive you are, the more possibilities/options are open to you. The fact you’ve never had to lower yourself to find blokes at clubs/bars must make you think you’ve got a good strike rate. Do you always believe it’s down to your killer personality?
Really, it isn't hard to work out what I mean by fat tits, is it? I'm talking about the size 20 girls who can't distinguish the roll of fat running from each armpit and meeting in the middle as not being a killer bust.
I do laugh at all the 'I date guys that are interested in my brain not my body' guff. It's delivered so contemptuously as if physical attraction is so wrong.
I'm sure you'd be thrilled if your collective boyfriends all said 'oh you were ugly as sin and I never found your body attractive but what a great personality'.
Finally, yes I know breasts exist but this thread isn't about their existence. It's about their size being relative to the attraction they receive from males.