What have I got myself into??
Okay peeps, I have been talking to this guy on FB for 5 years and we have discussed meeting up many times. I have finally bitten the bullet and have arranged to meet him in Athens in Feb. ( He is Greek).
Now comes the crunch, he is quite obviously ready to ravish me the minute I get off the plane but, to be honest, I would prefer to take some time. I am only there for three days and am truly quite terrified, having not "been" with a man for blinking years.
I have been over in my head how to let him know that I am not going to jump into bed with him without sounding too prudish, (i'm not, believe me). The only other thing I may do is forfeit my airfare and cancel.
What would you do? Be gentle with me, i'm a coward.
Now comes the crunch, he is quite obviously ready to ravish me the minute I get off the plane but, to be honest, I would prefer to take some time. I am only there for three days and am truly quite terrified, having not "been" with a man for blinking years.
I have been over in my head how to let him know that I am not going to jump into bed with him without sounding too prudish, (i'm not, believe me). The only other thing I may do is forfeit my airfare and cancel.
What would you do? Be gentle with me, i'm a coward.
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This.
You have to be VERY brave going all the way to Greece to meet someone you have never met. Foreign country, foreign language and unfamiliar location. Really not great. Of course, this man could be who he says he is and completely genuine. On the other hand... he might not be.
You are (presumably) a grown woman so you can ultimately make your own mind up but do be aware of what you are doing. I also hope you have a hotel booked. As staying at his would, imo be the height of stupidity on top of the risk you are taking going there in the first place.
Just be safe and don't be putting yourself in a dangerous situation.
On the other hand, you'll have 3 glorious days in Athens, so much to see and do. A fabulous city!!! Win:win either way.
On what basis do you say that? You don't know if OP has more money than the man...
It sounds like, judging by some replies, there is like a sort of prejudice about the fact he is Greek.
I am not a stranger to Greece or Greek men, having worked there for 2 years way back when. I am pretty sure he is who he says he is, so no worries there.
Oh yes, I am going to book a hotel, it's just that I have no intention of jumping into bed with him straight away. I was just wanting to know the best way of telling him this. I think that Yeah Jackie said it well. Sex is not a foregone conclusion. Thanks.
People conning other people out of money isn't restricted to any particular nationality and it can be done online or in the 'real world'
I know that no matter how much you get to know someone online, it's not the same as getting to know someone face to face, dating and building a relationship. People can present themselves in a favourable way online and you can't know how you will feel about that person until you actually meet, face to face. You might not particularly fancy them once you meet them and that could result in unpleasantness, to say the least, if they are expecting a sexual enoounter.
Try North London
Just explain you will need to get to know each other in person too before you would want to get physical. Honestly, if he's anything but a complete arse he will be fine with it.
Have fun, stay safe and enjoy Greece!
Thanks Bex, I really do want to go to Athens as it has been years since i was there.
I am hoping he is not a complete arse, as he was understanding when I said I would prefer to have a hotel room rather than his place.
I do feel that I know enough about him to trust him in regards to him not being after my money, (as someone said). and yes, I agree with Xela M, Greek men are bloody great in bed. ( As far as I remember) lol.
Thanks for all the advice.
Yes, of course there are lots of scammers out there, but she has been talking to this person for five years after all and a scammer starts talking about money pretty soon.
Having met my bf online, I can say that yes, it's a bit awkward... no matter how intimate you got online, reality is always gonna turn out different.
Bf sounded ready to ravish me too before our meeting, but he did make sure I was comfortable and didn't pressure me into sleeping with him right away.
Quite. But, if he's that hot in bed what's he been doing for the last five years while he's been talking to you?
This. It's a tidy arrangement for him, on tap, at no cost. I couldn't respect a man who thought that was acceptable or appropriate.
Because he's a creep with a sense of entitlement, and she's a vulnerable compliant individual.