Awwww so glad things are still going well for you both, Joe! If you make it down the aisle then me and Saints wanna be bridesmaids - he'd look wonderful in a dress! :D
There is one that I adore , don't know a lot about her but I do love to read her posts in detail and imagine what she may be like if I met her say in a restaurant/pub.
There is one that I adore , don't know a lot about her but I do love to read her posts in detail and imagine what she may be like if I met her say in a restaurant/pub.
She would probably be a massive disappointment
Ooooh is she on here or another forum? Why do you think she'd be a massive disappointment? You mean physically or her personality?
There is one that I adore , don't know a lot about her but I do love to read her posts in detail and imagine what she may be like if I met her say in a restaurant/pub.
In a word, no. I don't believe you can though, its names on a screen and text.
I think if you talk to someone personally online for long enough then you can probably get a feel for whether you might be compatible but a connection online doesn't automatically equate to one offline.
Extending from that, I think you can "fall in love" with the personality of someone online, but a lot of that will be built on a perception or vision of the person in your mind, and with that you risk building them into something they are not, hence why people are so often disapointed, because they have created a fantasy person in their minds which may not be how they actually are.
In a word, no. I don't believe you can though, its names on a screen and text.
I think if you talk to someone personally online for long enough then you can probably get a feel for whether you might be compatible but a connection online doesn't automatically equate to one offline.
Extending from that, I think you can "fall in love" with the personality of someone online, but a lot of that will be built on a perception or vision of the person in your mind, and with that you risk building them into something they are not, hence why people are so often disapointed, because they have created a fantasy person in their minds which may not be how they actually are.
Too right. Without smellyvision I was entirely unaware of the foulness of Never Nudes voluminous flatulence
In a word, no. I don't believe you can though, its names on a screen and text.
I think if you talk to someone personally online for long enough then you can probably get a feel for whether you might be compatible but a connection online doesn't automatically equate to one offline.
Extending from that, I think you can "fall in love" with the personality of someone online, but a lot of that will be built on a perception or vision of the person in your mind, and with that you risk building them into something they are not, hence why people are so often disapointed, because they have created a fantasy person in their minds which may not be how they actually are.
Of course you can. It goes way beyond being names on a screen if you get to know someone online. Yes of course there's the risk they aren't the person they say they are, but you run that risk in "normal" life too. Anyone in life can have a mountain of secrets about them that they keep from a new partner. If two people fall for each other online, they're not likely to spend the rest of their days just communicating on the internet (unless they live on opposite sides of the world of course!). They're very likely to take the next step of talking on the phone (or Skype of course ) and then meeting up. I'm not suggesting that anyone who meets up from a forum is doing it for romantic reasons, because people do meet up for a variety of other reasons ie they live near each other or share a hobby, or even just out of politeness, but when two people both know there is something more between them of course they will choose to contact each other in other ways and then meet up to see how it goes. And there are people who met on DS who have gone on to marry so it does very much happen!
Of course you can. It goes way beyond being names on a screen if you get to know someone online. Yes of course there's the risk they aren't the person they say they are, but you run that risk in "normal" life too. Anyone in life can have a mountain of secrets about them that they keep from a new partner. If two people fall for each other online, they're not likely to spend the rest of their days just communicating on the internet (unless they live on opposite sides of the world of course!). They're very likely to take the next step of talking on the phone (or Skype of course ) and then meeting up. I'm not suggesting that anyone who meets up from a forum is doing it for romantic reasons, because people do meet up for a variety of other reasons ie they live near each other or share a hobby, or even just out of politeness, but when two people both know there is something more between them of course they will choose to contact each other in other ways and then meet up to see how it goes. And there are people who met on DS who have gone on to marry so it does very much happen!
OK, I phrased badly and I agree they can, what I should have said is that I see it as a minefield and unlikely, especially with words that imply really strong emotions, because what you see or perceive on screen may not translate in the real world. I wasn't talking about lying, I was talking about how people "fill in the gaps".
I've heard a lot of people who have met someone from the Internet (who were perfectly normal) say that the connection that existed online didn't exist in person. That's what I meant.
OK, I phrased badly and I agree they can, what I should have said is that I see it as a minefield and unlikely, especially with words that imply really strong emotions, because what you see or perceive on screen may not translate in the real world. I wasn't talking about lying, I was talking about how people "fill in the gaps".
I've heard a lot of people who have met someone from the Internet (who were perfectly normal) say that the connection that existed online didn't exist in person. That's what I meant.
Ok, I see what you mean. But there are many, many success stories so it does happen a lot! It's no different to "real" life in that way - some will end very quickly, some will last quite a while, even years, and others will last a lifetime. Though obviously the internet has only been around a few years so there wont be any couples yet who met online that have gone on to last a lifetime - unless they died young I suppose, but by lifetime I mean reaching old age together.
I have felt I am good friends with people on the internet, But meeting them in the flesh was totally strange as they were not as I perceived them sure after the awkwardness we became good friends in real life too but it was like starting from zero.
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Is that you...want to come in for a coffee
Never mind I just read what you had in your wallet.
She would probably be a massive disappointment
Ooooh is she on here or another forum? Why do you think she'd be a massive disappointment? You mean physically or her personality?
..and you wouldnt? ;-)
Menage et trois? Nice one! 👦👱👵
I think if you talk to someone personally online for long enough then you can probably get a feel for whether you might be compatible but a connection online doesn't automatically equate to one offline.
Extending from that, I think you can "fall in love" with the personality of someone online, but a lot of that will be built on a perception or vision of the person in your mind, and with that you risk building them into something they are not, hence why people are so often disapointed, because they have created a fantasy person in their minds which may not be how they actually are.
So, no.
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I thought I had once but when we met up the spark wasn't there for me, he adored me though and we have been good friends for almost 10 years now.
Too right. Without smellyvision I was entirely unaware of the foulness of Never Nudes voluminous flatulence
Of course you can. It goes way beyond being names on a screen if you get to know someone online. Yes of course there's the risk they aren't the person they say they are, but you run that risk in "normal" life too. Anyone in life can have a mountain of secrets about them that they keep from a new partner. If two people fall for each other online, they're not likely to spend the rest of their days just communicating on the internet (unless they live on opposite sides of the world of course!). They're very likely to take the next step of talking on the phone (or Skype of course
I'm gonna be cheeky and answer for the OP because I don't think he's on DS much these days, but yes she's from here.
OK, I phrased badly and I agree they can, what I should have said is that I see it as a minefield and unlikely, especially with words that imply really strong emotions, because what you see or perceive on screen may not translate in the real world. I wasn't talking about lying, I was talking about how people "fill in the gaps".
I've heard a lot of people who have met someone from the Internet (who were perfectly normal) say that the connection that existed online didn't exist in person. That's what I meant.
Lol
Ok, I see what you mean. But there are many, many success stories so it does happen a lot! It's no different to "real" life in that way - some will end very quickly, some will last quite a while, even years, and others will last a lifetime. Though obviously the internet has only been around a few years so there wont be any couples yet who met online that have gone on to last a lifetime - unless they died young I suppose, but by lifetime I mean reaching old age together.
^_^