Were both 30 - so definately think the time is right for us both. I just didnt want to be seen as one of those too eager ones, this really means something and id be looking at 2014 for the wedding. Money isnt the issue, thats why it all seems perfect in the situation we are in and to me it feels like the right time.
Were both 30 - so definately think the time is right for us both. I just didnt want to be seen as one of those too eager ones, this really means something and id be looking at 2014 for the wedding. Money isnt the issue, thats why it all seems perfect in the situation we are in and to me it feels like the right time.
In that case, ask her . Just avoid Paris! I feel sorry for men, feeling they have to make a massive grand gesture. The proposal already is a massive grand gesture. Do what is right for you both, the minute you suggest something massively different to do she may guess. Good luck
Just a note, if shes expecting and wanting a proposal, dont take her to really romantic perfect places unless you are going to propose.
I know someone who suspected they were going to get engaged as they found a ring website added to their internets favourite page. She got her hopes up each time they went to a quiet restauarant and when they went on holiday. In the end her proposal was in a lay by when her partner had stopped to wee in a field! He hadnt planned proposing romantically but she had in her head that there was going to be a candle lit romantic meal on a beach abroad.
There's no magic formula. I'm an early one, did one after three days (it lasted three months!) and another after three months, we've just celebrated ten years together and our second wedding anniversary after putting the actual deed off for a while (started living together after a year).
Were both 30 - so definately think the time is right for us both. I just didnt want to be seen as one of those too eager ones, this really means something and id be looking at 2014 for the wedding. Money isnt the issue, thats why it all seems perfect in the situation we are in and to me it feels like the right time.
have you actually asked her what she wants? You may think you are ready but is she? Have you actually talked to her about marriage etc
Were both 30 - so definately think the time is right for us both. I just didnt want to be seen as one of those too eager ones, this really means something and id be looking at 2014 for the wedding. Money isnt the issue, thats why it all seems perfect in the situation we are in and to me it feels like the right time.
Age and money have nothing to do with it being the right time - its how you feel and why you want to do it that's important
I have a friend who was 30 and had been dating this guy for a year. She expected him to propose on one of those special occasions (NY/Valentines?) but he didn't. She was upset and they broke up. They got back together after he'd proposed to her and they're now married.
I'd say when it feels right and it's practical...My OH and I would ideally get married tomorrow but we've decided to wait til we're in a better financial position (although I'm so excited!!) yet we spoke about getting married after less than 3 months together - if it feels right, then do it!!
you live together and you're both 30 then yes go for it!
I dont want to generalise but a lot of women at 30 are thinking they want to tie the knot soon and you'll probably be 31/32 by the time wedding comes around
I have a friend who was 30 and had been dating this guy for a year. She expected him to propose on one of those special occasions (NY/Valentines?) but he didn't. She was upset and they broke up. They got back together after he'd proposed to her and they're now married.
I also had a friend that convinced herself her boyfriend of 2 years was going to propose at Christmas. When he didn’t she was gutted and we think she made his life hell for a week and he ended up proposing on NYE. They had a party within weeks and then were split within a year. Sometimes people do get caught up in the excitement and sadly are more excited at the thought of a WEDDING rather than a MARRIAGE
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In that case, ask her
I know someone who suspected they were going to get engaged as they found a ring website added to their internets favourite page. She got her hopes up each time they went to a quiet restauarant and when they went on holiday. In the end her proposal was in a lay by when her partner had stopped to wee in a field! He hadnt planned proposing romantically but she had in her head that there was going to be a candle lit romantic meal on a beach abroad.
When it's right, it's right.
have you actually asked her what she wants? You may think you are ready but is she? Have you actually talked to her about marriage etc
Age and money have nothing to do with it being the right time - its how you feel and why you want to do it that's important
Good Luck!! x
I dont want to generalise but a lot of women at 30 are thinking they want to tie the knot soon and you'll probably be 31/32 by the time wedding comes around
I also had a friend that convinced herself her boyfriend of 2 years was going to propose at Christmas. When he didn’t she was gutted and we think she made his life hell for a week and he ended up proposing on NYE. They had a party within weeks and then were split within a year. Sometimes people do get caught up in the excitement and sadly are more excited at the thought of a WEDDING rather than a MARRIAGE
Not that I am saying that you are OP
Not only is making decisions off putting, but nobody can be held to a promise made while shagging.
My best buddy dated the same girl for about 5 years, got married and were separated within a year or so.
There is no perfect recipe.
A friend of mine and her fiance had an engagement of exactly a year, they married on the date he'd proposed.