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Ada Rabble
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I've just started a new job, in the same line of work as I was in, but I'm hating it.. I have the option to return to my last place but I'm worried it might be incredibly embarrassing all round. I would appreciate some advice, or opinions about returning to a job after just one week. Mistake or not?
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I'm thinking of what to reply, it's so complicated that it's hard to begin! I guess the easiest way is to say I was actually headhunted for the position.
Don't worry about going back to your old job if they are happy to take you. You can explain to your co workers that you were unhappy at your new job.
Cheers woodbush, makes me feel better :cool:
You can make it a positive as your old company were happy to take you back:)
If you can't stand another day, and there is no option or point in sitting it out, then cuytyour losses and go back. It may be a bit awkward handing back the leaving pressies (Lol!), but worth it for your sanity.
Your old colleges won't their any less of you once your reasons become sincere. There may be a cost however. You may have your terms and conditions affected, such as pension, holiday entitlement, that sort of thing, and you may have to live with that, but you may value your old position a lot more, and you will be able to relax in your life, instead of dreading every day. If your present job is an a@se, you may be pushed to do something you'll regret if you stay.
Best of luck!
However, if it is making you unhappy, then do leave. My sister bought me this as a canvas and I do try to live by it.
http://jobcandy.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/20130324-155937.jpg
A gut feeling. If I don't act soon, I might burn my bridges.
That canvas is very helpful, much appreciated frankie_Little.
Catering, relatively small. Why do you ask?
Better to face any embarrassment and awkwardness short term then to be miserable long term! Worse, you could try to battle it out for a few more months, decide you've had enough and then going back to your old job isn't an option anymore. I don't know if that would be the case, but it's surely a possibility.
Besides, you can just say you didn't enjoy your new job and missed your old one. Just shrug it off and carry on as before and the awkwardness won't last long!
The reason I say "stop and think" is because I've voluntarily moved to another job and hated... absolutely HATED... the first week or so, especially if I wasn't unhappy in the previous one. Frankie_Little has it right - we do look back with rose-tinted glasses in a new job, mainly because we (thought we) knew everything we needed to know last week, but this week we feel we're a small fish in a big pond - or we feel we're just bait for those small fish. However, after a couple of weeks I've always been settled in and forged contacts for help and advice, and felt much better about things in general (and wondered why I was so bothered the previous week).
If it makes you feel better, make quiet advances about how welcome you'd be in your old workplace, but do be reassured that all's not lost in your new job whatever way it goes.
Best of luck - I feel for you. x
Edit: Sorry, I see you've got the option of returning. It's up to you, obviously, but it all depends on why you took the new job (you'll have less pay, but more job satisfaction etc etc etc).
Good luck and take from this that two companies are after your services, you must be good at what you do.
It is the measure of a person whom can admit they made a mistake. Nothing to be ashamed of at all.
Go back, admit leaving was a mistake and do it with your head held high.
Ada, you have just started a new job. It may be the same type of work but everything else is different. You are out of your comfort zone and everything is challenging. It is usually quite normal to feel very uncomfortable and out of your depth in a new job.
As someone who has moved jobs many times over the years I usually gave myself approximately 3 months before I even contemplated leaving. For I found it usually took that amount of time before I fully settled in my new position.
If you have only been there one week I would suggest you need a bit more time before you decide whether or not you have made a mistake.
Best of luck:)
The thought of going back is more appealing to me than staying but I'm really concerned about telling the woman who made it possible for me to get this position (the head mistress of the school of which I'm now the cook). she contacted me and asked me if I'm happy where I am, to which I replied I was but because of past history and loyalty to this woman I felt obliged go for the interview, with the catering company contractors.
I was given the job and as it's local and I felt that I owed the head mistress something I was swayed into taking it.
Now I regret it but I've messed the head mistress about and I feel so worried about it all.
I posted this before seeing your post WinterLilly, you make a very good point.
It's not worth it if you're miserable.
She's been in the new job for one week.
But it depends on the circumstances...a job learning new skills yes that's not enough time. But a job where you know what you're doing then you have to make some choices. And there isn't always time. How long will the old job be available for? They aren't going to hold it open for a couple of months while the OP decides. As I said go with your gut instinct.
My job is doing exactly the same as my last heading up a team. Nothing to learn. But the company is chaotic and has an oppressive management style that isn't me. My instinct in the first week those things weren't going to change, I should've listened to it.