Bad feelings about my son
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Hello all.
Sometimes when watching a tv show/film and something happens to a young lad in it I instantly think of the same situation with it happening to my son. Gets me quite upset. I always put myself in the parents situation but with it happening to my son.
Is it me? Or does anyone else have this?
Sometimes when watching a tv show/film and something happens to a young lad in it I instantly think of the same situation with it happening to my son. Gets me quite upset. I always put myself in the parents situation but with it happening to my son.
Is it me? Or does anyone else have this?
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Most people do, that's why we can relate to things, not just on tv but real events. I thought my heart would rip when I heard about the shootings in Dunblane and what the parents were going through
Frankly I don't understand what they are on about.
I thought this before I had children and now I have.
ETA: Actually a relative had a stillbirth around the time one of my sons was born, I would get paranoid and check that he was breathing and ok constantly whilst he was little.
I don't even know your Son.
well you would say that
Tuts loudly. Well isn't that what men say about their own?
You're not alone, although I tend to think like that with real life events in the news rather than films.
I think that every time I see one about my family (mum brothers and best friend) even if I have just that minute left them so know they are ok
I find that irritating as well. You don't have to be a parent to find these crimes abhorrent.
But this thread isn't about finding it abhorrent - it's about the emotion involved when you imagine it happening to your child.
It is different - not more pure or deserving just different.
I know that - I was just agreeing with part of someone's post.
Fair enough, but the post you agreed with - well you know.....
'I always find it irritating when someone says they can understand why the brutal murder of a child is such a bad thing because they have a child themselves.'
Child or not can you imagine anybody you know saying this? I can't
They were simply saying that you don't have to be a parent to recognise that the murder of a child is bad. The horror of it is something any normal human being can understand. Or do you read it differently?
They are saying that parents say that they understand how the murder of a child is bad because they have a child; that is clearly a nonsense -parents recognise the murder of a child as being bad because they are human.
I don't know or want to know anybody who thinks that having a child gives them the ability to be any more profound or upset about the death of another persons child.
This has piss all to do with the thread though which is about the emotion that you feel when you imagine an event happening to your child - it's an emotion that those without children simply cannot feel, it's not better or noble, it's just a reality.
Frankly the premise is a bit odd - being peevish because you can't feel a negative emotion and fear - how bloody perverse is that.
I'm not at all sure what you're trying to say here.
Just want to say, though, that I am a parent and have gone through all those emotions imagining things happening to my child. I don't think it's impossible for people who don't have children to imagine it, though. They also have loved ones, even if they don't have children.
but we're not talking about loved ones
this thread is specifically about children
I'm still not sure what point you're making. Have I offended you in some way?