My boss just said something to me....
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Had a meeting with my boss yesterday talking about why I hadnt made more money for the company and myself (I work in sales) and he said that he thought it was because I sounded 'too gay on the phone'.
I said that all my life people had judged me on my sexuality and that I didn't need it in the workplace nor was it particularly helpful.
The more I think about the comment the more it's bothering me, am I being over sensitive or has he stepped over a line?
I said that all my life people had judged me on my sexuality and that I didn't need it in the workplace nor was it particularly helpful.
The more I think about the comment the more it's bothering me, am I being over sensitive or has he stepped over a line?
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If your services aren't good enough for them, I don't need telling twice.
Having said that, it's all easier said than done. But that is pretty outright of them to say that, I'd be offended too.
You've got a number of options
-Walk out and be like "i aint taking none of yo' sh*t" (okay admit it, we've all wanted a moment like that )
-Talk to him about it, say it offended you.
-Ignore it
-Sabotage the workplace
-Burn the place to the ground. To the ground, I tell you!
I think I'd have to agree tbh.
OP you have to treat this situation as if you live in a soap. Sometimes it works, SOMETIMES.
You do have grounds to raise a grievance should you wish, but it's all down to you. Sounds like you were offended by the comment and it wasn't a joke - do you have a HR rep or senior manager you can speak to?
I don't really know what I'd do but I am quite short-fused, I probably would leave and worry about paying the gas bill later (but like I said, that's not realistically good...)
That pay rise is yours.
It wasn't a joke. I was quite taken aback by it. He owns the company and the HR in the company essentially doesn't exist.
In the situation you describe it sounds very unprofessional. There are other ways he could have worded the comment to make it more professional and less offensive.
I'd certainly make some kind of complaint OP. You could probably report him to the police for it.
This is DS and sadly the advice section is a breeding ground for people who trawl the internet looking for people's problems to mock. Childish but true.
HIs comment was totally unacceptable OP. I suggest a call to the ACAS hotline as they are there to advise on a wide range of employment issues.
I wish the mods would so something about these "brand new" posters who've obviously come here with the sole intention to troll and nothing else. I know I'm not the only poster who's getting fed up of it, they're spoiling the entire forum>:(
Oh heck.
You are not being over sensitive at all in my opinion.
Either act on it and complain or just let it go.
What to you think the reason is that you are not making enough for the company and therefore yourself though?
I hope you can get something sorted
He sounds like a total tool
In all honesty what he said was out of order but the easiest thing in the world to do, if you want to get your head down and stay in the job, is handle the phones like an acting gig. Put on an accent. A fair number of my acting friends do sales work between jobs and they all use it to practice accents.
It sounds as if he's being homophobic. That's a pretty serious offense not only outside of work but inside too.
I'm not sure if those in charge will look too favourably on your boss. You may have a good case to answer for.
Why does he have to be homophobic to say what he said?
Inappropriate yes.
I wonder what product the OP is selling and who he is selling it to?
Because he is equating having a "gay voice" as something bad and negative.
Exactly
No way should he look for another job. He's done nothing wrong, his boss has... What about the next employee with a "gay sounding voice"??
Find out what your company's grievance procedure is and file one OP! Don't let this go.