Would you sleep with someone on your first date?

pink star 28 · 20/03/14 - 14:19

I'm really tempted, opinions please?

Kapellmeister · 20/03/14 - 14:22

Who wouldn't, although I suspect things are different in the homosexual community where accidental pregnancy, etc. are less of an issue.

sweh · 20/03/14 - 14:22

If you're tempted, then go for it. Remember to use protection, though.

The whole sex on a first date = slag concept is for the most part, outdated.

Pumping Iron · 20/03/14 - 14:23

Yes I would.

Goneril · 20/03/14 - 14:23

I wouldn't [ and the question is not applicable to me now] but it's better to get to know someone before taking that step .

James Frederick · 20/03/14 - 14:25

I think something like that is up to each individual person there is no right or wrong answer.

Although you have to be sure the other person wants to also you can't just assume they do.

Raquelos. · 20/03/14 - 14:25

Yes, why waste time:)

Jesse Pinkman · 20/03/14 - 14:25

I'm gay! When young I've had sex with people with no date at all.

It's a different world where we understand that sex is just sex and get on with it.

It can be a part of a loving relationship but doesn't have to be and all parties go into it with that understanding, so no one gets hurt.

NirvanaGirl · 20/03/14 - 14:26

It really depends on a lot of factors in my opinion. Whether you know this person prior to the first date, whether you want a relationship with them or just a bit of fun & most importantly whether you're still sexually attracted to them after you've spent time in their company.

PrincessTT · 20/03/14 - 14:27

I always have done.

pink star 28 · 20/03/14 - 14:28

James Frederick wrote: »

I think something like that is up to each individual person there is no right or wrong answer.

Although you have to be sure the other person wants to also you can't just assume they do.

They have made it perfectly clear that they do.

molliepops · 20/03/14 - 14:29

Not before marriage, old fashioned I know but works for me.

pink star 28 · 20/03/14 - 14:31

PrincessTT wrote: »

I always have done.

Aww really princess, did you see them again after?

James Frederick · 20/03/14 - 14:32

pink star 28 wrote: »

They have made it perfectly clear that they do.

Then that would be up to you.

If someone made it perfectly obvious they wanted sex before the date then I would be concerned that is all they wanted and the date itself didn't matter but if that is the case for both parties then why bother with the date at all and just have sex.

[Deleted User] · 20/03/14 - 14:32

I wouldn't personally but to each their own. Only for me, because I feel I need to know someone before I sleep with them, the one month rule has never gone wrong!

Jason100 · 20/03/14 - 14:34

I'd be very cautions if she asked me if i wanted 'dessert' on our first date.

sarahj1986 · 20/03/14 - 14:35

I suppose it depends on the situation really!

Me and my boyfriend wed been working together for about 6 weeks, only a weekends as it was my second job. I got drunk one Sunday and text him and began flirting and stuff. Following Friday we worked our shift together then had sex after. For the first 6 odd weeks all we did was meet up and have sex, I guess feelings grew and we decided to make a go of it properly so after that we decided to go out on a proper date.

rupert_pupkin · 20/03/14 - 14:35

If you're looking for sex, yes. If you're looking for a relationship, no

The only women who turned out to be half decent human beings that I had a relationship with made me wait. The rest were right slaaaaagss

CRTHD · 20/03/14 - 14:37

Only if I wanted a 2nd date.:kitty:

kitty86 · 20/03/14 - 14:50

I did with my boyfriend, I hadn't before that, always made then wait. In my defence though I didn't think it was going to become serious, it was meant to be just a fling but obviously 5 years later that didn't quite work out! I once asked him if he thought less of me for doing that he said there's a big difference between sleeping with someone on the first date and being a slag. He never viewed me as a the latter

Jol44 · 20/03/14 - 15:02

I prefer figs.

James Frederick · 20/03/14 - 15:03

To reverse the question would you go on a second date with anyone who didn't sleep with you on the first date or made it clear sex wasn't on the cards for a long time or not at all.

[Deleted User] · 20/03/14 - 15:06

If you want to then do it.

I will never understand men who sleep with a woman then call her a slag for it. It takes two to have sex, it makes no sense.

And this thing of "making the man wait" if he thinks it's not okay to do it, why is he trying? Is it some sort of test the woman has to pass? It's dumb.

[Deleted User] · 20/03/14 - 15:07

No thanks. I'm horrifically old fashioned in a lot of ways though, admittedly.

kippeh · 20/03/14 - 15:09

James Frederick wrote: »

To reverse the question would you go on a second date with anyone who didn't sleep with you on the first date or made it clear sex wasn't on the cards for a long time or not at all.

Still no luck James?

PrincessTT · 20/03/14 - 15:10

pink star 28 wrote: »

Aww really princess, did you see them again after?

If I wanted to see them again then I did... Me and my boyfriend have been together nearly a year and we slept together on our first date, which was the day after we met.

Hey there!

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