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Meeting Attractive People in Public
AndrewPd
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Do you ever feel frustrated when you meet someone attractive in public knowing that you can't have them?
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Why can't you have them?
Because it doesn't seem polite to tell a stranger you fancy them. It is infringing on their space and maybe distressing them.
And even if you did end up with that person you would still find many other people annoyingly attractive.
It seems to be just like a unquenchable lust/drive.
It might be because I am single and have never had a relationship that I feel it what I do strongly.
What are the chances of meeting someone attractive in private?
I have several mirrors in my house...
It depends what you mean by private. By public I mean shopping or walking or using the library.
If you are in a relationship do you have a wandering eye or is your attraction fixed on your partner?
I dunno, I met this Russian girl in public and it was only because I believed that I was out of her league that I thought I couldn't have her. She even waited for me AND followed me from where I met her. I saw her Merc behind me twice.
Exactly. You mean meeting by chance which I can't imagine happening in private.
And, if you meet by chance, how the hell do you know that you can't 'have them'?
I am referring to brief meetings. It seems difficulty to start a relationship this way without knowing anything about your object of interest.
What do you say? Do you stare penetratingly or nod your head a bit?
I don't even know how I would cope in a relationship.
Statistically I think you won't be able to have them.
What about waiting for a bus?
I hear screaming "PHWOAR! Nice jugs, love!" followed by a whistle is taken well by women.
Statistically, most will respond favourably.
even if you get with their husband?
No. They wondered if you knew where the flour was. They seriously didn't want to have your babies.
That depends on how long you are waiting.
I have had a long friendly convo at the bus stop and on the bus with a man from Madagascar.
He started the conversation and said he was glad I was up for a chat because he found the British stand-offish and unwilling to talk at bus stops. In other countries talking to random strangers is probably far more socially acceptable or natural.
It seems odd to wait somewhere for twenty minutes and not talk to the other people or person waiting. Dogs usually greet each other excitedly straight away and even head straight for a butt sniff.
Difficult for us here to tell not being there. Did she smile a lot? Did she play with her necklace and flick her hair? Did she ask you for a quickie round the back of the loading bays? Those are all signs that she could be attracted to you.
*edit*
exchange 'she' for 'he' since the OP clarified the situation.
So watch out men...coming to a Tesco's near you soon.
That's probably where you are going wrong. Maybe try this next time.