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Going on holiday with partner in 7 weeks! Looking forward to it but dreading it at the same time. After having 2 kids within 3 years my body is horrible. I'm a size 16 but only 5 1 in height. Tried on a tankini yesterday when shopping it was a light blue colour with patterns on it, I looked ridiculous! Been with partner for 11 years, but he's obviously going to notice all the young bikini bodies. I have never been thin, but I'm at my worste. I have 2 beautiful babies, so wouldn't change it. The only thing I can do is hit the gym every day till I go. At least I will feel a bit more confidant. I'm sure many women have this dilemma.
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Some men prefer larger women.;)
I really wouldn't worry about your partner checking out other women. He loves you, or he wouldn't have had 2 kids with you. You need to gain a little confidence. I don't have a good body either, but i was told once to stand naked in the mirror and look at yourself objectively. You might have a belly but you have nice legs. Or you have bad legs but good boobs etc ... Try it. I have.
Where are you going on holiday, as that might affect any advice you are given.
Kids. Boy am I glad I don't have them, the needy little bar stewards.
But think of the money you get from the State. Also you need someone to drive you down the cheapest care home when the time comes when nobody else can be bothered to look after you.
I'm sure they do!
I wouldn't worry about your weight, just go on holiday and have lots of fun! There will be lots of men and women who are all different shapes and sizes - fat, thin, tall, short, etc! Some will look great, some will look not so good!
I'm sure your partner will notice other women but, we're all human and you'll probably notice other men around the pool!!
They're fantastic at hiding bits and bumps and they look incredible.
And men.
They worry about their muscle tone, abs, pot bellies, hairiness, skin tone, scars, arms, bums, height and the size and position of their nether regions. Speedo? Trunks? Broads? Drag suit? Briefs? Jeans cut-offs? Which flatters their body the most? Decisions, decisions.
no one looks good in those!
Do men worry they may be too hairy or not hairy enough?!
I have to be honest, I didn't think or realise men would be self conscious like women are about their bodies!
We were trying to book a last min ferry to France to go to a relatives wedding and the only way we could do it was to book a ferry with a naturist company. We had no intention of going there but after the wedding we decided to go look and see.
I was amazed! We had a little log cabin in a pine wood by the sea and everyone was naked! Even in the supermarket and bank!
I am a larger lady and there is no way I would have taken my clothes off but I was so amazed by all the ages, shapes and sizes of the people that it felt unnatural not to take my clothes off too!
Within hours we felt utterly at home. So much so that we stayed for two weeks!
I have never felt embarrassed about my body since.
Wear a swimsuit, walk with your head held high, chances are you;ll never see those people again, so, what does it matter what they think!
I agree. Best advice I ever had was to buy an under wired swimsuit with the correct cup fitting. It makes a massive difference to how you carry yourself and makes you look loads slimmer too. Look online at bra companies.
Or maybe back-comb your lady-garden around your waist for a similar effect.
Don't worry about it. No one cares except you.
You have no idea how many men stopped to check their bodies in those mirrors. Some prodded their stomachs, flexed their arms, checked their bums, checked top of their heads (probably to check their balding spots?), and fluffed up small patches of hair on their chests. There were some who actually sucked in their stomachs and held as they walked to the pool and dived in.
Women tended to hurry past those mirrors, as if they were embarrassed, but most men constantly checked themselves out while standing in front of a mirror or walking down the passage.