I have lost track the number of times I have put one of my friends to their home and put them to bed because we have had too many drinks. Never for one second has it been anything else then us being "mates". I am pretty confident she would say the same as me if asked "not if he/she was the last man/woman on earth". Yet we can sit there and have each other rolling about the floor in tears talking about nothing. I could share a story from our relationship for the 100th time and we would think its the most funny story ever told yet if someone else told me the same story I would think " what a pair of losers".
If she was in trouble or needed my help and she felt like she could not call me at 4am in the morning because someone won't like it then I think that would make me a different person and not for the better
I once years ago called a friend after I had been out for the night and told him I had no money to get home. He hopped in a taxi(spent about £75 doing so) and came and picked me up and made sure I got home. It was 2 in the morning, I was drunk and he thought nothing of it. That to me is a true friend. If a friend needed me I would be there (or at least my husband would I don't do well being woken in the middle of the night).
I think the difference is that the OP feels shut out, her boyfriend knows that, and doesn't do anything to allay her fears. It's the perceived/apparent subterfuge that makes this situation so difficult.
My response was to a post from malaikah who seems to think that its impossible to two adults to have a platonic relationship.
I'd already posted that in OP situation there does appear to be somebody beyond just friendship going on.
My best friend is a guy and even though he has spent LOTS of nights in my house and we even lived together at one point, I was never ever attracted to him in that way. I also sometimes call him in the middle of the night if I'm in trouble/upset/happy etc. But I wouldn't sleep with him - ever!
My best friend is a guy and even though he has spent LOTS of nights in my house and we even lived together at one point, I was never ever attracted to him in that way. I also sometimes call him in the middle of the night if I'm in trouble/upset/happy etc. But I wouldn't sleep with him - ever!
It is possible that they are just close friends.
but have you lied to your partner regarding what you are getting up to with your friends ?
but have you lied to your partner regarding what you are getting up to with your friends ?
Has the OP been lied too?, Or was it the friend who was lied too?. As said maybe he lied to the friend because 'the girlfriend is here' wouldn't put her off coming over
Has the OP been lied too?, Or was it the friend who was lied too?. As said maybe he lied to the friend because 'the girlfriend is here' wouldn't put her off coming over
Exactly. This actually seems harmless to be. He didn't want her to come over and pretended to be away. If he had said "my girlfriend is here" she might have come over anyway.
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Yep. Better off without him Katy. Infatuation with a teenager AND cheating. Painful for you but better you know for sure now rather than worrying about it for months. You can move on now
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Have you read the thread at all - especially the recent update?
That would have been difficult as the update was posted after my post! I stand by what I said - he is/was cheating on her. Get rid and don't think about the snake any more.
That would have been difficult as the update was posted after my post! I stand by what I said - he is/was cheating on her. Get rid and don't think about the snake any more.
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Been reading this thread. I just want to say I am sorry about what has happened to you. Hopefully you will find a decent guy. Good luck to you.
Thanks for your messages. I've had a message from him - he's angry that other people heard us row last night (some of his mates) and I've apparently made him Look stupid.
Yep, that is his main concern. My head knows in lucky to be out of it. But my hearts breaking - and in so angry that I feel sad about it. I should hate him.
I can't believe I was taken in by such a bar steward. I hate that in single again
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Whilst I wasn't going to hold my breath, I was hoping there was just a misunderstanding along the way and that everything would turn out good. I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you, and wish you the best x you'll get over it in time x
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
Awww Bab I had a horrible feeling he was cheating on you reading the thread, what a utter scumbag.
It's never nice to find out your b/f has been cheating on you (bitter experience), just treat yourself to something nice and try and keep busy, less chance to think about him and enjoy being Single because Mr Right comes along when you least expect it.
And block his number, delete him from Facebook, and other social media, goes without saying.
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I once years ago called a friend after I had been out for the night and told him I had no money to get home. He hopped in a taxi(spent about £75 doing so) and came and picked me up and made sure I got home. It was 2 in the morning, I was drunk and he thought nothing of it. That to me is a true friend. If a friend needed me I would be there (or at least my husband would I don't do well being woken in the middle of the night).
My response was to a post from malaikah who seems to think that its impossible to two adults to have a platonic relationship.
I'd already posted that in OP situation there does appear to be somebody beyond just friendship going on.
It is possible that they are just close friends.
but have you lied to your partner regarding what you are getting up to with your friends ?
Has the OP been lied too?, Or was it the friend who was lied too?. As said maybe he lied to the friend because 'the girlfriend is here' wouldn't put her off coming over
Exactly. This actually seems harmless to be. He didn't want her to come over and pretended to be away. If he had said "my girlfriend is here" she might have come over anyway.
Turns out I had no need to be worried about the 18 year old. Ir was the 24year old tart from round the corner I needed to be worried about. Yes, I was dating a cheater after all
He told me while absolutely hammered, it was because he didn't think I was committed to us (I was obviously more than him) and hey doesn't he get some sort of leeway coz he never cheated on anyone before (I'm just special apparently)
I've had to stay at his because I was too drunk to drive but obviously we're done. My heart is breaking and I'm so angry / upset I could scream.
You've had a very lucky escape and should be reassured that your instinct and gut feeling was spot on.
Sorry to hear it's ended like this though Katy. Does sound like you had a lucky escape.
I am so so sorry this happened to you.
Sorry to hear this.
Have you read the thread at all - especially the recent update?
That would have been difficult as the update was posted after my post! I stand by what I said - he is/was cheating on her. Get rid and don't think about the snake any more.
How is 08:27 after 09:20 ?
Err no, it wasn't posted after your post.
Been reading this thread. I just want to say I am sorry about what has happened to you. Hopefully you will find a decent guy. Good luck to you.
Yep, that is his main concern. My head knows in lucky to be out of it. But my hearts breaking - and in so angry that I feel sad about it. I should hate him.
I can't believe I was taken in by such a bar steward. I hate that in single again
Whilst I wasn't going to hold my breath, I was hoping there was just a misunderstanding along the way and that everything would turn out good. I'm so sorry to hear this has happened to you, and wish you the best x you'll get over it in time x
Do you want me to go round her house?
Lol, thank you. But a girl who sleeps with a man she knows is in a relationship isn't worth the time or effort if even being thought about.
Neither is the man.
Still sucks though.:(
It's never nice to find out your b/f has been cheating on you (bitter experience), just treat yourself to something nice and try and keep busy, less chance to think about him and enjoy being Single because Mr Right comes along when you least expect it.
And block his number, delete him from Facebook, and other social media, goes without saying.
Hope you will be ok (((hugs))) xx