Problems with girlfriend's friend
Leicester_Hunk
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This mate of my girlfriend's is coming round a lot asking for help. She left her husband about 5 years ago, but last year her father died and she inherited the house. She left the husband because he was drinking, lost his job and they had the house repossessed because he couldn't pay the mortgage because of no job and nobody would give him one because of the drink problem. They were both rehoused separately by the council.
So when she inherited her father's house she invited him to come back which he did like a shot. He still has no job, spends all his benefit money on booze and **** and is vile to her when the money runs out and he can't buy booze and **** and asks her for money. She is also not well with pancreatitis. God knows why she did this, because she felt sorry for him, she says. She's got through the inheritance money like a dose of salts.
It's getting my gf down and I have told her that she needs to step back but still support her if she can.
Can this woman chuck the husband out of the house? It is all in her name not joint names. I think she can't because they are still married..... it's a mess ......................
So when she inherited her father's house she invited him to come back which he did like a shot. He still has no job, spends all his benefit money on booze and **** and is vile to her when the money runs out and he can't buy booze and **** and asks her for money. She is also not well with pancreatitis. God knows why she did this, because she felt sorry for him, she says. She's got through the inheritance money like a dose of salts.
It's getting my gf down and I have told her that she needs to step back but still support her if she can.
Can this woman chuck the husband out of the house? It is all in her name not joint names. I think she can't because they are still married..... it's a mess ......................
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There's a big chunk of story missing.
You could well be right but we don't know what it is
She probably won't though.
The whole circle of friends know what happened with the house because they have known one another for quite some time, but not in "intimate" detail.
Just dont get involved mate!!!! This is one your GF's gonna have to get through alone!!
Surely half of it is his if they aren't divorced?
He however sounds a desperate man and may well sign something to say I will leave if you give me £10,000 for example and then she would be free of ties.
She inherited it from her father when he died last year at which time they were separated but not divorced.
She can ask him to leave but that won't change the problem!
I agree with the poster who said best not get involved - this is No Win City, arizona. Keep out !!!
As for the legal aspect, best to seek advice from a charity like Citizens Advice Bureau.
It sounds like the husband has landed on his feet and it's been win-win for him. He can continue drinking, smoking and being a cant to his wife, and if she tells him to leave, he's walking off with a nice big pay out.
They were actually separated for a lot longer than 5 years, and she inherited the house before they got back together.
My gf has told her to go to the CAB to start with.
The drunk wasn't so much green as cabbage looking was he ..... poor woman 20/20 hindsight is a great thing.
However, at one time I seemed to have a collection of lame duck female chums who really sucked all the life out of me. The resident Mr Toggler at the time got really difficult with me having friends and as a result I didn't dump the lame ducks. However, over a period of time I could see that the problems some of the people had were of their own making, they kept doing the same things over again with the same result and were in fact the authors of their own misfortune.
So all my agonising and advice was pointless. Direct this lady to the free lawyer and advise her indoors to step back. The chum could have got a divorce, instead she invited the husband back, and if he's entitled to half the house, so be it. She did it of her own free will and if it was a mistake, well she should have thought first and this is the price many of us pay.
How the hell did they understand him?
Ha ha!
If for whatever reason this woman was silly enough to take him back that is something she has to learn from , his problems are self inflicted and so are hers , you have choice whether or not to be overly involved I would choose to let them continue this long drawn out saga for years to come
sounds like they are addicted to the drama and lifestyle they chose for themselves , she had a chance to get out and she blew it