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How did YOU react when someone you knew revealed they were Trans?
Joni M
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This is coming off of the Big Brother contestant Kellie Maloney and how she is being perceived n the house.
She seems to be really struggling with her Trans status... and thus having 'issues' with other housemates views towards her.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kellie_Maloney
How do Trans people feel towards her? Educate us who don't know how to approach someone we've known a long time.
Also, please let me know if I have used any offensive or incorrect terminology.
She seems to be really struggling with her Trans status... and thus having 'issues' with other housemates views towards her.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kellie_Maloney
How do Trans people feel towards her? Educate us who don't know how to approach someone we've known a long time.
Also, please let me know if I have used any offensive or incorrect terminology.
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Ya know what? once I saw your name on the main page I kinda guessed you wouldn't have a contsructive reply.... you never do. *sighs*
I imagine it would go something like that. I'd have to talk to them openly and privately I think and try to cut through any awkwardness.
If someone you worked with for ten years just waltzed into work one day and was like "ta-da, I'm now Charmaine" your initial response might be less measured, I suppose. Some forewarning would probably help get used to the idea.
Course, this is DS.....
Mentioned it before but, I know a guy who's a straight TV in a "T-girl" rock band and he was pretty critical of one of the other band members who decided that he wanted to get a full-on sex change.
The guy I know is convinced that his mate is doing it as a way of living out some kind of "fantasy" rather than for more level-headed reasons.
Besides which, I know nothing about this Kellie person but she appears to be a complete ass..
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kellie_Maloney#Allegations_of_homophobia_and_racism
My opinions are not politically correct regarding this matter, but I speak honestly. I think that we have, well that should really be the medical profession, have become too poltically correct.
The current medical thinking in psychological and mental health, is whatever the patient thinks is best, is best.
Society and world in general is very cruel, combined with lack of jobs and so on, depression is on the rise, many people are unhappy and suicidal.
quite a few people are so depressed with life having made so many life changes but all failing to bring happiness, there comes a time when a number of people think they would be happy as opposite sex, so begining the transformation of an old life into a new life.
When you see people who had sex change op who basically look like a man in a wig, and vice versa, then it is more than likely they are only having this change due to wanting an escape and nothing else.
There are a small number of people born each year with genitalia mix ups. It was not that long ago parents were simply asked, what you want a boy or a girl? Of course a woman brought up as a boy parents having chosen the specific organ to go with this gender, then finds or thinks " I will have a sex change op" and yes, the transformation is amazing, they really are women and look like women as they simply have had the right parts put back!
However I find it quite sad that a lot of people are so unhappy with their existence that they feel the only way they THINK they can be happy is to live life as opposite sex.
Amateur arm-chair psychologist alert.
You just can't make claims like this without any sort of evidence or reasoning.
They had to build a new toilet for her. Still looked like a man in a frock. Don't know the outcome as I moved to another job shortly after.
It didn't bother me in the slightest, didn't affect me at all. Don't know what it was like in his office:)
I've seen a guy in M&S dressed as a woman accompanied by a woman. It's obvious he is a man, 6' something with big hands and feet.
Don't think you have:)
Still looks like a bloke in a frock. Unlike some of the Tai ladyboys who actually look like women.
He made a far more convincing woman the day he started wearing a polar fleece, track suit bottoms, dirty trainers and started dragging three unruly kids around a supermarket.
Every time i hear that Kinks song 'Lola' on the radio, it sort of reminds me of her :cool:
It makes as much sense to me as a person wanting elephant ears grafted on.
This may not be the PC enlightened answer,but it is my truth.
I will standby by for the internet lynching...
You seem to be coming at this from 'your' point of view, but you can understand who it feels to be 'trans'.
Firstly, nobody choose to be trans. Nobody should want to. It's a curse.
But people do have a choice, an awful choice.
Either the have the courage to make the change, and run the gauntlet of discrimination and abuse, from the opinions of folk who are more interested in the own sense of ascetics.
Or, they choose to keep they head down, and life a life of depression. Where they run the risk of killing themselves. I myself an not the 'suicide type.' but they say 50% of all trans-people top themselves before 30.
Even though ive not transitioned. I'm still trans. I don't want to be, but I am.
One of the things that has stopped me is the knowledge that I wouldn't 'pass'.
The world is full of people who thing there perception of how people should 'normally' be is more important to them then how that other people is feeling.....
Youngers better. She'll look more convincing.
I'm starting to wish I had bitten the bullet when I first realized I was trans, back when I was 19.
Looking at old photos of myself, it wouldn't of been that bad....
This would be my reaction too, and based on my memories of all the different companies I've worked for I think most people would react in the same way.
Sadly for transsexuals, this is generally the case. Virtually every single transsexual I've ever seen has looked like the least convincing woman since Tarzan went through Jane's handbag and ate her lipstick.
So do you think the same about gay people then ?. That it's just a "mental issue" ?