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Don't call your wife fat - that's Domestic Abuse!
EddietheEagle
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Loved reading this piece in today's Mail online, regarding the Labour party's intention to expand the definition of domestic violence, or abuse as it's now fashionably termed.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2734600/Husbands-constantly-criticise-wives-weight-guilty-domestic-abuse-says-Labour-shadow-minister.html
Another vote-winning initiative from Labour, or plain stupid?.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2734600/Husbands-constantly-criticise-wives-weight-guilty-domestic-abuse-says-Labour-shadow-minister.html
Another vote-winning initiative from Labour, or plain stupid?.
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do you think calling your wife fat would be abuse, or would it be part of a far bigger controlling behaviour of the husband.
What are your thoughts as I would say calling your partner fat wouldn't ever get you arrested unless you also spent years destroying that person psychologically prior to it.
It's not easy for some women to get out of relationships, no matter how easy people say it should be.
It seems too many feminists, especially the ones in Labour only want equality when it suits them.
I have known men who constantly criticise their partners appearance, choice of friends etc. etc. It totally undermines you as a person. I knew one woman who was not allowed friends to visit - or even allowed to speak to them when at home. You had to contact her on her mobile while she was out of the house.
You wonder why people put up with it. But I suppose it's similar, in that respect, to cases of physical abuse. Before anyone says anything, I know that men can suffer it too. I never did understand why my father put up with what he did.
Husband: "On the advice of my lawyer I cannot answer that question."
She did slip into 'partner' mode but soon got back on message. I want to know if taking up all the wardrobe space could be an indication of demeaning men's appearance. Apparently all kids will have mandatory sex education in state schools under Labour so boys will all be taught about how to address women properly.
There you go.
First thing I thought of.
"Does my bum look big in this dress?"
"Could you ring the Labour party and get permission from Harriet Harman for me to answer dear!.
What if I don't disagree with her that she is fat when she says she is (I usually do there is no way you could describe my better half as fat)
Does it include constant 'nagging'?
Not if it is for leaving the toliet seat up.
Some people (women and men) seem to think it free season to mock parts of their partners body, it's performance, quite often with their mates.
OOPS touched a nerve has it, SORRY couldn't resist
there are all kinds of "abuse" and name calling might not seem much to most of us, but we aren't all the same person, some people's feelings are very easily hurt, and others don't really care about a bit of name calling, I am certain that if I was to call my beloved and gorgeous and wonderful partner "fat" she would quite soon make me understand the mistake I had just made.
I can't see anywhere in the report by the 'unbiased' (and getting more desperate by the day) Daily hate Mail, where it says that Labour intend to make calling your wife fat a crime or that it in itself is "domestic abuse" despite the instant spin put on it by our increasingly desperate Tory supporting chums,
lets have a look shall we?
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2734600/Husbands-constantly-criticise-wives-weight-guilty-domestic-abuse-says-Labour-shadow-minister.html "MAY" one little tiny word, and as a result it can so easily be missed, or .... ignored,
Ah, so, no sign of calling the missus fat being made a crime or even being seen as "abuse" in itself then?
any sign of anyone from Labour saying "calling someone will become a crime" yet?
All of the "what about men then?" lot should read the link.
As the partner of a wonderful woman who put up with years of emotional as well as physical abuse from her former husband, I know first hand what a devastating effect it can have on some peoples lives,
Calling your partner "fat" is all about context if it's in fun or light hearted, for example some couples have the kind of relationship in which 'banter' or 'taking the p*ss' out of each other plays a significant part, I think most of us will 'poke fun' at our partners at some point,
it's when it is meant in an intentionally hurtful and abusive way and happens frequently, that it is an indicator that 'all is not well' in the relationship.
Husband: "Your eyesight's perfect!"
And that's just in the headline
BTW what do you think of Theresa May's consultation on the same subject will ask ask whether the law needs to be strengthened in order to provide better protection to domestic abuse victims by spelling out that domestic abuse can be emotional and psychological as well as physical.
And how will such 'abuse' be evidenced in court to convict when by its very nature we're in a 'he said, she said' situation with no signs of any physical abuse?
What about mothers who indulge in parental alienation and turn their children against their natural fathers? That's nasty intra-family psychological abuse in its own right.
You don't need bruises to prove abuse. There are other ways of proving it - indeed the examples given by Theresa May show how it can be done
So you are for parental alienation as you are against extending the law on abuse
If my wife was to call me fat I would quite soon make her understand the mistake she'd just made.
See how that sounds when it's reversed.;-)
Joking aside, I'd say we're not even at a stage yet where many men even recognise the domestic abuse they get for what it is, abuse, let alone are at a stage to comment on it or report it.
I cannot see Theresa May enacting laws that would see mothers with children potentially put in jail, particularly now that they've finally stopped jailing women for not paying for their TV licence.
Criminalising vast swathes of people is not the answer to society's problems.