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Resigned from new job
6 weeks in ive resigned from my job and im now regretting doing so. I live away mon-fri in a a house share which i detest simply because id rather be at home with my family. The job wasnt as expected and i was basically thrown in at the deep end with no formal training given. Its quite a stressful position where you have to get it right or theres dire consequences.The company arent interested in rectifying any of the concerns i have raised and simply tell me to ring a number if i require help with something i dont understand(an outside body). Besides dealing with that my wife hates the fact im away and cries constantly , she only sees me on a Sunday due to the fact she works a Saturday. So in haste i quit. After a years unemployment before securing this job i now feel that ive made a mistake in resigning. My wifes unhappy, im unhappy and really dont know what to do for the best.
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you only live once and there is no point wasting it in a job that basically ruins your home life.
depends on how poor but sounds like OP can afford it.
Yeah actually, so poor you become homeless or your children are suffering is probably not ideal come to think of it, but as long you have a home and your kids have food in their bellies and family to love them then you should be fine.
Snap!
You did the right thing.Staying in a job you detest poisons your whole being eventually, and nothing is worth that.
Also, trying not to be offensive here, but whilst your wife being upset is touching, is there some deeper insecurity that makes her so upset about you being away? I know I'd be really upset being away from my OH, but it upsetting you to the extent that you quit after six weeks seems kind of extreme.
I stuck out my first job for a year, living alone near work. It was fine at first because I got quite a lot of visiting done - I'd usually go ten weeks between being alone, what with visiting my parents, my OH and my friends, and them visiting me, and I had an aunt and an uncle nearby too. When I got ill with stress from work it became too much though, and I quit and had a new job in less than a month.
Years ago I remember seeing a programme on African miners who had to live away from home for months at a time and send money home to their families. I remember thinking 'thank goodness our society is more caring'. Well no longer is it? Workers are treated like dirt. Time we got some strong unions back!
I agree with this ^ You have been out of work a year and back in a job for only 6 weeks and I would certainly have recommended you stuck it out longer. Yes it stinks being away from home, wife and sprogs will miss you, but I imagine you were thrilled to get the post and to jettison it this quickly I consider a mistake. As a recruiter I can tell you people are more employable employed. Also you have made yourself deliberately unemployed so I imagine you won't get any benefits for a few months if you try and sign on again.
It's hellishly tough out here, sacrifices - some big ones - have to be made. I'm only sorry you didn't do an 'I hate my new job' thread when you first realised how unhappy you were and we could all have given you some support to get through it. I knew within 2 hrs of starting one role I took was a mistake, stuck it for 18 months and the experience I had there was actually priceless for my professional development.
Have a look at contract, interim and temporary work, but I 'm afraid 'overselling' roles to prospective candidates is very common and you show up to find the reality is not what you expected.
Good luck.
OP, if you're planning on applying for jobseekers, you have to give the jobcentre your reasons for leaving and they have to conclude that you had "just cause" for doing so. If they don't believe there is just cause, you could be denied JSA for up to 26 weeks.