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Worried following scan
Yesterday we went for our 20 week scan. Instead of getting to see our baby, after 40 minutes we were told there were problems getting pictures of the heart and lower limbs and the baby was the same size as it should be at 15 weeks.
Rather than being told to come back for a second scan, we've been referred to a fetal medicine specialist. We have to wait 5 days for a specialist scan and examination, possibly an amnesiosis test for chromosome disorders.
Doctors say a second, clearer scan could reveal everything to be normal. Or it could be very, very bad.
I don't know how I'm going to cope with the waiting. I'm trying not to think about what may come after. I look back at old FB posts announcing we were expecting our first baby and I'm so scared that we might not have a healthy baby, or a baby at all. I hate feeling so helpless.
I don't know what advice I'm looking for, but I can't really face telling anybody over the phone or face to face at the moment.
Rather than being told to come back for a second scan, we've been referred to a fetal medicine specialist. We have to wait 5 days for a specialist scan and examination, possibly an amnesiosis test for chromosome disorders.
Doctors say a second, clearer scan could reveal everything to be normal. Or it could be very, very bad.
I don't know how I'm going to cope with the waiting. I'm trying not to think about what may come after. I look back at old FB posts announcing we were expecting our first baby and I'm so scared that we might not have a healthy baby, or a baby at all. I hate feeling so helpless.
I don't know what advice I'm looking for, but I can't really face telling anybody over the phone or face to face at the moment.
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Thanks. It's the staying hard that's positive, because nothing we can do can fix things. Waiting is driving me crazy.
I know , waiting is never easy . Just take one day at a time , dont think ahead . Sending you good wishes and am here to listen .
And as for the problems getting pictures of the baby's limbs etc my two buggers wouldn't co-operate so the scan pics look like blobs!
I felt a little bit better when speaking to Mum about it, and she said that both me and my sister were 5lbs 12oz at birth. Nurses didn't believe she wasn't a smoker, because we were abnormally little babies - and we're not very tiny now!
The scan notes did say it was a difficult scan in terms of visibility, but two sonographers had a look, and the fact that we've been referred to a specialist straight away rather than told to go back to our local hospital is what makes me nervous.
Good luck eluf38 hope all goes well.
I understand you must be really worried and of course you would be. Anyone would and a wait doesn't help. Try and keep busy so you don't allow your brain to dwell on the what ifs I guess. And you always have DS to come and vent to.
It's torture, waiting so long because of the bank holiday. Any other time and we'd have been seen within a day or two... four more days of not knowing! It's so hard not to imagine the worst. I could cope with anything but the prospect of losing our baby.
I have everything crossed for you
further tests dont always mean bad news, they are a pain in the butt but can have good outcomes despite all the dire predicitons and just to give you a huge hug during this stressful time youre going through. Its the worst part no doubt about it having to wait, but please just take deep breaths and meditate, listen to music whatever it takes try and let it all go and relax. worrying wont change a thing.
Do you have a midwife you could talk to? Particularly if you're concerned over baby's heartbeat?
I know it's difficult but you just need to try and stay as positive as you can until you see the specialist. You'll need some good old distraction therapy in the coming days.
Take care.
As this is your first pregnancy, you won't feel any movement until about twenty weeks and even then it will be little flutters at first. I know it's hard but please try not to stress. From your post nothing really stands out as terribly out of the ordinary,n ot all babies like to perform for the camera:) and at 20 weeks it's still to early to state for sure if a baby is small or not.
We will all be thinking of you and have everything crossed for you.
All you can do is take each day at a time and lean on very heavily in your support networks. Best wishes with the next stage