Obviously most of those are advice rather than rules.
The limits on use are fantastic - he's 13 after all! It's so depressing to see kids glued to phone screens.
And I agree about not viewing everything through a camera viewer, there's an Ian Brown quote I totally agree with, "If you put your cameras down you might be able to live in the moment. You have a memory there of something you’ve never lived.”
I agree that rules are needed but personally this seems over bearing. I would say to my child 'please turn your phone before bed' not 'you must hand over your phone at 7:30 without fail'. Unless the child was found out not to be doing what I asked then I might ask for it to be handed over.
She gave a 13 year old an iPhone, she's braver and more generous than I am! There's no way I'd give my son an iPhone before 16.
She gave a 13 year old an iPhone, she's braver and more generous than I am! There's no way I'd give my son an iPhone before 16.
I am not sure if I would or not, glad I am not a parent. When I was a teen I had a Nokia 3310, where the worse I could do was use all my credit on texts or play snake
This is amazing. She sounds like a great mum. I'm not sure I'd have that opinion if I was her son, but good on her.
We moan all the time about parents not taking more of an interest in their children's lives because they either dont care, or are too absorbed in their own, so this should be applauded.
I agree that rules are needed but personally this seems over bearing. I would say to my child 'please turn your phone before bed' not 'you must hand over your phone at 7:30 without fail'. Unless the child was found out not to be doing what I asked then I might ask for it to be handed over.
I suggested earlier that I would implement something similar when I provide my child with a new phone soon, with amendments to suit our family. This rule would be one I'd change, or more likely just omit so that I can add the device to our current punishment scheme. We have a list of treasured possessions, misbehaviour is greeted with a warning that one of the items will be removed for the rest of the week if behaviour continues, obviously if it then does, the item is kept until reset on Sunday. Also, there would be no point in me removing the iphone if the ipod were still in possession. And, the handover times would be too early for us, even if it were a rule we would implement.
Absolutely ridiculous. It sounds like she really wanted the phone for herself and is afraid to let him use it for that reason. Why have an iPhone or any smartphone if the user's not allowed to make the most of it because of their control freak mother and her pointless and stupid rules? :rolleyes::mad:
Absolutely ridiculous. It sounds like she really wanted the phone for herself and is afraid to let him use it for that reason. Why have an iPhone or any smartphone if you're not allowed to make the most of it because of your control freak mother and her stupid rules? :rolleyes::mad:
lol duck! if you disagree with any of the rules then you don't appreciate a good parent according to the Mumnetmafia.
Absolutely ridiculous. It sounds like she really wanted the phone for herself and is afraid to let him use it for that reason. Why have an iPhone or any smartphone if you're not allowed to make the most of it because of your control freak mother and her stupid rules? :rolleyes::mad:
Yeah ! Bit like having your own money and not being allowed to spend it on a book you want innit
Absolutely ridiculous. It sounds like she really wanted the phone for herself and is afraid to let him use it for that reason. Why have an iPhone or any smartphone if the user's not allowed to make the most of it because of their control freak mother and her pointless and stupid rules? :rolleyes::mad:
But what do you think about the fact that he's 13? For a 15/16 year old it would be ridiculous, but I don't agree with a 13 year old having an iphone at all.
And if my son was given one I would be just as restrictive - I don't care about his 'human rights' or anything else, he's a child.
lol duck! if you disagree with any of the rules then you don't appreciate a good parent according to the Mumnetmafia.
Ha ha! Indeed! Apparently expecting a tiny bit of respect and privacy at the age of 13 (I was frequently catching trains half the length of the country at that age!) is borderline outrageous!
I remember when I was in my first year of secondary school coming home to find my mother flicking through my diary (and Mizz magazine ) and the absolute mortification I felt.
I didn't actually show any 'real-life' interest in boys for at least another few months after that, so I have no idea what she was stressing about! :)
But what do you think about the fact that he's 13? For a 15/16 year old it would be ridiculous, but I don't agree with a 13 year old having an iphone at all.
And if my son was given one I would be just as restrictive - I don't care about his 'human rights' or anything else, he's a child.
If i had a 13yr old child and could afford it they would get an iphone. It would be locked to avoid going over certain limits on both texting and calling. I would have an emergency fund in place on the phone so they could call me and for safety reasons I wouldn't let them leave the house without it. It would be insured. I would remind them of the dangers of giving strangers your no, taking pics for people you dont know and being "groomed" I would ask if i could see it every now and then and if not why not what are they hiding? they can bitch and moan about me their mum but I just want to make sure they are not doing any of the things i said.
10pm would be bedtime, no phone after that till breakfast it would be waiting for them in the morning on school nights, weekends they could have it.
I think my rules would be perfectly fine. I think this womans rules written with going viral as she is a writer are not fine, are over the top and not written with her son in mind at all but a bit of "wow aren't you a good mum"! back slapping.
Ha ha! Indeed! Apparently expecting a tiny bit of respect and privacy at the age of 13 (I was frequently catching trains half the length of the country at that age!) is borderline outrageous!
I remember when I was in my first year of secondary school coming home to find my mother flicking through my diary (and Mizz magazine ) and the absolute mortification I felt.
I didn't actually show any 'real-life' interest in boys for at least another few months after that, so I have no idea what she was stressing about! :)
I was the same I was all about ballet and horses but we lived in deepest Cornwall and i wasn't really active on the net at the time so I wasn't really in any danger apart from falling down an unused tin mine and hoping the mobile i had would get a signal
Can't take it to school and it gets turned off at 7.30pm? So he has access to it for what - three and a half hours a day? Seems pointless having it at all.
Not sure why she would want him not to take it out with him all of the time either, if anything ever goes wrong while he's out she'll be grateful he took it with him..
Can't take it to school and it gets turned off at 7.30pm? So he has access to it for what - three and a half hours a day? Seems pointless having it at all.
Not sure why she would want him not to take it out with him all of the time either, if anything ever goes wrong while he's out she'll be grateful he took it with him..
Even less when he will likely have to do his homework and have his tea without using it.
I also think it's good to remember here that not only are all children different but also that there can be a vast differences in development and maturity levels between different 13year olds.
I also think it's good to remember here that not only are all children different but also that there can be a vast differences in development and maturity levels between different 13year olds.
Can't take it to school and it gets turned off at 7.30pm? So he has access to it for what - three and a half hours a day? Seems pointless having it at all.
Why would a thirteen-year-old need to be contactable twenty-four hours a day? Three and a half hours means the kid can still text or phone friends and all the phone other stuff - just not to the detriment of his/her life.
It's a phone, not a kidney. It doesn't need to be - and shouldn't be - there all the time, especially not for a kid.
Can't take it to school and it gets turned off at 7.30pm? So he has access to it for what - three and a half hours a day? Seems pointless having it at all.
Not sure why she would want him not to take it out with him all of the time either, if anything ever goes wrong while he's out she'll be grateful he took it with him..
Why do kids need a mobile in school ? we survived for years without them , if its an emergency contact thing then i think all schools should insist they are left at the office or in a locker in the morning and collected at the end of the day.
Absolutely ridiculous. It sounds like she really wanted the phone for herself and is afraid to let him use it for that reason. Why have an iPhone or any smartphone if the user's not allowed to make the most of it because of their control freak mother and her pointless and stupid rules? :rolleyes::mad:
Some of those rules are very sensible , turn it off in cinemas etc , dont use it to send sexual texts (naked pics) as many kids dont realise they can be arrested and placed on a sex offenders register.
I suggested earlier that I would implement something similar when I provide my child with a new phone soon, with amendments to suit our family. This rule would be one I'd change, or more likely just omit so that I can add the device to our current punishment scheme. We have a list of treasured possessions, misbehaviour is greeted with a warning that one of the items will be removed for the rest of the week if behaviour continues, obviously if it then does, the item is kept until reset on Sunday. Also, there would be no point in me removing the iphone if the ipod were still in possession. And, the handover times would be too early for us, even if it were a rule we would implement.
Sorry, I just don't get the concept of giving a teenager a present and immediately adding to the 'punishment scheme' for me that would take all the joy out of it.
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The limits on use are fantastic - he's 13 after all! It's so depressing to see kids glued to phone screens.
And I agree about not viewing everything through a camera viewer, there's an Ian Brown quote I totally agree with, "If you put your cameras down you might be able to live in the moment. You have a memory there of something you’ve never lived.”
She gave a 13 year old an iPhone, she's braver and more generous than I am! There's no way I'd give my son an iPhone before 16.
I am not sure if I would or not, glad I am not a parent. When I was a teen I had a Nokia 3310, where the worse I could do was use all my credit on texts or play snake
We moan all the time about parents not taking more of an interest in their children's lives because they either dont care, or are too absorbed in their own, so this should be applauded.
I suggested earlier that I would implement something similar when I provide my child with a new phone soon, with amendments to suit our family. This rule would be one I'd change, or more likely just omit so that I can add the device to our current punishment scheme. We have a list of treasured possessions, misbehaviour is greeted with a warning that one of the items will be removed for the rest of the week if behaviour continues, obviously if it then does, the item is kept until reset on Sunday. Also, there would be no point in me removing the iphone if the ipod were still in possession. And, the handover times would be too early for us, even if it were a rule we would implement.
lol duck! if you disagree with any of the rules then you don't appreciate a good parent according to the Mumnetmafia.
*runs and hides from the Mumsnet types*
Yeah ! Bit like having your own money and not being allowed to spend it on a book you want innit
Take me with you, i've already been burnt in this thread
But what do you think about the fact that he's 13? For a 15/16 year old it would be ridiculous, but I don't agree with a 13 year old having an iphone at all.
And if my son was given one I would be just as restrictive - I don't care about his 'human rights' or anything else, he's a child.
Ha ha! Indeed! Apparently expecting a tiny bit of respect and privacy at the age of 13 (I was frequently catching trains half the length of the country at that age!) is borderline outrageous!
I remember when I was in my first year of secondary school coming home to find my mother flicking through my diary (and Mizz magazine
I didn't actually show any 'real-life' interest in boys for at least another few months after that, so I have no idea what she was stressing about!
If i had a 13yr old child and could afford it they would get an iphone. It would be locked to avoid going over certain limits on both texting and calling. I would have an emergency fund in place on the phone so they could call me and for safety reasons I wouldn't let them leave the house without it. It would be insured. I would remind them of the dangers of giving strangers your no, taking pics for people you dont know and being "groomed" I would ask if i could see it every now and then and if not why not what are they hiding? they can bitch and moan about me their mum but I just want to make sure they are not doing any of the things i said.
10pm would be bedtime, no phone after that till breakfast it would be waiting for them in the morning on school nights, weekends they could have it.
I think my rules would be perfectly fine. I think this womans rules written with going viral as she is a writer are not fine, are over the top and not written with her son in mind at all but a bit of "wow aren't you a good mum"! back slapping.
All of this is just my opinion.
I was the same I was all about ballet and horses but we lived in deepest Cornwall and i wasn't really active on the net at the time so I wasn't really in any danger apart from falling down an unused tin mine and hoping the mobile i had would get a signal
Not sure why she would want him not to take it out with him all of the time either, if anything ever goes wrong while he's out she'll be grateful he took it with him..
Even less when he will likely have to do his homework and have his tea without using it.
But as I said overall I agree with the rules
That is very true.
It's a phone, not a kidney. It doesn't need to be - and shouldn't be - there all the time, especially not for a kid.
Why do kids need a mobile in school ? we survived for years without them , if its an emergency contact thing then i think all schools should insist they are left at the office or in a locker in the morning and collected at the end of the day.
Some of those rules are very sensible , turn it off in cinemas etc , dont use it to send sexual texts (naked pics) as many kids dont realise they can be arrested and placed on a sex offenders register.
AS I said earlier it doesn't matter if the pic is of themselves they are still distributing child pornography
Sorry, I just don't get the concept of giving a teenager a present and immediately adding to the 'punishment scheme' for me that would take all the joy out of it.