I'd say 'benefits' and 'being on benefits' are some of the few things which have become more taboo over the last few years.
And I mean that quite seriously as well. Some consider claimants to be complete scum of the earth and I don't think that rhetoric was quite as strong even 5-10 years ago.
Agreed. The government's PR campaign in collusion with newspapers has been very effective.
Anyway, taboos are hard to spot because we take so many social norms for granted. I'd say being asexual would count as one. The media have a few articles on it every now and then but almost no-one will admit to it.
Agreed. The government's PR campaign in collusion with newspapers has been very effective.
Anyway, taboos are hard to spot because we take so many social norms for granted. I'd say being asexual would count as one. The media have a few articles on it every now and then but almost no-one will admit to it.
We do?. Well, there's obviously at least one asexual on this forum site. I've never slept with anyone and im in my 30s, I suppose that maybe seems a bit uncommon? *shrug* its probably not though.
No Izzy I don't think it's that uncommon .I have 2 nephews who are older than you and they haven't slept with anyone either .They are both home bodies and after work sit in .
No Izzy I don't think it's that uncommon .I have 2 nephews who are older than you and they haven't slept with anyone either .They are both home bodies and after work sit in .
As long as they are happy it does not matter how sexually experienced someone is - although judging from the contemporary media everyone is in a rampant sexual frenzy every single minute of every single day.
No Izzy I don't think it's that uncommon .I have 2 nephews who are older than you and they haven't slept with anyone either .They are both home bodies and after work sit in .
I think its more the case that you hear about (on TV/in the media) people dating and settling down in their 30s or 40s, having kids and so on, so somehow you presume thats what most people do. People won't necessarily talk about things they feel they may be made fun of or that aren't regarded as normal or whatever, but the irony is alot of people may have similar situations, just they don't know it because they don't talk about it...not that, that particular thing is bad but, you know what I mean? lol thats not a great way of wording things...
I was just referring to the fact there are loads of Asexuals on here! I've never spoken to as many as I have on this forum. I think it's quite rare to meet them in real life (or maybe it is a taboo and they don't say and Semierotic has a point...)
Either way I hope people feel they can talk about their sexuality freely, whatever that may be.
No Izzy I don't think it's that uncommon .I have 2 nephews who are older than you and they haven't slept with anyone either .They are both home bodies and after work sit in .
I think its more the case that you hear about (on TV/in the media) people dating and settling down in their 30s or 40s, having kids and so on, so somehow you presume thats what most people do. People won't necessarily talk about things they feel they may be made fun of or that aren't regarded as normal or whatever, but the irony is alot of people may have similar situations, just they don't know it because they don't talk about it...not that, that particular thing is bad but, you know what I mean? lol thats not a great way of wording things...
As long as they are happy it does not matter how sexually experienced someone is - although judging from the contemporary media everyone is in a rampant sexual frenzy every single minute of every single day.
Thats true. I suppose a lot of things boil down to perceptions. I do sometimes cringe when I think about the future and maybe dating, saying that almost everything is new to me. I like to think people wouldn't laugh at me but I don't know. Anyone who did would be rather insensitive in the first place though.
There are a lot of things im not sure about but its probably more common than I think.
I think this is changing and that there is a lot more awareness for male eating disorders nowadays.
I haven't seen anything to suggest that. Saying that I don't read newspapers (or magazines) often, and whenever eating disorders are brought up it's always about how terrible it is these poor women and girls are being pressured by magazines.
What subjects do you think of as being avoided by the press/media...
I'm wondering what sorts of things people feel that still exist but aren't being discussed, .
It's a very interesting topic - but I think for the most part this would involve the level of whistle blowing that would be safer to do via wikileaks that DS.
Big issue topics such as the BBC coverups or D notices are never going to come out here - You need mainstream media to break that kind of thing.
Superinjunctions are the obvious subjects for internet exposure but of course DS will jump on that kind of thing like lightening.
All that really leaves is stuff covered by NDAs and even there it's not the right forum. If hypothetically I was to post about the fact that the government had been in negotiations with TATA about outsourcing secondary education on a national level I'd need a level of protection from the various teachers unions that would come after me ;-) and wouldn't trust DS to protect my identity
It's a very interesting topic - but I think for the most part this would involve the level of whistle blowing that would be safer to do via wikileaks that DS.
Big issue topics such as the BBC coverups or D notices are never going to come out here - You need mainstream media to break that kind of thing.
Superinjunctions are the obvious subjects for internet exposure but of course DS will jump on that kind of thing like lightening.
All that really leaves is stuff covered by NDAs and even there it's not the right forum. If hypothetically I was to post about the fact that the government had been in negotiations with TATA about outsourcing secondary education on a national level I'd need a level of protection from the various teachers unions that would come after me ;-) and wouldn't trust DS to protect my identity
I didn't necessarily mean in terms of major cover ups, I was thinking more closer to home. Things people don't necessarily talk about, that they may feel might make them seem weird or feel nervous about discussing but if they did, might find that actually their very much not the only one...not sure that makes much sense but eh lol.
I'm quite an inquisitive person, so maybe its nosiness but I try not to judge people much - I tend to be interested in discussing heavy subjects, at times anyway, so it seems.
I agree on asexuality. Never met anyone who is openly asexual in real life but many online which indicates people aren't comfortable with it.
How about menopause? Other than joking about hot flushes it's not really discussed in terms of years of hormonal turmoil and it's effect on women and the family.
I still think disability is a topic that the media has problems trying to represent. Whether it be mental health or physical disability programmes (soap, drama, sitcom) and literature are still apprehensive about how to approach this subject.
I agree on asexuality. Never met anyone who is openly asexual in real life but many online which indicates people aren't comfortable with it.
I also agree.
On the rare times I've seen the issue raised anywhere mainstream, people just kind of pat the asexual person on the head and reassure them they'll find someone one day and there's no harm in taking time over it.
I'm not asexual but I know people online who are and there is so much ignorance towards asexuality it's unbelievable. I know sex is one of the most natural things in the world but why is it so impossible for anyone who is not mainstream to be understood, let alone respected?
I feel that commenting on body physiology can be problematic. For example, the muscle mass and weight distribution in black people of African origin means they are better equipped to excel in some sports (eg, track and field) rather than swimming. This is because, on average, people of these origins tend to be more muscle dense. That is how people have evolved to survive their environment. It is not a value judgement on the colour of a person's skin - just to the difference in body composition.
I always thought that the fact that a lot of black people have wider noses helped as it they could get more oxygen into their lungs, whereas white/indian etc people have developed longer noses to live in colder climate which allow the oxygen to take longer to get to the lung allowing it to warm up so as not to lose body temperature.
Telling people that you hate Black History month is a bit risky in my experience, but when I also tell them that I hate valentines day etc and think that you shouldn't need to be told to do this type of thing on just one day/month usually puts my point across. I hate commercialism.
I still think disability is a topic that the media has problems trying to represent. Whether it be mental health or physical disability programmes (soap, drama, sitcom) and literature are still apprehensive about how to approach this subject.
Then there's Adam Hills - I presume he wouldn't be allowed to poke fun at the Paralympics\Paralympians so much if he didn't have a disability himself plus other disabled comedians on his show, laughing with him?.
I agree on asexuality. Never met anyone who is openly asexual in real life but many online which indicates people aren't comfortable with it.
How about menopause? Other than joking about hot flushes it's not really discussed in terms of years of hormonal turmoil and it's effect on women and the family.
Very true, everyone knows about hot flushes but no one wants to talk about the accompanying vaginal dryness and the fact that sex can feel like knocking a rawl plug in.
Look. What is your problem. That comment is totally out of order and unfounded. If you are going to make accusations like that, at least have the decency to back it up with evidence (of which there is none IMO). Otherwise, just go away and quit with the digs. This is not the first time you've had a pop at me for no apparent reason.
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I think this is changing and that there is a lot more awareness for male eating disorders nowadays.
Agreed. The government's PR campaign in collusion with newspapers has been very effective.
Anyway, taboos are hard to spot because we take so many social norms for granted. I'd say being asexual would count as one. The media have a few articles on it every now and then but almost no-one will admit to it.
We do?. Well, there's obviously at least one asexual on this forum site. I've never slept with anyone and im in my 30s, I suppose that maybe seems a bit uncommon? *shrug* its probably not though.
As long as they are happy it does not matter how sexually experienced someone is - although judging from the contemporary media everyone is in a rampant sexual frenzy every single minute of every single day.
There is? ;-)
I think its more the case that you hear about (on TV/in the media) people dating and settling down in their 30s or 40s, having kids and so on, so somehow you presume thats what most people do. People won't necessarily talk about things they feel they may be made fun of or that aren't regarded as normal or whatever, but the irony is alot of people may have similar situations, just they don't know it because they don't talk about it...not that, that particular thing is bad but, you know what I mean? lol thats not a great way of wording things...
I thought it was you. ;-)
Haha, no.
I was just referring to the fact there are loads of Asexuals on here! I've never spoken to as many as I have on this forum. I think it's quite rare to meet them in real life (or maybe it is a taboo and they don't say and Semierotic has a point...)
Either way I hope people feel they can talk about their sexuality freely, whatever that may be.
I think its more the case that you hear about (on TV/in the media) people dating and settling down in their 30s or 40s, having kids and so on, so somehow you presume thats what most people do. People won't necessarily talk about things they feel they may be made fun of or that aren't regarded as normal or whatever, but the irony is alot of people may have similar situations, just they don't know it because they don't talk about it...not that, that particular thing is bad but, you know what I mean? lol thats not a great way of wording things...
Thats true. I suppose a lot of things boil down to perceptions. I do sometimes cringe when I think about the future and maybe dating, saying that almost everything is new to me. I like to think people wouldn't laugh at me but I don't know. Anyone who did would be rather insensitive in the first place though.
There are a lot of things im not sure about but its probably more common than I think.
lol yes, its pretty well known ('round these parts) I'd have thought.
I haven't seen anything to suggest that. Saying that I don't read newspapers (or magazines) often, and whenever eating disorders are brought up it's always about how terrible it is these poor women and girls are being pressured by magazines.
It's a very interesting topic - but I think for the most part this would involve the level of whistle blowing that would be safer to do via wikileaks that DS.
Big issue topics such as the BBC coverups or D notices are never going to come out here - You need mainstream media to break that kind of thing.
Superinjunctions are the obvious subjects for internet exposure but of course DS will jump on that kind of thing like lightening.
All that really leaves is stuff covered by NDAs and even there it's not the right forum. If hypothetically I was to post about the fact that the government had been in negotiations with TATA about outsourcing secondary education on a national level I'd need a level of protection from the various teachers unions that would come after me ;-) and wouldn't trust DS to protect my identity
The only one I can think of 100% is jra.
I didn't necessarily mean in terms of major cover ups, I was thinking more closer to home. Things people don't necessarily talk about, that they may feel might make them seem weird or feel nervous about discussing but if they did, might find that actually their very much not the only one...not sure that makes much sense but eh lol.
I'm quite an inquisitive person, so maybe its nosiness but I try not to judge people much - I tend to be interested in discussing heavy subjects, at times anyway, so it seems.
Rimming has made a comeback though, which is nice.
How about menopause? Other than joking about hot flushes it's not really discussed in terms of years of hormonal turmoil and it's effect on women and the family.
I also agree.
On the rare times I've seen the issue raised anywhere mainstream, people just kind of pat the asexual person on the head and reassure them they'll find someone one day and there's no harm in taking time over it.
I'm not asexual but I know people online who are and there is so much ignorance towards asexuality it's unbelievable. I know sex is one of the most natural things in the world but why is it so impossible for anyone who is not mainstream to be understood, let alone respected?
I always thought that the fact that a lot of black people have wider noses helped as it they could get more oxygen into their lungs, whereas white/indian etc people have developed longer noses to live in colder climate which allow the oxygen to take longer to get to the lung allowing it to warm up so as not to lose body temperature.
Then there's Adam Hills - I presume he wouldn't be allowed to poke fun at the Paralympics\Paralympians so much if he didn't have a disability himself plus other disabled comedians on his show, laughing with him?.
Very true, everyone knows about hot flushes but no one wants to talk about the accompanying vaginal dryness and the fact that sex can feel like knocking a rawl plug in.
Look. What is your problem. That comment is totally out of order and unfounded. If you are going to make accusations like that, at least have the decency to back it up with evidence (of which there is none IMO). Otherwise, just go away and quit with the digs. This is not the first time you've had a pop at me for no apparent reason.