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Does a partner's sexual past / relationships bother you?
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Just been having this conversation at work and it got me thinking as it seems REALLY common (either that or I work with a very insecure bunch!)
Does your partner's sexual past / ex partners bother you? Admittedly its not a nice thought to know the one you love has experienced such things with another but surely unless you are very young or meet a virgin it's very unlikely there won't be someone who has 'gone before'.
I have my insecure moments but I know people who are constantly facebooking their partners ex, asking for gory details etc. Why do people do that?!
Does your partner's sexual past / ex partners bother you? Admittedly its not a nice thought to know the one you love has experienced such things with another but surely unless you are very young or meet a virgin it's very unlikely there won't be someone who has 'gone before'.
I have my insecure moments but I know people who are constantly facebooking their partners ex, asking for gory details etc. Why do people do that?!
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And I must admit, I would be very wary - if I was single now - of hooking up with a virgin.
i'm as jealous as anything!
if he's had lots of experience he clearly can't be trusted.:mad:
When we met, I was living/house sharing with my ex boyfriend (we stayed friends after we split up). My hubby hated it and I moved out and in with him not long after we got together.
I have a "colourful" sexual past, I have had more sexual partners than him and have been with men and women so he has it doubly as bad
We are fine though, but he doesn't like me talking about my ex boyfriends and girlfriends. If I am talking about something in my past with friends that involves other sexual partners, he tends to leave the room.
EDIT: Not sexual things, I don't talk about sexual things in front of him, just generally (sorry, people were getting the wrong end of the stick )
But I would be bothered about how they behaved in their relationship (did they cheat, for example, and if so why?) - but I'd hope I'd be able to find those things out from the person I was involved with, that they'd be honest with me, but I wouldn't dream of chasing up their exes for such information. I have too much dignity for that!
This is a wind-up right ?
Anyway, some of the things I got up to before we met would make me very hypocritical if i questioned my wife's past.
why would it be?
i care about myself and who i sleep with. i'd prefer the feeling to be mutual.
I wouldn't say it was crass, but slightly insensitive perhaps?
Wouldn't it be better to ensure your partner wasn't in the room to begin with before bringing up an ex as you know he doesn't like it?
sounds like he's unsure about you
How does that logic work?
Lol, we have been togeter for 15 years and I have never cheated or given him any reason to think I have or would.
We don't have trust issues, believe me
It was before they met and she's undecided as to weather to broach the subject or not.
Thats ridiculous, I am allowed to talk about my life before him.
This is getting silly now, I wish I hadn't replied
sex is just a game for them
why do you think he leaves the room ?
Because of this statement you made;
'if he's had lots of experience he clearly can't be trusted.'
I don't follow your logic, maybe you can expand on that?
Jealousy is an awful emotion... I hope you find comfort, in your life partner..and it passes
You think he leaves the room because he thinks I am cheating on him
Everyone is entitled to their opinion
EDIT: Ah I have seen your post's now, you're projecting your feelings of jealously onto me and my husband.
Barking up the wrong tree there love
I agree, that logic makes zero sense to me.
If a person has had lots of sex or sexual partners, it means they enjoy sex. Nothing else. Trust doesn't come into it.
He's mine all mine:D