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the annoyance of unexpected visitors
Mommie Dearest
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how do you feel about uninvited visitors just showing up? an old friend of mine who I love dearly has this somewhat annoying habit. She knows when my days off are as they're always the same every week. On my days off, when my son leaves for school and I don't have housework to do I know I can just laze around, have a bit of a nap, browse the 'net whilst enjoying a cuppa...read, watch a film and not have to speak to anyone. Bliss...was looking forward to similar today but she turned up "I was in the area so I thought I'd see if you were in!" my heart sank...so she stayed for 2 hours, whilst I made tea and she gave me the synopsis of the film "Ghandi" (I kid you not) I do love seeing friends but I prefer to have arrangements. Am I just being an anti-social crabby old hermit or does anyone else feel the same? my son is 15 and severely autistic so "peace and quiet" time is very precious to me.
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Wow, you seem like a right bundle of fun.
that's a bit rude. I stated why I like peace and quiet on my days off, I'm sure I'm not the only one. And I do like to socialise as well, thank you.
Patrolled by dogs.
But they are only Yorkshire terriers because bigger dogs are too expensive to feed.
Never answer the door on your day off or during your 'me' time.
Screen all phone calls and use your judgement whether a call might be urgent and need answering.
Shut the world out and have a good old relax.
trouble is, she can see my car in the driveway and from our front door you can see if the TV's on etc...I have however feigned illness on some of her previous visits or said I have to rush out
Yes every time she comes say "oh, I'm just on my way to the doctors/library/whatever. it's such a shame you didn't call first or we could have arranged a time to meet". She'll get the message.
Family and friends know to telephone in advance.
"My mum grew up in Dublin. Not only did people just call round to say hello, but they wouldn't even knock and wait for someone to open the door. They knock as they open the door. It's a friendly place where you pop round to your friend's house and have a quick brew and a natter. Not in London. Again, I believe it to be some strange law that bans you from doing so. If we are in and somebody knocks on the door, we look at each other blankly. Chances are its a murderer or a drunk man or something. It wouldn't be a friend because friends always call before popping round. As I said, it's a strange place this London"
do you have one of those speakeasy-style sliding door panels so only your eyes show and you ask for a password?
http://www.cafleurebon.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/09/speakeasy-door-slot-300x242.jpg
Go round her house with the DVD at 9pm (or even better a copy of Cry Freedom or Hotel Rwanda) and force her to watch it with you.
If she persists with her intrusions - carry on, with a greater range of revolutionary films. Eventually you will beat her down.
I live in Dublin and you are speaking of the 50's 60's ,maybe 70's /We now have our doors locked unfortunately , not to keep friends out but fiends
Worse still they turned up with their new fiance in tow, who had never seen our house.
Worse still I was out on a 10 mile bike ride so they were let in by my eldest and so we arrived home hot, sweaty, shagged out - and with people to entertain.
I mentioned this to my mum a couple of years ago, and she explained to me that this sort of thing was quite acceptable to her generation because they'd grown up in a time when most people didn't have home telephones. You couldn't just phone up someone who lived miles away and arrange to meet up; your choices were to either sit down an write them a letter, post it and wait for them to sit down and write a reply - or just turn up on spec.
No excuse for it nowadays mind.
Seemples