Are people in their 20's more intolerable than teens?
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In terms of being self absorbed, thriving on drama, dysfunctional etc..
I was sat the other day thinking is the GIRLS-LenaDunham esque portrayal of 20 something really accurate?, surely most people get better with age?
But then I pondered....people I've known since school, some are the samish ok people, others have changed into more woe is me ranty, when even though they had these aspects as teens, had a sense of fun about it back then, a lot of people seem to take themselves more seriously even if its not really warranted.
I've recently distanced myself from 2 people in the last year, because there behaviour was so self absorbed it was galling. I can't remember having this issue before
Has anyone else felt this?
I was sat the other day thinking is the GIRLS-LenaDunham esque portrayal of 20 something really accurate?, surely most people get better with age?
But then I pondered....people I've known since school, some are the samish ok people, others have changed into more woe is me ranty, when even though they had these aspects as teens, had a sense of fun about it back then, a lot of people seem to take themselves more seriously even if its not really warranted.
I've recently distanced myself from 2 people in the last year, because there behaviour was so self absorbed it was galling. I can't remember having this issue before
Has anyone else felt this?
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Nope. Sorry. Didn't get any of that.
No, not at all. I've found that people tend to become grown ups somewhere between 20 and 25 and that they will basically become who they will become.
Those who are self absorbed or woe is me types at 25 will probably be self absorbed or woe is me types for the rest of their lives unless something happens that changes them.
I kinda think your late teens form you, your early 20's you find yourself and then your mid 20's onwards, you are who you will be.
I actually find teenagers and people who are quite a bit older than me (40's/50's) to be more annoying in some way. But not all, depends on the people... so... I myself am probably drawing a mindset thing into an age thing there.
I think perhaps the fact that you as a person change slightly aswell.
I have also recently stopped seeing someone I have been friends with for a very long time, i don't think its that their personality has got worse, i think alot of it is the fact that i see it so much more than i did when i was younger and it just got intolerable.
We are far more aware and less insular than other generations due to social media.
I don't think we are that bad at all. But I wouldn't really being one of those nasty people you speak of.
Great generalisation there.
I'm 22 myself. I have a tendency to moan more than now and again. I rant and I complain. But I truly hope I'm not self-absorbed enough to reach the point that it's all I do. I'm probably considered quite boring by most people my age...I detest clubbing, I seldom drink anything more than a Coke, I spend my time on forums and will travel for hours in pursuit of my photography. You try to make the best of things, but things are tough in life for people in my age-group right now and that's a cold, hard fact.
We're being priced out of the housing market and being threatened with Government prospects of keeping us at home until we're 25. Unemployment levels are higher than the media would like you to think amongst the youth as if the figures weren't worrying enough already. The recent changes to the costs of further education have made the prospect of University a daunting one for many people, as the debt is now three times higher than it would have been a few year's back. High insurance costs price us out of driving, limiting our scope for employment and our general ability to get around. Travel in general has become more expensive, as has the general cost of living - something that impacts us all. All of this makes people very uncertain of their futures... anyone in a situation like that has a right to feel a bit 'woe is me' from time to time.
The silver lining is that if you can get through all of that, then the opportunities available to this generation are the best they've ever been, arguably. But I wouldn't say that any of this is an indication that they moan or act disproportionately to the rest of the population... I've met many teenagers who are thrice as mature as many people in their 50's and 60's. You just can't generalise it like that.
thats a very good point crunchy, you can't really fully know how much you have changed.
I'm 24 for the person who asked.
Ha hah hah ha!!! You win!
You maybe on to something there. To think one of my primary schools teachers was only 24, I couldn't imagine anyone I know being a teacher at that age now. Look at the current series of Celebrity Big Brother, housemates like Lee Ryan and Dappy come across much much much younger
With social media, research kinda shows that those in their teens, twenties and thirties are not far off from each other really, they just use it all slightly differently.
I know a teacher who is 24 btw.
I think what you're doing is taking an example of what people perceive an age group to be like and extending it to all when I don't think that's the case at all.
When CBB has been on, I've noticed people in their 20's on my FB basically pointing and laughing at how ridiculous they all are along with those in their 30's. So I get the impression 20 somethings have pretty much the same opinion of them as older people do.
He's 22. He doesn't have much patience which us what most teens/20s seem to have, also it's me, me, me , me a lot and the conversation has to be swung around to feature anything from the person he's speaking with.
I think people in their 20s are only just finding out what life is. Teens think they know it all, but of course they don't. I think many teens are intolerable and they bring it on themselves, maturity begins in the early 20s nowadays.
Brilliantly said.
because theres a platform to voice our opinion in a way that wasn't their before?
im 24 btw
Their self superiority, smug, pompous, self righteous attitude is 'kin irksome and their conversations are yawn inducing, as they don't have many interesting things to say, but I realize they don't have as much of a life as they used to have, and looking down on younger people is one of the few things they can enjoy in what is obviously a boring life.