As long as he tells me and I tell him later there's no problem. He works lates and wouldn't appreciate me waking him up after hes only had a couple of hours sleep to ask first thing in the morning. I just send a text so he knows.
not in the slightest bit bothered. I have occasionally had to borrow money out of his wallet when he has been asleep but I tell him later and give it back to him if he so wishes. He does the same to me.
It annoys me if he does it without saying, then for instance when I go to get money for my daughter going to school I find all my £1 coins are gone. That winds me up a bit.
Okay, a lot.
I don't have an issue with it at all. Me and my Partner have a joint bank account so what's mine is his and vice versa. As others have stated though, we would let each other know first just in case the money is required for something else and so that we don't think it has been lost or stolen.
He always asks first but I really don't mind him rummaging through my bag to get my purse. We too have a joint bank account (and a joint credit card) where both our salaries are paid into so what's mine is his and vice versa anyway. Some may find that a bit old fashioned but it works for us.
Why on Earth would somebody need to root through a partner's bag for money rather than just asking for it?
Personally, I do refuse to delve into the missus' handbag simply cos I prefer to respect her "personal stuff".
If, say, she's in bed and she asks me to fetch her reading glasses out of her bag, I'll just get the bag and let her find them for herself.
It's not that I'm worried about what I might find in there (aside from manky bits of ossified wedding cake etc - why do women often seem to have a lump of cake in their bags?) but I just don't want to go rummaging through her junk.
By the same token, the missus doesn't like rummaging through my desk drawers, simply cos she's worried I'll have books with pages marked or little bags full of computer bits sorted into a specific order etc and she doesn't want to risk jumbling anything up.
Same thing really.
See now this would annoy me. If I ask my OH for something out of my bag, I don't want my whole bag brought to me, I want the specific thing!
I have no issues with my OH going through my bag or drawers or whatever. I have nothing to hide and I know he wouldn't snoop anyway and he always asks first.
Not a problem, but as others have said it would be handy if they mention it. Lost count the times I've popped into a shop for something, only to find that £20 I though I had in my wallet is now being used as a weekly bus ticket. Is a pain because I don't tend to carry a lot of cash on me.
No it doesn't bother me in the slightest. We have separate accounts but he will quite often use my card. I keep 3 different tins in the kitchen for change, £1 and £2 coins and for £5. I noticed last night the £1 and £2 had been raided.
No it doesn't bother me in the slightest. We have separate accounts but he will quite often use my card. I keep 3 different tins in the kitchen for change, £1 and £2 coins and for £5. I noticed last night the £1 and £2 had been raided.
We do this I have my money jar and he had his but if I need a few quid or he does we borrow it from there and tell each other later on. He gives me his money to put into my bank account anyway so if I need to dip in I will do and then pay him back when I get paid.
Does anyone remember that scene in Flash Gordon where they have to stick their hands into a hollow tree stump knowing that there's a poisonous wood beast inside that could kill you painfully?
That's what it's like putting my hand in my wifes purse.
We do this I have my money jar and he had his but if I need a few quid or he does we borrow it from there and tell each other later on. He gives me his money to put into my bank account anyway so if I need to dip in I will do and then pay him back when I get paid.
The only time it really bothered me was when I was at the checkout at the supermarket with a pile of shopping, no card and only to find out my purse had been dipped that morning. . I could have killed him. He heard about it that night though. :D
If they weren't there and you needed to pay the window cleaner..
I can probably think of many more, but I'm sure you could have done so yourself.
Everyone is different though and have their own things that they are comfortable with.
My OH would ask me if I were a Golden Retriever if I did that and would be bemused if I dropped her handbag on her while she is in the middle of something like rushing with the kids lunches.
Another person may be the polar opposite so any couple will and should just slip into whatever they are comfortable with.
Quite possibly, your OH has more than one handbag right? Mine has the small handbag that she uses when she goes out out (which incidentally I would never go in) and then the big handbag which is used when she goes out.
As soon as I realised you felt that way I'd tell you to get it your-f**king-self. ;-)
Point I think was that some people would become annoyed with it, my OH would.
Also big handbag tends to have all manner of things in it, such as TV remotes and things (1 year old). So... yeah I can see how it would become annoying.
been married for 20 years do you really think I'm allowed money?
got nowt to hide so she can rummage away. At the end of the day its our money, I'll never understand married or long tern partner's with split money and accounts you pay that Bill I'll pay this one ffs, its our bills our house our money, correction her money my bills.
I think I am a little bit in love with you!! lol you have the same marriage as we do...My OH is always shocked to find he has some money left in his trousers....:)
It would be annoying if I opened my purse to get money for the pay & display, or a vending machine, and found that my husband had taken my change without asking. I think a word would be had!
He would ask beforehand out of courtesy though, or tell me he'd done it if it was an emergency. He'd probably offer to put the money back so as not to inconvenience me.
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I can probably think of many more, but I'm sure you could have done so yourself.
Okay, a lot.
See now this would annoy me. If I ask my OH for something out of my bag, I don't want my whole bag brought to me, I want the specific thing!
I have no issues with my OH going through my bag or drawers or whatever. I have nothing to hide and I know he wouldn't snoop anyway and he always asks first.
"Have you got any change?"
"Yes"
"Where is it?"
"In my purse"
"Where is that?"
"In my handbag"
"Yes, where is your handbag?" >:(
And would the bag's owner not be there to ask?
Oh, it wouldn't become annoying.
As soon as I realised you felt that way I'd tell you to get it your-f**king-self. ;-)
We'd be a match made in heaven, clearly!
We do this I have my money jar and he had his but if I need a few quid or he does we borrow it from there and tell each other later on. He gives me his money to put into my bank account anyway so if I need to dip in I will do and then pay him back when I get paid.
That's what it's like putting my hand in my wifes purse.
The only time it really bothered me was when I was at the checkout at the supermarket with a pile of shopping, no card and only to find out my purse had been dipped that morning.
Everyone is different though and have their own things that they are comfortable with.
My OH would ask me if I were a Golden Retriever if I did that and would be bemused if I dropped her handbag on her while she is in the middle of something like rushing with the kids lunches.
Another person may be the polar opposite so any couple will and should just slip into whatever they are comfortable with.
Quite possibly, your OH has more than one handbag right? Mine has the small handbag that she uses when she goes out out (which incidentally I would never go in) and then the big handbag which is used when she goes out.
Point I think was that some people would become annoyed with it, my OH would.
Also big handbag tends to have all manner of things in it, such as TV remotes and things (1 year old). So... yeah I can see how it would become annoying.
I think I am a little bit in love with you!! lol you have the same marriage as we do...My OH is always shocked to find he has some money left in his trousers....:)
He would ask beforehand out of courtesy though, or tell me he'd done it if it was an emergency. He'd probably offer to put the money back so as not to inconvenience me.